Hi I am new here. Could do with a bit of advice as to whether to cut back on contact with SIL?
My DH and I are hoping to adopt as we cannot concieve. We have had contact with our LA and they are happy for us to apply. The social worker we talked to initially felt we had a good grasp of the realities of adoption.
If we are successful, I worry about letting my SIL have any contact with our child or children. SIL has no concept of moderating her conversations to suit non-adults. Even adults are often shocked or offended by her rants - and they are rants, I am sad to say.
DH and I both care about SIL, but we also worry that her behaviour may jeoporadise our chance at building a family of our own, or impact badly on it...
DH's other sibling refuses to allow SIL to have much contact with his children, as he worries she may upset them. She sees them at family get togethers, but it is all carefully managed. More distant family have started to avoid any contact with her at all. It is very sad, but SIL can be both rude and intimidating and she is utterly unrepentent about her behaviour.
We just are not sure what to do at this point.