Not dry january. But less booze in general. Anyone else?

[Frouby]

I am posting this thread because I really want to reduce the amount of alcohol I drink.

I was going to do dry January but think that is too much for me. And when I do drink again I will revert back to bad habits.

On a normal week I would have 1 or 2 g and ts mon to thurs. Bottle of wine on a friday. Then either a couple of beers or a couple of g and ts on a Saturday night. Nothing on sunday.

Over Christmas (which started for us mid December as we had a holiday) I have drank every day. Never been drunk drunk but 4 or 5 drinks every day.

I feel fat, bloated and lethargic. I want to cut my drinking down to a couple of nights a week. Friday and Saturday. Or thursday and friday. DP also drinks most days (more than me too) and we both need to address our relationship with alcohol.

I didn't drink last night and won't tonight either. And I feel 100% better already. We get married in May and I want to lose weight and improve my health.

Does anyone else want to join this thread for support? I know there is the dry January thread but I will be drinking (probably) 2 days a week so dont want to post on there and knock any penguins off the ice.

Currently drinking ginger ale with loads of ice and contemplating a shower and a cupp of tea later with the last of the Christmas cake (diet starts tomorrow) 😁

Frouby - I agree, I think I had got used to it being my normal for quite some time too. I have to admit waking up hangover free last Saturday was really quite amazing as it's rare for me to have a dry Friday night. It felt so good that I managed a 15 minute jog at 9.30am! I'm aiming for the same again this weekend but I know that it will be tomorrow and Sunday that I will struggle to resist as I do like wine on Saturday and Sunday evening. Have fun at the allotment!

Well the allotment did work up a thirst and I drank the wine. Slept shocking, was awake from 4am to 6am, then just napped until 8am. I did enjoy it at the time tho. That's the problem.

Was it worth the broken sleep and feeling bluergh today? Possibly. But not in the week.

Just had a cup of tea so I am not tempted tonight. Busy day tomorrow. Allotment first thing for a few hours then the usual sunday chores and making a roast.

I lost another 1lb this week tho so that's good and my tummy is definetly not as bloated and podgy. So that's 4lb since 8th January just by cutting down on booze and bread, which is my other downfall.

Hows everyone else doing today? Are you all soggy or us anyone else aiming for a dry weekend from now?

Very soggy... But it is Saturday...

Evening ladies,

Excellent news about the weight loss, Frouby. Bread is one of my downfalls, too.

I have had to write this week off, as I went out with DP last night, and we ended up having the equivalent of a bottle of wine each (sherry plus wine plus nightcap). About a hundred million units. So I have just had an effing horrible Tesco beetroot smoothie (thought it was berry, but mis-read the label). The witching hour will soon be over, and I can go to bed. Determined to be dry until Tuesday, when the girls' lunch is back on. We will see.

I'm glad I didn't do Dry January, as I know (now that January is drawing to an end) that I'd just end up drinking the same as before, whereas I really, really need not to.

Evening all

Dry today. Was a bit iffy earlier when we got back from the plot and dp was talking about having a couple of pints. We both managed.to resist tho.

Just sipping a glass of water and debating between a cup of tea or ginger cordial! Is there such a thing as ginger tea? Might fancy that. In fact I might look at some fruit/herbal teas. Have found I am not as addicted to coffee now I am not drinking as much. I like normal tea but try not to drink too much after 4pm.

How's everyone else holding up?

I've had a wet weekend. Back on the wagon tomorrow until Friday. Or eben Saturday if I can. A few unapproving glances from DD when I had a glass of red with lunch

And a shit nights sleep to boot. Why dod I do it? Will I ever learn?

Evening ladies.
Well, I am an Epic Fail. Felt very sorry for myself last night for a whole host of reasons, and had too much gin. Obviously, I know that this only makes me feel worse. And yet I still did it. Then woke up a 4 AM with the usual panicky feelings. Sigh, sigh, sigh. Determined not to succumb tonight. I think it didn't help that my internet was down last night, so I couldn't get on to this thread. I evidently need it during the Witching Hour.

Oren: Good luck with your resolution to stay dry until Friday. I have the girls' lunch tomorrow, so that will have to regard that as my one day of indulgence this week.

Frouby: yes, there is ginger tea. I may have to buy some. Ginger seems to have enough of 'bite' to help a bit. I've also made it in the past by putting a lump of ginger root in boiling water. I may try this again...

I picked some ginger and lemon tea up today Athena. Think they were 45p or something from aldi so if I don't like them it doesn't matter much.

Had bloody do off all day. He drives me to drink more than the dcs! Fucker. Have been really, really busy and he has either followed me around getting in my way or wanted to do random things like a pub lunch or a couple of hours on the plot when I had told him twentybillionty times I was really, really busy.

And the bloody plumber that was supposed to come tomorrow turned up a day early. And hasn't even done what he was supposed to do.

Ds and dd fighting on a heap. Dog getting under my feet and just general chaos.

The urge to gin it all was very strong pmsl. I only survived by necking 2 paracetamol and a tonic and lime.

Don't feel too bad about your splash. Stay strong tonight, enjoy your lunch tomorrow and then try and be dry until the weekend. Or if you are struggling try every other niggt dry, and less on wet ones. Then do wet every 3rd day maybe?

It's so difficult. More difficult than I thouggt but that just makes me think it's more necessary than I thought.

My lovely NDNs coming around in friday for curry and a few drinks. Really looking forward to it! Especially as I have cut back so much, it seems a real treat.

Sigh. I used to be cool and do clubs at a weekend. Now I get excited about staying in for curry with ndns. We sit in our phs too 😁. It's all glamour at chez frouby.

I agree Frouby, it's really hard.

Did manage not to drink last night, but have already poured myself a (double) vodka and orange in the absence of anything else

It is bloody hard.

Athena how was your girls lunch? Am weljel, would love a boozy lunch.

All quiet here tonight. Supping water like a good girl 😁😁

I think I’ve hit on a much better routine for us.

Not drinking at home during the week is such a clear and easy boundary to maintain and we’ve cut the amount we drink substantially.

Really glad we did this. Feels like a much healthier way to enjoy a drink rather than collapsing on the sofa after the DCs are in bed and automatically opening the wine.

Evening all,
Well, I have to consign today to the dustbin of good intentions (thank you for asking, Frouby). Not only did I drink far too much at lunchtime, but ended up eating crap as well because the DC are with their father.
Onwardsand upwards. Will try to do better for the rest of the week.
Sleightofmind: you hit on the crucial word (“automatic”). If that link could be broken, all our lives would be easier,

Colouring: completely understandable. As with me, tomorrow is another day.

Sleight I am still finding it hard. But not as hard as the first 2 weeks. I am not constantly debating with myself cone 4pm as to whether I will drink or not. I pour myself a nice soft drink and that usually takes the edge off a bit. Dp has got into the habit of not drinking Saturday and Sunday which he finds easier. He is drinking less during the week but still far too much. But at least is having 2 consecutive dry days.

It's the first time in months I have got up early with DP. Got my lovely but very bonkers cousin coming over this morning first thing to go through this matched betting thing with me. So I wanted to make sure house is tidy before school run and stuff.

If I had drank last night I would be very bleary eyed this morning!

Fml. I really want a fecking drink now.

Dp lost the fecking job we were on. We are self employed builders. Work from now until august. Good prices, reliable company to work for.

His own fault. Labourer who works for us kicked off at dp. Instead of walking away dp shouted back. Heat of the moment thing but I am furious with dp. He knows better.

And what is annoying me even fecking more is he is sat with a can of lager sighing and feeling sorry for himself.

Arrrgggghhhh.

But I do feel quite proud of myself for not cracking open the gin. Only because I have to be up early tomorrow to do some paperwork and want a clear head.

Ffs. I really fucking wish he would think before he opens his mouth. Am so angry.

He was expecting steak for tea. Fucker can expect all he wants. Am on strike.

Frouby that sounds stressful and majorly annoying!

Strike away!

I have done colouring. I ate the last of his museli and have stomped off to bed. He can have weetabix or slightly stale bread for a sandwich. Fucker.

He is sat cuddling the dog looking sad.

He can stay there. At 50 years old, 30 years in the building trade he should and does know better. And after 12 years together he should know better than expecting me to feel sorry for him.

It's completely his fuck up. He can sort it out. He will find more work. Will probably be on another job monday (minus gobshite labourer who has sacked himself) and all will be well. But it's so annoying as it was a local job as well as a lucrative one.

I do suspect there is a political reason too. But he has given them the perfect excuse.

And his museli was shit 😂😂😂

Oh Frouby, I am so sorry. And I think you are being heroic, having his muesli rather than anything alcoholic. You are a better woman than I am.

Having sworn I would not drink this evening, I have had a large sherry. But I have stopped at that. I shouldn't have had it at all, but it has been such a shit few days (girls' lunch excepted) that I have weakened. I really do need to try harder.

Afternoon all

Who's dry and who's wet tonight? I think I.am having a dry one. Thursday was one of my wet days but dp will be dry tonight and our ndns are coming around tomorrow so I think I am going to save my wet day for saturday or sunday.

Dp has another job thank fuck. Back on Monday. It's further away and less profitable but it's work. He had 6 weeks off over Christmas due to a job finishing early and us being on holiday mid December so we really need some money coming in.

Had a busy day today and am knackered. Got up at 5.30am to make a start on some paperwork. Did that all morning then shot over to the ponies as vet was here to do some vacs. Just got home now to defrost. It's bloody freezing out.

Am starving too. Have a salad in the fridge but don't think I can face salad.

I really want a chip butty. Or a McDonald's. Or a KFC.

Another dry one for me tonight. I know what you mean about thawing out. Had the dogs out for 2 1/2 hrs this morning and was frozen when we got back.

I buy ready made soup (carrot and red pepper this am) and jazz it up with fresh ginger & chilli/ croutons/crumbly cheese etc.

It’s hot and feels satisfying but has all the good stuff too so I can still feel virtuous

Salad depresses me at this time of year!

It does me sleight. We don't mind with a jacket spud and quiche or something for tea, but it's so cold for lunch when you have been out in the cold. I made a poormans prawn cocktail in the end with half a dozen seafood sticks and a spoonful of prawn Marie sauce 😁.

Cheering myself up with a lasagne for tonight. DPs steak is going in the.freezer and he can have a real mans tea when he has done a real days work.

And I have had to open a bottle of wine for the Bolognese sauce. So that is in the fridge chilling now.

I did earn a bit of money doing matched betting this morning so I think with hindsight I deserve a drink if I fancy it.

Evening ladies.

Well, it sounds as if you are holding up ok. Last night was a write-off for me, as DP came. We also had a glass of wine at lunch time, so I can't even claim that I am dry today (though haven't had anything this evening, as I needed to ferry one of the DC around).

Absolutely determined not to drink this weekend. Will have the DC, so there is no excuse...

Did do one good thing on Wed night, when I needed wine to make a risotto. I was going to open a bottle, but bought a one-person bottle instead (knowing that if I opened a full one, I would drink the 2/3 that I didn't need for cooking).

PS Very glad to hear about your DP's work, Frouby.

Hi everyone. Dry night for me after a wet night out with a friend. Out tomorrow evening but driving so that will make me stop at one. Killer for me is when I'm on allowed something I want it 100 x more!