Do SWs truly believe they are Time Lords?

[ChoccyJules]

I can't give details and am not going to drip feed but BLOODY HELL there are some entitled people out there and we can do and say nothing, as usual. Send cake. Booze. Kittens.

[Kr1stina]

Oh and I forgot the the emotional blackmail - if you tell everyone how truly shit we are , then adopters will be put off and it will be YOUR FAULT.

Rather than - oh my, we are treating people really badly, how can I improve my practice and become more client centered.

[tldr]

I know, us horrid adopters putting off those nice excellent adopters...

[MrsSVN]

Oh I see, I'd misunderstood...I took it as reading this thread might make SWs reading the thread worried about the care provided by parents to their adopted children. So it means anyone reading the thread might be worried about the welfare of the children?

[tldr]

First time I read it, I was thinking of CP SWs, so people would be worried about the consequences for those children if SWs were as alleged. Then someone else posted and I thought their interpretation was more likely. Now I don't care. Cheers.

[MrsSVN]

Me neither, it's Friday!

[Rosieandtim]

to all.

Especially Choccy

I wish my SW was David Tennant, though. Or even Matt Smith. Hey, I'd take Christopher Eccleston. You can keep John Simm and Peter Capaldi, though.

[Broken11Girl]

Aaargh, the defensiveness of the Professionals. They know all, and must nit be questioned. I see it so often, online and 'irl'. Not just SWs - teachers, HCPs, counsellors etc too.

[Kr1stina]

It's Friday

🍺🍸🍹🍻🥂🍷🥃

[conserveisposhforjam]

🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱🐱

'cos that is actually what you asked for innit?

not a great big bloody barney about fuck all

Although that is a v lairy kitten now I look at it...

[comehomemax]

I might start a thread about name changing. That should distract everyone for a while.

[conserveisposhforjam]

Can we do 'pondlife' again :-)

[comehomemax]

conserve you are very naughty

[tldr]

She is, but do you see how magnificent she is at holding a grudge?

[cupcakesandchampagne]

I stood up for another poster because she is a human being and i have read other posts she has written elsewhere, not because she is a social worker. I thought that the posts on this thread were lacking in common decency and perspective, and were entitled, and they got worse (and will probably continue to get worse after this).

My welfare comment was in response to the "me me me" "this is ADOPTION and we can say what we like", as was my suggestion that if you want to let rip against other human beings you do so in private (or privately on facebook).

I think some of the comments have been aggressive and borderline abusive.

It is possible to ask for and get support and indeed vent without upsetting other people.

[tldr]

OM actual G.

It's the Internet. Scroll on by. (Or report to MNHQ if you feel the need.)

Not upsetting people = not my job. HTH.

[comehomemax]

cupcakes have you actually read the posts on the first page?? Before the passing sw posted, there were 8 posts roughly and besides choccys only one reference to a social worker. Are you seriously suggesting that requires a private board for fear of passing offence?
I disagree, nothing here I've read has been aggressive or abusive but if you disagree, then report. All I've seen are posters sharing frustrations - in a board set up to allow us to do so. This is adoption. We can say what we like within the sites guidelines. And this is about us and our experiences, hence the me, me, me you mention. That's the very nature of the bloody site.

[conserveisposhforjam]

I might start a thread about name changing. That should distract everyone for a while

And lo, it came to pass...

[comehomemax]

[tldr]

Max is a witch?

[ChoccyJules]

Oh dear - I'm ever so sorry people. As I think most of you realised I genuinely just wanted a vent. I can't quite recall how I got to the title but it's something to do with SWs being able to do bugger all for 2 months and then want something doing the next day. Yeah something close to that anyway thank you to everyone for their support and when I can say anything I will - but until then I'll continue to use this board to connect with people who understand me best.

[comehomemax]

Choccy, you've nothing to apologise for. And I'm crossing all my fingers and toes for you!

[conserveisposhforjam]

A name changing sock puppet is a little more likely tldr but yeah we can go with witch you delightfully whimsical naif you

[donquixotedelamancha]

"I can't quite recall how I got to the title but it's something to do with SWs being able to do bugger all for 2 months and then want something doing the next day."

DD2's SW once phoned at 5.45 pm: 'I must see the children this week'
(Our SW had finally grassed on her for missing statutory minimums for months, so the call was expected- every visit we tried and failed to book the next one in).
Me: 'It's thursday, so that's tomorrow. I suppose you can come at.....'
Her: 'No, I'm busy tomorrow'. I can be round in 30 minutes (she's 45 min away).
Me: 'No, the children are going to bed soon.'
Her: [Harrumph] Well, I suppose 8 am tomorrow will be OK.

I understood the timelord comment immediately, choccy, and you did nothing wrong.

[Bingybongboo]

I've worked alongside sw for many years and had total respect for them. Then I became part of the 'process' where I have lost all respect for them. Many are judgemental and lack empathy. I could go on and on but I won't. Yes it's a hard job doesn't mean to say you can treat people badly.
Hope things get better op

[LocoMoco]

Both our SW and DDs SW were very competent.
Some others we dealt with in passing were infuriating.

If choccy had started a thread on aibu about her managers poor organisational skills and how it was causing her undue pressure, you wouldn't expect a load of managers to jump down her throat saying YABU and unkind as I'm a good manager and I've got a lot on...

Don't be so fucking ridiculous.