Wankerbastards standing together. Moderatin' may take a hit while around us things are shit. But we stand arm in arm, heart to heart but a respectable 2 meters apart.

[Frouby]

Thread 10 for the tryers.

All welcome for support and tips and chat about controlling our relationship with alcohol.

Previous threads knocking around.

No rules except we don't do politics about the C word. And because there is so many other C word chats we ask that we limit mention of it once a day for things that are worrying, followed up by a positively Pollyanna point about something nice about the situation.

Morning all - really can not be arsed today. Work, meh. House, meh. Homeschool, meh.
Maybe I need to do some mindfulness or something. Find the joy. It's there, I know it is. I'm just feeling exceptionally lazy, which results in feeling wishy washy.

Oh Dion I wish there was a way we could have you over there.

I know... so much I could say on there that I can't say on a public forum!!

dion so sad you can't join us. But we can still chat on here.

Been doing bastarding paperwork all day while the kitchen where I was working became The Place to hang out. Kids, dog, husband. Even the bloody pigeon was tapping on the window to come in.

Just made dh and ds come for a walk round the lake with the dog though so that blew the cobwebs away a bit. And worked up a thirst. Am only have 1 beer and possibly a glass of wine later with my omelette. Dh was supposed to be cooking but an omelette is beyond his capabilities apparently. Fuck my fucking life. Can hear the dcs squabbling in the kitchen, dh sat with a face like a slapped arse and I just want to get back to normality.

Will be so glad when dh goes back to work next Tuesday. It's a bit scary but if he doesn't he will lose the plot. Or I will. He's not coping at all well. He's spent the last 14 years whining he's tired. Now he's got the opportunity to relax and chill the fuck out he's still fucking moaning.

Am so glad I got into uni. Am never retiring to live with him full time.

Madame, I reckon it was this programme

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b05wdfhk

Nfw can I watch it! Too scared.

Dionysa, I wish we could find a way to add you. 💐

Frouby, lol at not retiring

Day 2 AF here, day 3 in April. Dh is making chicken thai green curry with broccoli and green beans, looking forward to it. Intend to retire to my room afterwards to avoid temptation although no cold wine so I reckon I’ll be able to.

@dollface19 3 days AF is great, well done. Do you feel any better? I have loads more energy today after even just a night AF.

Water thanks for the link - I remember seeing that years ago but couldn't remember the bit about drinking every day. I might have to re-watch to remind myself!
AF last night and feel so much better this morning even with only 7 hours sleep.
Dollface did you manage another night?

Dion how are you doing?

NC4 can you get out and do an hour's exercise today?I'm sure that would help you feel better.

Running out of paint here And this is week 4 of lockdown so I'm going to have to colour my own hair as the roots are coming through. No chance of a hairdresser for another month at least.

I might go and buy some paint today in case i get really bored. And those veggies frouby is encouraging me to plant.

Day 3 AF today, if I manage it which I think I will, no cold wine in the house. Slept from 1am - 9.30 and feel quite good today. So I’m motivated to keep going. I am fantasising about doing the rest of April AF but I’m not sure that’s realistic. I know I’ll be pleased with myself if I do though. Contemplating listening to that hypnosis thing again, it seemed to work in November.

Dion, how are you? I hope everyone else is ok.

Madame, my roots are coming through. They’re looking awful. Really white!! So I got myself some ‘wow colour’. Comes with a brush and you literally brush it on your roots. Lasts between shampoos, so not bad. And it’s waterproof.

Water - that’s pretty epic. I can’t even plan one sodding night, let alone a month!! Your Thai curry and veg sounds incredible!!

Dion - I so wish we could find a way. How are you doing lovely? Are you managing to get some fresh air in order to refresh a little? Sending you lots of love

Flossie I bought a colour at the beginning of lockdown because I knew I wouldn't see my hairdresser for 6 weeks at least. I can do most of it myself but not the back underneath, DH or DDwill help with that I hope!

Water well done on day 3 AF - I did Day 2 last night, nearly had a wobble when preparing dinner but stayed strong and didn't give in. Slept soooo well despite the big moon (which was sadly hidden by clouds) so feel good this morning.

Found out the rules have been relaxed on buying plants you can go on to eat so I'm going to start a little veggie plot as well Longest.

Bedding plants are still forbidden so I think window boxes might be tomatoes and salade this year...

I have hair dye on order but not received- my roots are terrible!

Day 4 AF here if I don’t drink tonight, which I won’t. And day 5 in April, day 50 in 2020. Which isn’t great, as we’re 99 days in, (IS THAT ALL?!) so only just over 50% and my units are still far too high when I do drink so I need to work on that.

But I slept well, my house is relatively clean and tidy and my family are all ok so I feel happy this morning 🙂

Oh Water I hope your hair dye arrives soon!
At least people can't see me too much, except online for my english lessons via video conference.
I need to sort out my eyebrows too, the lockdown is a good opportunity to let them grow back, the last time they were waxed in a salon they were too thin. With the menopause the external part of my brows is disappearing. My legs too are virtually hairless.
I've just calculated my April AF days too, and I'm on day 5 today too
So 5 out of 8 not bad at all considering lockdown and my previous drinking habits so far this year, which was generally no more than one or two days AF a week.

My roots are desperate but I can't be arsed to message hairdresser yet.

Dh is driving me bloody mad. He can't settle to anything, mooches around, makes fucking mess everywhere, gets up at 5.30am every day, wants to be on allotment by 9am then flops around all afternoon moaning that he's bored. He's more hassle than both bloody kids.

He was making a cooked breakfast at 8.30am this morning ffs. Then washed half the pots and wandered about the hosue muttering. Silly fucker.

Have just hoovered and cleaned kitchen, am having a coffee while ds gets dressed then he and dh can fook off to the allotment for an hour while I start decorating our bedroom again. I would tell dh to do it but he is more a chuck the paint in the general vicinity of where he wants it to be than applying it properly. And I can't cope with the mess or splodgy bits. Hiping to get walls and skirting board finished today and an undercoat on the bedroom furniture I am shabby shitting 😂😂😂. Really wanted new furniture this year but fucking Corona.

Day 5 AF completed, day 50 overall.

Well done too Madame.

Frouby, you are doing well to decorate, I usually do 5 minutes and get bored.

Water thanks! Day 3 AF in the bag, day 4 today. Hopefully.I thought you were on day 4 as I was one day behind you? Or are you counting from 1st April? I've forgotten how to count days as it's been so long since I've had a few days consecutive AF!

Can I join please? I’m not an alcoholic, no where near but I do drink too much. Most days mainly to ease the stress of been a single parent of 3. I used to pour myself a glass of wine /g&t around 4pm whilst making dinner and It eased the pain of bedtime. With the current situation I’m in with 3 small kids and it gets to 2pm and I pour myself a drink, then another and sometimes another. I know it’s bad for my health and I need to cut down

Hi naps of course you can join, welcome!

Madame I was AF Sun, Mon, Tues and Weds so counting that at AF 4 days but was also AF 1 on Weds 1st April so thats 5 days in April

Welcome Naps! I know if is really hard with young children. I had the same thing when mine were young but always tried not to drink until after 7pm, I've never liked drinking earlier than that. The important thing is to keep busy and get over your 'trigger time' for a drink. It isn't easy, especially with Lockdown. Reading some AF books can also help motivate you. Try and aim for a few days AF each week if you can. I'm sure others have better advice!

Water well done you! I've done my 4 days AF this week, DH stayed strong (he wants to lose some weight) so that was a big help. With the sunshine it's been more like being on holiday this week despite lockdown.
So far in April I'm 6 days out of 9 AF, happy with that, so is my liver!

Welcome naps. You have my sympathy I couldn't cope with 3 at the best of times. I find a nice soft drink at danger time helps. And maybe go for your walk when you think you may wobble?

I'm doing absolutely rubbish at being dry. But dh is back to work on Tuesday so getting this weekend out of the way then starting again. Again.

Been busy decorating this week though so that's my excuse. Bedroom will be finished today though thank fook and that was always going to be the hardest to do because of moving heavy furniture and repainting it shabby shit. Was supposed to be getting all new but bastarding Corona kyboshed that idea. Pleased with how it's turned out though. Will upload pictures later.

Dionysa, how are you?

Had a BBQ last night, drank lots of wine but that’s ok. Won’t be AF tonight either but will go back to being AF next week during the week.

Not at all dry, by any stretch of the imagination. Bloody lockdown.

Are you still able to get out for a walk Dion? is DP in London?

I definitely won't be dry tonight having been AF all week. Am looking forward to the usual Friday evening apéro outside of red wine, almonds and cashew nuts, carrot sticks with Madame Loic stuff, crisps and saucisson.
No dinner required

Well I didn’t drink yesterday nor today. I’ve got some Cold fizzy drinks in the fridge which I had this afternoon. Danger time for me is mid afternoon, come the evening and the kids are in bed I collapse in a heap and tend to go to sleep about half an hour after them .

Hi everyone, day 1 AF again after a boozy bank holiday weekend.

I will definitely keep it up until Friday but might go beyond that, we’ll see. I need to eat less too...