Experience of extended introductions with a 2yr old?

[Charlestons]

Hi - wondering If anyone has any experience of extended introductions with a 2yr old? LO lived with birth family for 13 months and has been with same foster carers ever since. She currently has a secure attachment to both foster carers but after 2 months of being placed with them they went away and she had a temporary 2 week placement which she struggled with and spent most of the 2 weeks screaming and refusing comfort etc.

We are going to matching panel mid June and due to start introduction 2 weeks later and due to the FC & SW concerns about how she will react to leaving them again they have suggested extended introductions, therefore the plan is:

• x5 2hrs (0ver 12 days) spent at FC house as friends of the family and introduced as Mr & Mrs Charlston
• then SW visiting to explain (as much as you can as a just over 2yr old) that we are now going to be new mummy and daddy
• we then have 10-12 days of full introductions

Totally understand reasons for doing this and fully on board, I just haven't met or spoken to anyone who have done introductions in this way for a child as young as 2. I am especially interested in experiences of being introduced as 'friends' before being Mummy and Daddy.

Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance for any advice, info and shared experiences ??

We did 4 weeks of intros with DD1 age 8 and DD2 age 2.5 (but more like a just 2 or younger).

4 weeks was way too long for DD2, by the end she didn't know whether she was coming or going. Not helped probably by 6 overnights at ours over the last 10-12 days.

I agree with the others, that you should be introduced as Mummy XXX and Daddy YYY.
I also can't really see a good reason for not doing intros at normal pace (which would be moving up rapidly from 2 hrs, and every day with occasional break, not 5 short over 12 days).
Surely the main thing is that it is a controlled handover from FC to you, not just a dump-and-run as maybe happened with temp FC.

Can you ask for 'normal paced' intros, but say you'll be happy to slow down or extend if that seems to be in the best interests of the little one?