Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention; if you think your problem could be acute, do so immediately. Even qualified doctors can't diagnose over the internet, so do bear that in mind when seeking or giving advice.
Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention; if you think your problem could be acute, do so immediately. Even qualified doctors can't diagnose over the internet, so do bear that in mind when seeking or giving advice.
Alcohol support
Sad
ncsad · 25/01/2021 07:23
Oh god. I need to stop drinking.
I feel so sad today. How is this my life. I hate myself
GalOopNorth · 25/01/2021 07:26
Hey
This was me a year ago. Now a year dry. So much happier.
If you want to stop, come on over to the Dry thread. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself.
GalOopNorth · 25/01/2021 07:27
ncsad · 25/01/2021 07:32
I'm scared and embarrassed and just crying hysterically
Drybird2020 · 25/01/2021 07:33
You can stop. You can live differently. You can have more time, energy, better sleep, better skin/weight /hair, better moods. You won't be sad all the time but you will feel your feelings, for real, without booze to make them. Like @GalOopNorth I stopped a year ago and my only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Make this your day 1. Good luck. 😊
IronNeonClasp · 25/01/2021 07:39
I stopped a year ago and this has been my best year. I didn't know that I can't drink like 'normal' people and I abused drink and myself. I couldn't break the cycle and was sick of feeling anxious. It's life-changing not to be gripped in the cycle anymore.
Might be worth you looking into a program to help 
ncsad · 25/01/2021 07:41
Please keep talking to me. I don't want to lose everything
GalOopNorth · 25/01/2021 07:44
Do you want to talk about what happened? X
We all of us on the Dry thread have awful stories of embarrassment, humiliation and horror from our drinking days.
Lobsterquadrille2 · 25/01/2021 07:47
Hi OP, I've been a 24/7 drinker. I could wake at any time of the day or night and reach for the bottle. I hated drinking and yet couldn't imagine stopping. I felt fear, isolation, despair and could see no future. I have been sober for 13 years, but I still recall how I felt then. The journey starts with a single step - of a day at a time seems too much, think of the next hour. A whole new life awaits you, free of the mental anguish that alcohol brings (your life issues will be there still, but you will be much better equipped to deal with them).
ncsad · 25/01/2021 07:48
I don't drink every day at all, I just get completely ruined when I do
Smiledwiththerisingsun · 25/01/2021 09:07
Today is a new day @ncsad
Please be kind to yourself.
Some suggestions:
Order some sober reading?
The Sober Diaries
Love Yourself Sober
The Unexpected Joy of being Sober
Sign up to all the supportive sober communities/ blogs/ pages. Just read all about people who have stopped & how they did it.
Look after yourself.
Walk in the sunshine.
Do some yoga.
Take a bath.
Make delicious food.
Drink tea.
Watch a film.
Nap (if possible)
Go to bed early.
Forgive yourself & move on towards looking after you
ncsad · 25/01/2021 09:43
Thank you. I'll download some books today.
I don't even think I can get out of bed right now.
ncsad · 25/01/2021 09:49
My DH is at work, but he's wonderful and supportive.
GalOopNorth · 25/01/2021 10:34
Find ways to be kind to yourself.
Get a coffee (if you like it), get on Amazon and order a couple of books 📚
Crying is fine. Maybe write it all down to look back at in a year when your life has changed!
FastFood · 25/01/2021 15:03
Hey OP, how are you feeling now?
It's okay if you have a crying day in bed.
I remember when I was 21, I had a chat with a very nice homeless man and he told me that he had liver disease (due to alcohol) so he couldn't drink anymore.
I was so scared that one day I would be the one who couldn't drink anymore, I imagined a life of deprivation, restriction, no more fun etc...
Last year, I decided to do Dry January and kept going and here I am, sober for over a year now.
I was so wrong about what a life without alcohol would look like. Not at all.the boring dull life i imagined when I was 21. Quite the opposite.
And overall, no more crippling anxiety, no more shame, minor embarassement at worse, but without beating myself up for hours.
I seriously feel like I'm finally managing my brain.
Just to say that if you decide to stay sober, what awaits you can be absolutely fantastic.
Take care x
(Ps: Was a binger like you, no daily urge but no off switch either)
ncsad · 25/01/2021 15:14
Thank you for your messages, I'm feeling a bit better. DH is on his way home and I'm dying for a big hug.
That's amazing that you've done a year. I've hit a point where I think I know I have to stop completely. I obviously can't drink like a normal person. I just can't. Did you find Christmas and special occasions hard?
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.