Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

I’m so glad to hear DD is doing a bit better water. A weekend away sounds like a great tonic.

Date 2 was lovely. We have so much in common and at one stage I laughed so much my mascara ran.... but I’m not sure if I fancy him?! I’ve said we’ll meet up again in the week.

Shitty day, son ran off while having dinner and ended up in the bloody car park. Cue hysteria from me and some very judgmental woman telling me I need to be a better mum. Feel like utter shit, failure as a mother, emotional mess and probably screwing kids up for life. But....I didn't drink, I thought about it, a lot, but went straight home cuddled my kids put them to bed and had a bath instead. Now I will wake up still feeling guilty and shit but with no hangover!

Recovery, how old is your son and why did he run away? DS1 was a runner, and I don’t think it’s down to poor parenting. It’s just extreme fight/flight in them. Was he overwhelmed?

Well done on not drinking. I’ve been on the lash since 2pm, but it was planned. It’s the solo drinking I’m trying to conquer.

He's 3 and always been a runner, I think he got confused when I said his sister and friend were outside and went out the front. I've lost him at the park before because he ran off and he escaped the house when my exh forgot to lock the door! I should have watched him more carefully but we have been so many times I just assumed he had gone the right way- it was so busy as well. This is why I don't leave the house! Something always happens to me 😢

What a wanker recovery. Bad parenting my arse. Why is there always someone trying to kick a mother when she's down?

Woo re date! Hope he's a grower!

I know, it must be so nice to be a perfect parent all the time 🙄 but at least it didn't drive me to drink 😁

I think that's really impressive! X

Recovery, all I can say is that’s bloody fantastic that you didn’t come back and drink!! I know I deffo would’ve done!! You’ve had a shit time, yet stayed in control!! That’s fab and you should ignore the knobs who criticise..they’ve obviously not got enough to think about if they want to criticise complete strangers!! Take today as actually a positive. You are now in control of drinking I’d say!! Well done!!

Had about 300ml of wine tonight and didn’t enjoy it!! Left some in glass again!! Wtaf!! Ear drum burst which has made the pain go yet the dizziness worse!! I’m fine if I’m sat or led down tho!! Drinking lemon and ginger again 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mmmm lemon and ginger sounds lovely! God I'm getting old 🤣 I'd love to have one and read my book in bed but I have been invaded by my daughter who is currently starfishing in the middle of the bed 😍

Recovery bloody well done. I haven’t had a drink tonight either-am so chuffed!!

Recovery, 3 year olds just do that, it’s normal! Well done for not drinking.

And well done haggis and flossie too. NC4 I’m glad the date was good 🙂

I have a hangover but I don’t care, we had such a fab time. About to go and get a bacon sandwich to eat on the beach. ❤️

Very quickly... Recovery, it is absolutely brilliant that you didn't come back in and drink. It would have been completely understandable if you had done. I had a bolter, and it's terrifying. I used to be all judgy about people who had toddlers on reins. Then I had DS, who needed a straitjacket as well.

NC4 the date sounds fun!! As does your weekend, Water. I'm glad your DD is having a better time of it, though I know how these things work. You just have to try to savour the nice and happy moments, and hope she stores them in her memory somehow, to recall when things feel bad again.

Flossie... Burst eardrum?? Argh. I am very sorry to hear it.

Not AF last night, but knew I wouldn't be as I went out with DP. I almost cancelled because I felt so grotty after the night before, but then thought I might otherwise not see him for a week. I felt better as soon as I'd had a G&T . Absolutely determined to be AF tonight, which would be small compensation for a drenched week.

FML. Work related, but it's a fail.

Dion 💐

Just popping in..

Currently sat crying into a glass of pink Pinot!! Fml over and over.
On amoxicillin so not even sure if I’m allowed to drink?!?! Have only had a glass a night recently which is remarkable since I had a clear bottle a night addiction!!
Anyway today..dd had anaphylaxis at school, adrenaline needed. Opted not to go in amb but brought her home and had to sign the paramedics thingy to say I was happy. (Her careplan gives me the option to do this..she’s so complex and we try and keep it as calm for her as possible - doesn’t help my nerves tho!! In fact it’s bloosy horrific to take that on..but I want calm for her)
Then this pm collect dd1 from school. Cue bitch fest!! She gets in the car and let’s rip!! Still don’t know what she had a go at me for but it hasn’t stopped!! She’s basically moaning at me incessantly!!
Then get a delivery from John Lewis. £1.5k worth of kitchen stuff. Half of it smashed!! An hour on the phone sorting it. Except not really any benefit..had to re order the whole damn lot again and we pay again!! They just cancelled the original order!
Then just had a call from ds. He’s 2 hour away from His uni house..and the trains been cancelled!!!!!! He’s cold, no coat or phone charger and doesn’t know what to do!! He’s 5 hours away from me ffs!!!!!!!

For fucks sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bloody hell Flossie, I’m sorry. That’s shit 💐

Ds will have to sort it or can you get him a cab? Where is he at Uni? (Don’t worry if you don’t want to say)

I bet dd is angry at the situation not you but much sympathy anyway

I drank yesterday but less than a bottle with lunch

AF today, I’m already in bed

Oh Flossie . Break it down. Ds is a grown up, he will have to wait for the next train. The train company will sort him out eventually, he's just venting, you don't have to jump.

DD is venting too - she's stressed and fucked off and it's our job to take it. Which is what drives us to drink. You are being a superstar sticking to the plan.

Her health situation is just shit, but you are handling it with skill and love. More to you x

Thanks guys.

Dd1 still not talking to me apart from being bitchy. Her dad walks in from work and she tells him what a cow I am!! Ffs

Dd2 still struggling with after effects of adrenaline..heart palpitations and racing pulse and headache!!

Fml

Pinot going down nicely!!

Flossie - so sorry about DD2's attack's especially after last week with 5 days at school and no problems 🙁 as for the kitchen at least JL will replace it. DD 1 will calm down, it's What Teenagers Do.
NC glad the 2nd date went well and hopefully the second date with him will help you know if you fancy him or not. If I still don't by the 2nd date it is usually hopeless.
Dion hope you are feeling better tonight
Water well done on your AF week don't worry about yesterday!
It was my 53rd birthday yesterday and I probably drank a bottle of 🍷 over the whole day, had friends over for a very long apéro from 1pm - 6pm. It was fun. No hangover whatsoever so that's good. Went way over limit over the whole week at least 20 units and only 2 nights AF. Really happy NOT to be drinking tonight.
Hope everyone else is doing well - sorry to anyone I've missed, the thread is so active now I can't keep up 😳

Hey anglais. Happy birthday!!!!!!

Flossie . Bugger moody teens, they are 80% twats 80% of the time. The rest of the time they are absolutely lovely just to lull us into a false sense of security.

anglaise happy birthday for yesterday lovely. I want to be you when I grow up.

Not dry tonight. Had 3 bottles of Peroni, only small 250ml ones. Was dry last night tho.

One whole week without getting s**t faced, hurrah! I won't say sober as I had one prosecco on Saturday and one vodka on Tuesday- but I'd say it's progress. Also finished Catherine greys book and found it really funny and interesting. Was reminded that drinking could mean I can't attend to my children in an emergency when my 3yo fell off the bed (I know, amazing mum award goes to.....especially after he escaped from me Saturday 🙄) and I had to rush him up to minor injuries! All fine just a few bumps on the head! Again it didn't drive me to wine so win win! Hope everyone else has had a good day 😁

Flossie... Nothing helpful or useful to say, but huge hugs and . Teenage girls are horrible. DD's dad is away this week; DD was moaning at him yesterday (in front of me) about what a crap week she would be spending arguing with me . Your DD21 is, as PP have said, venting - but it's no fun for you. I wouldn't be dry either. And I know your DS can look after himself, but it's when all these things happen at once that they become too much.

Enforced AF tonight as I have to ferry DD round on Monday nights.

Anglaise, happy belated b'day! Like Frouby, I want to be you when I grow up.

Going to bed now before I can succumb.

No...me...me....I want to be anglais when I grow up!!!!!