34 hours sober

[StartingOverIn2025]

I'm doing it. I have been sober for 34 hours. How pathetic is that to be cheering myself for, but it is the longest I have been sober in probably the last 6 months. I have downloaded a support group app, and have my first virtual group this evening.

I didn't hit rock bottom, but I want better for myself and my family. I can't let history repeat itself. My father was alcoholic too and it was pure hell. Solidarity to anyone else going through similar.

Congratulations OP on your achievement. I’m doing Dry January and smashing it so far. Whenever I get cravings, I remember how shit I feel the next day and all the other damage I’m doing. Not to mention the money and the wasted calories.
Day 13 and I’m feeling good. I’m determined that this year is the year for me, and that I can go out too and have a glass of wine and it not turn into two bottles!
Keep going, you’re doing great

@StartingOverIn2025 I'm going to copy and paste what I wrote on the dry January thread.

"So, I'm another one who drank over the weekend. In a weird way, I'm glad I did. I'll explain. I was dreading the weekend because I really look forward to chilling with wine and watching TV. Friday night I was fine. Then Saturday brought two lots of very bad news. Saturday night I was child free and very sad, and decided to have wine. I don't think I was even craving it. I had about a bottle and a half of wine, and even beforehand I was thinking it might help to remind myself just how crap I feel afterwards. Anyway, it's definitely done that. I still feel rotten, it was totally not worth it. I feel even more sure now that long term abstinence is right for me. I don't even feel like I'm going to struggle now (I'm well aware this might not be the case)."

I know it's really hard, but honestly I still feel completely crap after drinking on Saturday night. It's really strengthened my resolve now.

Thank you. I have a Yorkshire gold tea and a sleepy tea with honey, I know I would have regretted it.

Well done, I'm willing to bet this is a step you never thought you'd manage - until you did. Now you know you can. Have the earliest night you can, and feel very proud of yourself xx

@StartingOverIn2025 sounds like a horrendous day and I totally get how you nearly ordered some! Well done that you didn’t!

You're doing SO well OP. Sending you all the strength I have

Hi, hope you're still feeling positive even when f you're starting day one again.
Update us, OP

*Even IF you're back at day one 🙄

We're all behind you, OP.

Have a read of this, he's a relative of mine.
recoveryboy.blog/

superb.keep going.when i stopped my red wine i replaced drinking it....with ribena...through a straw(no) idea why.whatever it takes.best wishes

Hello all, day 9 and I'm still standing and still sober 🧍‍♀️ 🙂

I had a wobbly day again yesterday, it kind of feels like a 'when' rather than an 'if' that it's going to happen and I'll give in to the sneaky little voice, but I'm trying my best.

I have another virtual support group this evening, hopefully that will be as helpful as this thread has been.

Daughter of an alcoholic here. Very proud of you. The wobbles are real and hard. You are doing brilliantly.

Don’t focus on the numbers, just on staying sober for the next day (or hour… or whatever it takes). You’re doing really well.

You got this @StartingOverIn2025 Day by day you’re breaking the habit and will start to replace it with healthy habits - I’ve changed the word for wine in my head when I think about it to poison, which technically it is, really is helping actually. No one fancies a cheeky glass of poison do they!

Keep going! You're doing so well. Smash that habit.

Well bloody done OP!! And everyone else who is fighting the fight. As someone said upthread, you became addicted to a highly addictive substance. That is all - its not a personality flaw, you’re a good person that drinks companies can exploit. How are you feeling now?

If you’re feeling wobbly @StartingOverIn2025 think about all the things you’ve gained already.
How much money you saved not placing those orders.
How much extra proper, restorative sleep you’ve had.
The activities and things you’ve been able to get done in the evening.
Any other goals you were considering.

I had a moment of relief last night, realising that even though DH had a drink, I didn’t want one. I didn’t feel any resentment or sadness about it, just thought ok, I’m happy with the squash I’ve got here. That was new for me.
I was also pleasantly surprised to see I had lost 1.5 lbs since last Wednesday. There are so many calories in wine! The biscuits probably offset some of that but the sweet food craving is reducing now too. I’m focusing on those small wins when I think oh, wouldn’t a drink be nice now.

What is today’s small win for you? Hold it in your mind, you can do this x

Sending best wishes OP. The wobbly days - and nights - will happen. Please know that we are standing with you when they do, although of course only you can do this, for you.

It may feel like 'When, rather then if' but you can always delay the when for another day, another week . . .and that tally of days will keep mounting. 9 days is brilliant. Here's hoping that you made it to 10 and can keep moving 1 day at a time.

If not, you now know that you can stop and get to at least 9 days - every day sober is a win for your liver and a day closer to a new, more peaceful life. Best of luck

Try not to think too far ahead is advice I heard given to someone struggling.
Just decide that today you won't have a drink.
One day at a time is very much their mantra.

Thanks for all the ongoing support, I have had a much stronger day today 💪

Amazing work. Now you know you can overcome the wobbles. Give yourself something really lovely to eat/do/read/etc today to reward yourself.

Thank you ❤️

I have fallen day 13. Day 1 again tomorrow. Sorry, I hope to do better next time.

Every dry day counts OP. Well done on those days, put them in the bank and start again tomorrow. Good luck!

Don't start over, just continue, this was a blip & it's extremely common OP, just forgive yourself and move on . Keep going 💪