Difficult anniversary tomorrow - please think of me

[roisin]

As many of you on here know I had a baby when I was a student, and chose to have him adopted immediately - I didn't bring him home from hospital.

Anyway, he was born 18 years ago tomorrow.

I have written to the adoption agency to request a Section 98 Intermediary Service to get in touch with him. Really just to say that I've thought of him constantly over the past 18 years, and that if he chooses to get in touch, I - and the rest of my family - would be delighted.

roiin, just to say that if knew my birth parents really wanted to meet me it would make the whole process much easier, I hope you are very proud of yourself and your family for making it a less traumatic experience for your son if he does decide to get in touch.

Dear Roisin. Have only just seen this because I was searching on behalf of my sister. She is in exactly the same situation as you (except birthday was in August) and she has registered too. I know she is trying to keep things going as normal but I also know how desperately she wishes her daughter would come for her. The actual birthday was very very difficult for her but I think she now accepts that just because she doesnt come forward as a teenager doesnt mean that she never will.

The added sadness for my sister is that she has been trying for another baby for the last 3 years and hasnt been able to get pregnant with her husband. She thinks she is being punished. My heart could break for her.

Roisin - I hope your son and my neice find us all one day. x

Thanks Kizzie.

I've heard nothing at all other than the acknowledgement at the end of November.

Having said that the adoption agency were pretty hopeless at communication 18 years ago too, so looks like nothing's changed.

I'll wait and see what happens.

Hi Roisin - same with my sister. Just had the acknowledgement. Really hope it all works out (for both of you!) xxxxx