Thanks for your lovely words, Italian
I too think the trophies, presents and that awful email were really significant rejections of the child. The judge didn't want to make a care order as he felt it very important that the child had 'a way back' to her parents. The parents' actions in writing that email, and getting rid of the trophies, were hand grenades onto that path back.
We don't know enough about what went on in the years leading to this family breakdown. But it seems likely that the parents were at least adequate as adopters at the point of matching. Even without the concealment of the child's history, it is very possible that there would have been a different outcome if the child had received earlier therapeutic intervention, and if the parents had been given help when they asked for it. We don't know, though, if the parents were not up to the task, and that is revealed through their actions at the end, or if they had been reduced to some truly awful behaviours because they were burnt out and themselves traumatised.
Tonight, as I wrestled a hysterical, vituperative and physically violent child into bed (a 2 hour marathon), I thought about this case and about how sometimes my parenting would look shocking to outsiders, and shocking to me at the start of my adoption journey. Sometimes, often, I truly don't know how to handle situations. Physical violence is a very shocking thing to deal with from a child, and despite repeatedly asking for help with this specifically nobody seems inclined to help. And my child is 6: these parents were dealing with physical aggression from a teenager. The judge says that social workers criticised the parents for how they handled this, but refused to advise them on how they should. Appalling.