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Alcohol support

Beyond Dry January - moderators and 100 dayers DJ#3

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MyGhastIsFlabbered · 21/02/2021 11:02

New thread to take us beyond February. Pull up a chair, make yourselves comfortable...let's do this!

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PeacheyPeach · 25/05/2021 11:20

@cocolady don't see it as a fail see it as the Kickstarter to your AF journey!
I was like you at the beginning of the year, bored of drinking, developed a high tolerance towards it, was drinking just out of habit.
I found dry January really helped it really helped me to reset , the idea of drinking in the week now is alien to me I just don't even think about it. I do have that little niggling feeling at the weekends so I make a plan if I'm going to have a drink or not and then I will stick to it so I feel in control.
It can be done !!!


CocoLady · 25/05/2021 19:38

Thanks for your reply @PeacheyPeach ! I'm really starting to think have I got a problem ?!
Would you suggest a 30 day break then maybe to reset my habit ? Did it help you ? Thanks xx


PeacheyPeach · 25/05/2021 21:15

@cocolady everyone is different but I found having that break gave me the mind space to feel differently when it came to wanting a drink. I originally planned to just do dry Jan butnit actually turned into 4 months! Before I had spent every night having a drink, usually a bottle of wine followed by vodka, this was every night. ,now since having a few months not drinking I've lost that desire to want to drink every night. Maybe give yourself a little goal


CocoLady · 25/05/2021 23:13

Yes ! That's such a good idea ! I want to TTC soon too so this is my motivation, but it's my birthday in two weeks and after I'm going to have a month off ! Thanks so much everyone and @PeacheyPeach x hope everyone doing ok keep checking in xx


PeacheyPeach · 28/05/2021 23:34

Hope everyone is doing ok x and whatever you have planned for the weekend.AF or moderating goes well ๐Ÿฅฐ


Hohofortherobbers · 29/05/2021 21:29

Hi there, went to a bbq today and shared a bottle of prosecco with a friend. Not my usual tipple so was quite easy to stop after half a bottle and switch to soft drinks. If I'd been on the red wine I'd have been drinking it all myself and would probably therefore have had the whole bottle. Feeling fine about it, I wasn't drunk, just had a sensible moderate drink.


MyGhastIsFlabbered · 29/05/2021 21:41

Hello all. Sorry I'm a bit merry today because it's a year since DP proposed...and though he's a guy and difficult at times I do still love him and want to marry him.

But I feel guilty I've neglected you all. I started this thread and I've not been on for ages. I know you're all big enough to carry on with out me but I kind of think of you all as friends and see our little group as my 'baby'

Anyway I'm drunkenly rambling. I'll stop again

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Haggisfish · 29/05/2021 23:43

@MyGhastIsFlabberedGrin hello! Glad you are ok.


TSBelliot · 05/06/2021 22:09

I have popped in to say bye - this is a really positive post, especially for anyone who isnโ€™t sure they can do it. I am largely tee total and feeling so little urge to drink. I am having the odd night out but have stopped at home completely. My recycling is much more virtuous. I am surprised bt the degree of change - the abstained here really set that bar high but somehow my whole perspective has shifted. Am now climbing again so that should keep me motivated to keep improving my fitness


TSBelliot · 05/06/2021 22:10

Forgot to say thank you all ๐Ÿ‘


Haggisfish · 06/06/2021 00:02

Thatโ€™s fab @TSBelliot! Iโ€™m getting there.


TSBelliot · 06/06/2021 00:15

Brilliant Haggisfish keep on getting there:)


Hohofortherobbers · 06/06/2021 08:02

Well done @tsbelliot, great you feel such a big shift on your mindset. I had a little blip this week after my moderate drink at bbq last weekend, we had a lovely day out by the coast on Wednesday and it was such a perfect day I decided to round it off with wine, half bottle of red that night, I was hot and dehydrated and shouldn't have done it, slept atrociously and felt headachy enough to get up and take ibuprofen at 4am. Wished I'd just celebrated my perfect day with a sparkling water. So I'm sticking here for now. So I'm glad to have company @Haggisfish.


PeacheyPeach · 07/06/2021 10:16

@tsbelliot well done lovely it's fabulous to that you have achieved what you set out to do. Pop in for a catch up though whenever ๐Ÿ˜
So I had a lovely evening on Saturday with friends but had one more glass of wine than I should have oo i felt poorly all day yesterday what an absolute waste of a day. I ate my body weight in in junk and couldnt move off the sofa , onwards and upwards this week I'm not doing that again, !!


Hohofortherobbers · 14/06/2021 20:07

Hi there, been quiet here recently, who do we still have with us? I had a bottle of delicious, expensive, shiraz over the weekend, as it is so infrequent I drink I decided to double my usual price point. Enjoyed it immensely. And back to dry now.


CocoLady · 15/06/2021 19:25

Hello not sure what happened but I'm lurking! How are U managing with being dry ?

I've got back into a habit where I am drinking from weekends to week nights and struggling to moderate! I'm listening to a few quit lit books right now that I started years ago but didn't complete! So I'm trying to educate myself! X


PeacheyPeach · 15/06/2021 23:15

Hi all just thought I'd pop on and say hi x
@hohofortherobbers wine sounds delicious and a real treat for you.
Ive had a few drinks over the weekend but nothing in the week and it doesn't even enter my head to have a drink, so I'm pleased with that because I feel like I'm an actual grown up now who only drinks within a social setting! I can't remember the last time I actually drank in the house either as I'm only socializing in the garden!! Gone are the days of me necking back wine in my PJ's!!


MyGhastIsFlabbered · 17/06/2021 06:47

Hi everyone. Sorry I've been missing. Just so busy at the moment. Anyway, my levels have been creeping up but I'm trying to lose weight so I've said I'm not drinking until my birthday next month. We'll see!

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teelizzy · 17/06/2021 07:04

Hi all. I need to get back on my sober horse as things have gone sideways over the last 2 months. Family life has been stressful to put it mildly and I am so ground down by unending WFH.

But I really do need to get a grip on my drinking again. I can't slide yet again.


MyGhastIsFlabbered · 18/06/2021 22:11

It's Friday night, I've unexpectedly got the kids here and have had to sit through the football...haves I caved? No I have not, I'm still sober.

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ohnomesandwiches · 02/07/2021 14:35

Hello. How is everyone doing.

I really need to stop drinking so much. I drink about three quarters of a bottle of wine a night through the week and more at weekends. I feel awful and I've gained weight.

I struggle to sleep if I haven't had anything to drink.

Any advice or words of encouragement would be appreciated.


MyGhastIsFlabbered · 14/09/2021 20:21

Hello everyone. Sorry I've been caught up in real life and my AF journey has come to an abrupt stop for now. But I wanted to share some happy news/photos...on Friday I finally got married.

Beyond Dry January - moderators and 100 dayers DJ#3
Beyond Dry January - moderators and 100 dayers DJ#3
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Hohofortherobbers · 14/09/2021 20:53

Many congratulations! You look beautiful and happy with your handsome husband. I'm over on the mindfulness and moderating thread if you fancy coming on over when you're ready xx


PeacheyPeach · 14/09/2021 22:58

Aww wow congratulations ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

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