100 days

[GreySkySummer]

I’m going to aim for no booze for 100 days which will take me to early December, would anyone like to join me?

This will be a massive challenge for me- I’ve been drinking a lot every day. I failed at dry Jan this year, and have had another couple of attempts which have gone south. I’m taking it very seriously this time and going to really do all the other things to try and make it work.

My drinking has slowly crept up over the last 5 years and I’m now really scaring myself and I feel so ashamed. I drink over a bottle of wine a day and keep a lot of it secret from my dp- I just feel totally disgusted with myself.

Anyway enough of the pity party- I’m hoping this will be a really positive experience and would love some company!

@Flowersareblue a Friday and Saturday check in sounds very sensible.

im quite safe tonight as not home until 7, as long as I eat straight away I should miss my cravings. They seem worst from 4-6ish. But I’m in the same boat a you @Namewitheldagain tomorrow - dp’s out and would usually drink wuite a bit

Sorry missed your post @BackToBasics1808 sounds like you did well to moderate this week.

For me moderation is not an option, I may be able to have a couple of weeks of just drinking at the weekend or having 1 or 2 a night but it very quickly escalates.

I think some people can moderate but they’re also the kind of people who don’t give alcohol much head space in general, if you see what I mean?

I tried to post blog post by Claire Pooley called the obstacle course but mumsnet would let me!
Its all about the early days of sobriety being very hard, I found it really useful.

sorry for the multiple posts!

@GreySkySummer I'll look that up that blog post, it really does feel like an obstacle course currently. And I know I can't moderate - every time I give in to buying a bottle of wine I tell myself it'll last a few days. But no, of course it doesn't. I seldom drink excessively in company, but living alone is fraught with temptations. Safe Friday, everyone.

I'm on day 61 and just popping into say to all those currently struggling that it does get easier. But you have to stick to it and really bat away that wine witch constantly especially in the beginning.

Yes it is an obstacle course at the beginning as mentioned above and it's the most difficult part. Moderating also rarely if ever works for anyone who struggles to moderate. Moderate drinking only really is for those that just are not bothered about drink very much and don't give it much thought at all. It's actually easier just to say no to drinking and to stick to it rather than constantly bargain with yourself and then fail.

Thanks @Kipperandarthur for your advice. It's good to hear from those who.have 'been there'. I'm rapidly learning that I need to keep saying no - to myself as well as others.

Hi all. Happy Friday.

Ive been thinking about moderating a lot too. It simply isn’t something I can do. I have done periods of no drinking at all a few times but once I have one, I will keep going until it’s all gone. I’m not currently saying I’ll never drink again but I’m starting to accept that I can’t moderate so who knows.

really struggling tonight. Not lost any weight and not magically feeling great. Husband has gone out which would usually be classic wine time. So sorely tempted to swing by the shop. Got to take the kids to their dads later and will pass many wine buying opportunities. Just feeling meh.

@Namewitheldagain can you play it forward- think how nice it’ll be waking up hangover free tomorrow. You’ll be so proud of yourself

@Flowersareblue amd everyone else how are you doing this Friday night?

I got home from work at 7 and eating my dinner now and not really craving anything now.

Being bored, being stressed and being hungry are all definitely triggers for me

eta just tagged flowers as know you wanted
a check in. I care about you all though!

Dropped this dc with their dad and managed to get home without going to any shops! Quickly put my pjs on to avoid temptation to go out again.

determined to get up and run in the morning. Running is my ultimate mood boost and I’ve just been too lethargic lately.

day 20 done.

I went to bed at 8:30pm. Live on my own. Had a tonic water with ice. Just very tired tonight. To the previous poster - good luck with the running. I have tennis tomorrow. A new sport for me.

Morning all, I slept terribly- really restless all night. When I’ve have sober stints more I remember struggling to go off but then having really solid restful feeling sleep.
Despite this I’m feeling pretty good this morning, anxiety seems to be lifting a bit and so glad I’m not hungover

Happy weekend all

Morning. I woke up at about seven and let the dog out and made a cup of tea. Drank that then just fell back asleep until now. I’m so lacking in energy. I really thought I’d be feeling better!

i am 38. I am a healthy weight albeit my clothes are getting a bit tight lately and id like to lose half a stone just because feel better at that weight. I store all my weight on my tummy which I know is unhealthy.

i have quite a stressful job in a school. I work long hours averaging fifty a week in school. I’m doing some additional study at the mo which means five to eight hours work over the weekend.

do you think life is just tiring? or should I be worried that I wake up every morning tired. Do I need to give it more time and the magical sober energy will come?

Decided to improve my diet from today and whatever it takes I will get up and run.

wow @Namewitheldagain that’s a lot of hours, no wonder you’re so tired. I work half those hours and feel knackered most of the time.
I also think our bodies are working extra hard at the moment repairing all the damage we’ve done with the drink. Plus school’s must be germ central at the moment. Be kind to yourself.

Dp’s out tonight and I’m still nice and sober. Earlier in the week I was a bit worried the temptation would get me, I had a fleeting thought around half 5 which passed. Looking forward to an earlier night

How’s everyone else getting on?

Husband’s out too. At a wedding of a colleague- no plus ones. I’m glad. Don’t think I’d have coped well sober at a wedding where I didn’t know anyone when my not drinking still takes a lot of effort. The bonus is that because I knew I wouldn’t be drinking, I took the day off to just relax and rest knowing I’d leave my uni work until 5pm when dh went out. Usually I’d have though sod it and opening wine but I’ve been highly productive and written the next section of my essay (one more section left!). There are two bottles of wine downstairs and I am sorely tempted but going to put new sheets on the bed and have an early night.

today I managed to run 7.5km which is the first time in months I’ve been running. I also ate a gorgeous healthy breakfast, took a vitamin and made homemade soup so I’m feeling good in myself.

well done everyone on another day x

How was tennis @Blastedusername?

I think it’s a good idea to rest as much as you can when coming off booze; for some reason it’s tiring.

I had a swim today and made soup so pretty wholesome; but I skipped seeing friends on Friday as they were meeting at the pub…

@Namewitheldagain sounds like you're doing fine! Working in education is exhausting, I was there for many years, which contributed to my drinking habit unfortunately. I'm now struggling to give up in spite of retirement as it's become more than just a habit. Hoping the support on here helps us all!

Hope everyone’s doing ok.

I’m at the end of my first totally sober weekend since February. Feel proud but also a bit flat too, really craved a glass of wine to boost my spirits earlier. I guess it’s just normal Sunday blues but I’m used to covering it up with a few glasses.

Well done @GreySkySummer ! Real progress. I’ve just done day 22. Made a bit of a commitment to eating healthy food but with a focus on feeling good rather than being skinny. Hope I feel the difference soon!

Hello. I didn’t make it to tennis. I had grazed my hand rugby tackling an escapee bulldog. ( dog had no collar and was happily trotting towards the main road as I was travelling past in my car. )
The owner turned up in his car 5 minutes later, so all good.

Good morning All and Happy Monday! Its the start of a brand new week!
Had friends staying for the weekend and although I didn't stay on the 0% fully it wasn't a lost weekend like it would normally
Friday I didn't do well - had a few wines and woke up Saturday - not hungover - but just that pit in the stomach feeling - i felt I tried really hard all last week and let myself down at the first test. Went for a lovely meal and had a couple of gin's with that then came home and both of us went on the 0% gin for the rest of the day so woke up yesterday feeling much better!
I don't think i can moderate - well not for a long time anyway - once you have one the voices take over and '1 more won't hurt' turn into 'a lot more wont hurt'
So - line drawn, back to the beginning and off I go again!
Well done to all those who have got through this weekend 😀
@Blastedusername hope your hand is ok!!

Nice one @Blastedusername; I hope the owner was grateful…

I’m on day 15 but still not really going out. I’m going to a gig tomorrow which usually means pints. Tomorrow it’s going to be ginger beer.

Love to all; you’re doing great

Hi I’ve just found this. I’m on day 15 so started the same day as you. How is everyone feeling? I’m still getting cravings but the sleep is amazing and I’m generally feeling better. It’s strange it creeps up on you slowly. My mood is up and down but I’m 41 and pre menstrual 🤣

Also I started divorce proceedings in November 2024 and started drinking a bottle of wine almost every night then my tolerance got so high I could go into the second bottle on an empty stomach. I’d barely remember going to bed then I’d wake up at 3/4 am with a racing heart and not be able to sleep until work the next day. Then I’d work 8-6 and do it all again the next night!!!! Madness. I am missing the brain numbing effects of alcohol though. Feeling the feelings can be hard! But every time I win against a craving I feel so proud xx

Welcome to the 100 club @malazzie. Sounds like you’ve gone through difficult times lately. Is the divorce ongoing still? I’m very chuffed to be 15 days sober and you should be tooX