What are grandparents rights for adoption??

[lijaco15]

Our 3 week old grandchild is being removed from my son's girlfriend into foster care. She has emotional problems and been through care herself. Does anybody know procedures and what rights we may have as grandparents???

how lovely to hear from you! I'm so pleased to hear that he is settled and happy with you. how is your Ds ( his father) doing now? Does he see his son?

You have a DS or DD as well dont you - about 4? how are they adjusting to not being the baby any more?

Hi KristinaM

my four year old son started school in September and acts like he is a really big boy. He has accepted g.s very well he is over the moon and very proud of him. They play together well and we are all going on a family hol next week. My other daughter is nearly 14 and is a typical teenager really so isn't really that interested in what is happening with the young ones. She is accepting of g.s and plays with them both now and again. My eldest son (g.s 's) father isn't with his gf now but does see her now and again. He says that he loves her very much but can see that it can never be. He is a lot better than he used to be but still needs a lot of direction. He is only 18 years old so still young. G.f I feel for really because she has had a very traumatic childhood, taken into care as a teenager. Lost touch with siblings who also were taken into care, twins adopted and one other younger one adopted. Her father was domestically violent and ended his own life. Her mother has no interest in her at all she has nobody except friends that she grew up with that are not a good influence. I was told by s.s. that last year she had a termination that was believed to be my son's baby. I was aware that she was pregnant and my son believes that her social worker pressured her into having the termination.
She was about 20 weeks pregnant as well, so feel very sad about that. She was devestated after and started self harming again and now drinks very heavily most of the time. I think about her a lot because she has had so much hurt in her life and she is so damaged. Very difficult.

Interesting thread. We gained parental responsibility for my lovely GS - two and a half years ago now. This was a traumatic and soul destroying process, but I was prepared to do anything to keep him safe. He is now, and I feel your relief. The very best of luck to you and your family.

I assumed it was this year until the end of the thread! What a long time it took to get sorted out, it must have been very hard for you.

I am so pleased your gs is with you and is happy, and that his father is doing well. I hope his mother is okay too. What a sad story for her.

social woker should have given you a later in life letter for your grandson although tis may not have happenned as due to resources because you are family it would be less priority as you know alot about his beginning. If you would like some support in starting a life story BAAF have some good resources or you could write it yourself, include photo's of his mum and dad and any other relatives also an effective thing which is completed but not included is a road map which shows where a child is born they lived and with whom the most important thing is to keep it positive no-one wants to read negative things about their parents, another tip is think of how you would like your life story written or how you kept memories for your children it the samt thing only written also include when he came to you when you were grantwee special guardianship and include a child friendly description of what special guardianship is and what it means to you. Keep your side of the letterbox going as it can take parents soem time to be able to respond.
I am glad you got there in the end

lijaco- if i were you i woudl contact mumnsnet asap and ask them to delete that last post as the DOB could be identifying

not criticising you in any way i can understand why you posted a you did

Thank you lijaco for sharing and updating your wonderful story - I'm glad it worked out OK in the end and I hope your GS's mother is able to get the help she needs too.

Bop

Hi Lijaco
Sorry to bring this up now only I was looking for help on Google when I came across your post. Your situation is so similar to mine it's like reading my own story. Can you tell me if your son was allowed to live at home with you after you got parental responsibility?? I so want to have my GS but I'm torn, my eldest son has mental health & was & (I think) now is on drugs again. He so desperately needs me but SS told me i would basically have to disown him if I got parental responsibility of GS.

Sorry to bring up such a old post.

Theladyfiona69 didn't want to read and run, so sorry to hear your situation, I hope someone will be along to help. You can also start your own thread as the date on this one may put people off reading.

Be very careful with your choice of Solicitor. Those I have experience of mind their ps and qs with social services. You need one with a track record for family side of things

Hi sallymadams
I didn't particularly want to start a new thread because I have got majority of the knowledge that I need to know. I just wanted to know how it ended regarding lijaco son which is why I asked her directly hoping she may respond.

Thanks for your message sallymadam.
The problem with my town is all the solicitors that do legal aid are solitors that are on a list that social services gave us.

If you message her directly you're more likely yo get a response as it will email her. It is a VERY old post though...

Im looking for advice my granddaughter is 7months old and in foster care since she was born,ive tried to get contact with her since she was born and have been told from day 1 "we need to establish parents contact first" i put myself forward to care for her and had the initial kinship assessment done and they decided not to go ahead with a full assessment took the report to my lawyer and ive just found out she never challenged it ive got absolutely nowhere ss now at the stage of permanency/adoption . Is it too late ?

@Hmm07 This is an old post. I think if you start a thread on this you may get better responses. Try to give as much info as poss without putting anything too specific.

I could really do with some advice. My partners son is in care. We have been working hard to secure a home with room for him, my partner is in a stable job and we’ve been together for two years. Social services have now informed him that one of his grandma’s has put in for adoption rights or something. Its only 9 months until he is 16. His dad really wants his son to live with us. He’s been fighting this for years. what can we do?

@longcroft20041987 welcome to mumsnet. This is a really old thread and you might be better to start a new one so someone can give you some better advice.

I've just read an old post...am new to this. But, the post resonated deeply. My husband and myself are kinship foster carers to one of our grandsons. If anyone is in doubt, as a grandparent, about how you can be involved in you grandchild's life then find an excellent family lawyer. The initial consultation should be free for 30 mins. Contact social services and get on the net for info as well. Don't be afraid just do what your heart tells you. We've been through the mill with our situation but made the right decision to foster our little one. Hope this helps anyone in a trying situation.