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16 year old DD drinking problems

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annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 16:40

I’m sorry that I keep talking about my DD but right now she is going through a lot and turns out it is too much for me and DH to handle.

DD likes to drink a lot, and when she does she drinks too much she blacks out. Once we have had to take her to the hospital as she was threatening to kill herself. At this point we all ( DH and our 3 other children) feel absolutely helpless and cannot seem to find ways to help her as she is experiencing too many problems at once. She currently attends CAMHS and has been for the past year or so. They seem to help her but she lies to make herself seem better when we all know she is not stable and hasn’t been for a while now. We do not know how or where she acquires the alcohol but it is very worrying as she could be doing anything to get it. Please help!!

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Villssev · 31/03/2023 16:43

I would be particularly concerned with the “how”.

the entire situation sounds incredibly concerning

Villssev · 31/03/2023 16:43

I take it she doesn’t attend school?

anyolddinosaur · 31/03/2023 16:50

gps can prescribe antabuse (disulfiram) to help alcoholics but she would have to accept she needs help.

lorisparkle · 31/03/2023 17:20

That sounds incredibly stressful. In our area we have a charity that offers groups for parents of teenager to meet and talk. I am hoping that it will help DH and I with DS2.

2023forme · 31/03/2023 17:40

anyolddinosaur · 31/03/2023 16:50

gps can prescribe antabuse (disulfiram) to help alcoholics but she would have to accept she needs help.

I’m on disulfiram but where I live it can only be prescribed by a psychiatrist, not a GP. But yes, she would absolutely need to be committed 100% to stopping as if she did drink whilst on it, it could be life threatening.

@annierodgers1 - does she want to stop? It’s a truly horrendous situation for your family and for your DD, but at 16, there’s maybe not a lot you can do. Have you got any support for yourself eg al anon?

grayhairdontcare · 31/03/2023 17:43

The "getting the alcohol " is the concerning part.
Whois buying it for her and why?

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annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 18:03

I only buy her alcohol (echo falls) around every two weeks for parties, but only when she attends parties as I don’t like the thought of her drinking in the streets as it is extremely dangerous.

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annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 18:05

We currently don’t really have support as she attends CAMHS once a week, one week for counselling for mental health and the other week for her eating disorder ( bulimia ). We are not sure whether to get her help as if we do, obviously we will have to discuss it with her and she will probably end up having an argument with us as she wouldn’t want to go, it’s a very difficult situation we are in.

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annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 18:06

She currently does not attend school and hasn’t been since the start of year 11, around september/october, as she struggles with depression and anxiety.

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annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 18:07

Yes, I am also terrified too.

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annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 18:07

I will have a conversation with the GP about this.

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annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 18:07

What does DS2 mean?

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Killingmytime · 31/03/2023 18:09

Sorry op but you buy her booze?

Villssev · 31/03/2023 18:11

annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 18:03

I only buy her alcohol (echo falls) around every two weeks for parties, but only when she attends parties as I don’t like the thought of her drinking in the streets as it is extremely dangerous.

WTF Op?

come on now

Villssev · 31/03/2023 18:12

She’s going to parties every fortnight
doesn’t go to school
who’s having these regular parties

lorisparkle · 31/03/2023 18:12

Sorry- DS2 is my middle son. He has anxiety and barely leaves the house so my husband and I are looking for additional support. In our area the charity is called TIC+ . They were lovely when all the issues first started and offered counselling for him and us prior to support from CAMHS.

Nailsandthesea · 31/03/2023 18:14

Stop buying her alcohol and stop letting her go to parties

Andanotherone01 · 31/03/2023 18:16

Why are you buying her alcohol? Why is she going to parties every couple of weeks, where you know there will be alcohol? Are you parenting her at all?

CockSpadget · 31/03/2023 18:18

You are buying your 16 year old mentally unwell daughter (who is abusing alcohol) wine? Yeah, this isn’t real, but if it is you need your kids taking off you.

WeeOrcadian · 31/03/2023 18:25

Hold TF on.

She struggles with poor mental health. She doesn't attend school. You buy her alcohol for parties she attends. And you wonder what you can do?

If this is real, I hope someone reports you to SS.

Briallen · 31/03/2023 18:26

Maybe stop buying her the bottles of wine then…

Reinventinganna · 31/03/2023 18:33

We are not sure whether to get her help as if we do, obviously we will have to discuss it with her and she will probably end up having an argument with us as she wouldn’t want to go, it’s a very difficult situation we are in.

I’m not actually sure that you are genuine as I can’t believe anyone is stupid enough to give alcohol to their child who is struggling with an alcohol problem and a mental health condition and also stupid enough to be unsure about getting her help.

If you are genuine I suggest calling social services for help for all of you.

mathanxiety · 31/03/2023 20:12

You need to get her to see a psychiatrist. She has at least two mental health problems that require psychiatric care.

She's clearly self medicating. You need to stop buying her alcohol and she needs to stop the partying.

Do whatever it takes to get her to see a psychiatrist.

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annierodgers1 · 31/03/2023 23:23

For everyone commenting this, I only bought her wine before I knew about all of her problems !!!!

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monsteramunch · 31/03/2023 23:24

To be fair OP, this comment sounded very present tense and very regular.

I only buy her alcohol (echo falls) around every two weeks for parties, but only when she attends parties as I don’t like the thought of her drinking in the streets as it is extremely dangerous.