" Excellent people " ( whoever they are ) should consider adoption VERY carefully as one issue is that their life may well be made difficult by their SW. For several years.
Kate - you need to listen to the experience of clients as expressed on these boards . It's sometimes excellent , usually mediocre at best and sometimes a nightmare for the parents and most importantly the child.
Not listening and insisting that your view is the correct one is one of the things that people cititicise. I'm guessing that you have never adopted and yet you are here , on our boards , telling us what it's like for adopters / adoptees / birth families when you have no experience or knowledge of this at all.
If you are indeed a social worker who hates her job you need to vent elsewhere. And if you are an adoption SW who wants to improve her practice you would do well to listen.
Here is an article on understanding privilege and how priviledged people should act when they are in minority spaces . You might find it helpful
blog.shrub.com/check-my-what/#comment-639
Understanding privilege is an ongoing process that will help you to understand how to participate in minority discussion/movements without taking over their space or feeling left out
Learn to Listen Rather Than Speak
This one is a lot harder than it sounds, and I say this as someone who loves speaking and voicing her opinion on things. One of the greatest things we, as privileged people, can bring to a discussion being held by non-privileged groups is our closed mouths and open ears/minds. When you enter a minority space, you need to realize that this is their soapbox, not yours. Your privilege gives you many other soapboxes that you can take advantage of, so when participating in a discussion held by a non-privileged group or individual your primary goal is to pay attention to what they say about their issues, lives, and oppressions
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