Adoption

[Lancome]

I didn't know where to post this, but can anyone tell me if it's possible to Un- adopt a child. Give up all parental responsibilities?

[Tokoloshe]

Some useful info here:
adopterssupportuk.freeforums.net/thread/4318/using-pupil-premium

It's not clear cut, but whatever intervention the school chooses it must support the academic development of the child(ren) involved. Yes, other children can benefit, but if it only goes into the big pot I think you have a grounds to challenge it. They need to be able to say what they are doing in addition to business-as-usual for your child, even if other children benefit as well.

[Kewcumber]

Italian - I don't say this to rain on your parade in any way or even that I think it's likely but DS really didn't start showing obvious problems until year 3 although with hindsight there were indicators all along that other people dismissed and I foolishly went along with.

My DS is well attached and the EP has agreed with me that he is. Attachment is very far from being the only problem that comes as a result of early life trauma. In fact I have found it a real stumbling block for us that people are so focused on it.

Not every child who was adopted has an issue but don't think that because things are ticking along pretty well now that you're out of the woods!

Obviously you needn't start imagining problems that aren't there but don't rule it out yet.

[Kewcumber]

In that case there are even more checks and tracking in place for these pupils in school. I didn't know adoptees were grouped with LAC - they are only "grouped* with LAC as previously LAC for PPP purposes and they aren't tracked - it's up to the parents to self report and claim the PPP not the school.

[Kewcumber]

sorry I see FATE already said that

[Devora]

Yep, just to emphasise that adopted children only grouped with LAC for the purposes of PP and school admissions - they're not otherwise in a cohort that gets (or could get) tracked.

[Italiangreyhound]

Kewcumber re ... I don't say this to rain on your parade in any way or even that I think it's likely but DS really didn't start showing obvious problems until year 3 although with hindsight there were indicators all along that other people dismissed and I foolishly went along with.

Don't worry I am not under any illusions it will all be plain sailing and it certainly isn't all plain sailing now anyway. I certainly can do to be aware of what might be around the next corner so please don't think you will upset me with warnings or advice. This forum has been a really good source of advice for me over the last years (I think around 5 years!) and there is no reason for it to stop now.

I do feel ds is firmly attached and bonded BUT I could be wrong! And as you say there may be things unrelated to attachment. So please do PM me or post here about any specifics to look out for.

EP, what's or who is EP? Ed Psych?

Re In fact I have found it a real stumbling block for us that people are so focused on it. Can you say more.

Re Not every child who was adopted has an issue but don't think that because things are ticking along pretty well now that you're out of the woods! I know it may be typically 'text book' but I am worried about teenage years, well, in the case of dd (birth child) she is 11 and I feel the teenage years are alread bl##dy well here!!

Re Obviously you needn't start imagining problems that aren't there but don't rule it out yet. Can you advise on general things to watch out for? From your experience? PM me if you prefer.

Thanks.