Adoption disrupted

[topcat2014]

My child went back to foster carers after 7 weeks. Haven't felt pain like it

I am so sorry to hear that. Thinking of you x

I am so sorry topcat x

That must be unbearably painful topcat. Thinking of you x

I'm so sorry topcat.
We are here if you need to talk.

@topcat2014 I’m so sorry to hear that. I know your LO was older and from experience I know things are much, much harder for you and them (I know it’s not the same at all but from my other thread we had a disruption during intros with an older child 7yrs old). You must be feeling dreadful, PM or message here if talking would help. Thinking of you xx

I'm so sorry. We also disrupted during intros, and went on to successfully adopt the following year. Looking back now it's staggering how we were ever matched with that child at all - it was such a bad fit.
This isn't your fault. I hope you are doing ok.

So sorry to hear that. I have been following your journey for a long time. I hope you are getting lots of support and we're all here if you need a hand hold x

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how you must be feeling Xx

I'm so sorry. Such sad news

So sorry Topcat. I hope you have some support at home

So sorry to hear this @topcat2014. Have you got some real life support you can lean on? I can’t begin to imagine how unbearably shit this must be for you

I’m so sorry. We had a disruption with a 6 year old after 2 months. I didn’t think I would ever recover, it felt like a bereavement but I did and we went on to adopt twice. Thinking of you. Be kind to yourself xx

How difficult for you - don't know what to say except I'm feeling for you.

I'm so sorry :(

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine there are many words that will bring comfort right now but we're all here for you when you're ready. X

I don’t they no there’s anything I can say that will be helpful right now, but it must be awful and I’m here if you want to talk.

Oh my goodness Topcat I'm so so sorry to hear this. Can't imagine what you're going through but I hope you're being kind to yourself.

Sorry, Topcat.

Just wanted to say that you haven't failed so don't let anyone try to pin this on you. The social workers have failed - they are the 'experts'. Either they didn't assess you properly, or have failed to understand the needs of the DC, or have failed in matching, or have failed in providing adequate support.
More and . I would imagine this could feel like a bereavement. Take your time and be kind to yourself.

I am v sorry and sad to hear this. Sending best wishes x

@topcat2014 I am so sorry thinking of you.

I was thinking about you today and was going to come back and post more or less what Sanders has said.

It won’t lessen the pain but please know that this is not your fault. Obviously there’s been a failure, but it’s not yours.

(And don’t let them try and put it on you.)

I'm so sorry, I don't post on here really just lurk as I'm in admiration of all you adopters. I've read quite a few of your posts and I'm so sorry that this didn't work out, it must be very painful. Adopting an older child must be incredibly tough because they have so much baggage already and a whole history that you're not part of. Please take care be gentle and try not to beat yourself up