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Can anyone tell me about end stage alcoholism?

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EmmaGemma · 29/11/2018 06:48

My dad is an alcoholic and has lost almost everything. His marriage, business, money, house, self respect, friends.

There's been a massive physical decline in the last few weeks and he's no longer washing so absolutley stinks as does his flat. I think he's spending his days drunk and wetting himself. He just doesn't care. I've been reading about the final stages of alcoholism and the 'don't care' attitude seems to be part of it. Can any of you tell me what else to expect and how long it might be?

I'm worried about him but I live far away and really don't have much of a relationship with him. He's very difficult now and often acts like a child. However, I do want to help. He's had rehab and all that but doesn't want it. Theres no point getting social services involved as he wont let anyone in. Between drinking sessions he's surprisingly lucid. But he's like a walking hazard. I have visions of him falling down stairs, causing a fire when he cooks (he was frying chips the other day) or having a massive internal bleed and no one being there. The only thing I can do is try and keep his home clean but it's really awful. It's carpeted and I think he's just peeing and vomiting everywhere. It's rented so I can't take the carpets up.

Has anyone been around someone like this? What do I do?

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Chachacha27 · 21/11/2020 21:06

Hi, I have never done this before but I am so grateful that I have stumbled across this website to see all these messages. Unfortunately I also have an end alcoholic mother. (Well I think it’s end stage, hopefully someone can correct me if I am wrong).

She is a nightmare for the past 5-6 years. She wee’s, s*’s, vomits everywhere for us to clean up, she lives in vile conditions, she never ever showers, she is extremely abusive, everyday she lies through her teeth. I am absolutely petrified at what she can do. In a moment of jealousy she got in her car and smashed into my car. She is constantly passing out everywhere. And I am worried even more now in how this is dragging my dad down due to all the stress and constant abuse and extreme mood swings.

She has been In and out of rehab /detox, been in a coma, had a stroke and is still living and giving us grief and embarrassment EVERYDAY! She has now been diagnosed with wet brain. So it’s making things so much worse. And like I said with her extreme mood swings she is fully capable of doing the unimaginable which is very scary.

Anyway thank you for sharing your stories really does help to see I’m not the only one going through this. I don’t think people realise how bad severe alcoholism is.

Thank you all again for sharing.

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