Just ranting - feel free to come join

[Lilka]

A woman on the other forum asked advise on what to do, because the mother of her kids biological sibling isn't going to tell him he is adopted.
And so people leap in with support....and then another poster says they haven't told their children because nothing good can come of it. Her kids are school age. Another poster agrees and says they aren't planning to tell their kids either!!

WHY WHY WHY do people still DO this in this day and age?? For God's sake, what good can come out of NOT telling them

Okay, rant over. I did post back. But I just don't understand. Poor kids.
My mood tonight is not good anyway, because DD2 is in a state right now, after a really bad week. I really needed to get this out. Thanks for listening x

I wonder what Lilka's real name is? I'm guessing something beginning with J...

hester - you do know what it is I sent you a pm with my name at the bottom! Your real name is very pretty as well

My real name is not Ethel though!...or Maud, or Mildred or Gertrude. Im agine those on a baby You can have three guesses, then I'll tell you!

wow,congrats to Hester and kristina,great news.

Oh yes! Does anyone else find it really hard to hold people's RL names in their head, even if they know perfectly well what they are. I ALWAYS think of kew as kew, even though I know her RL name really well and it's not a hard one to say or remember...

Anyway Lilka, you name is as classy as you are - I've never met anyone with your name who I haven't liked . And it's not Janet.

Hope you all had a lovely day. Ours was very relaxed, only the 6 of us. LOs played with their toys and ate choclate all day. Big ones drank, ate and watched tv.

Dd is here ( without her GF /fianceee) so we now know LOTs of detail abut their wedding plans. Y' know hesters small tasteful garden party wedding?? Well its going to be totally the opposite of that

Two brides in big meringue dresses, each to be walked up aisle by their fathers

One bride arriving by helicopter which freind is borrowing from the duke of westminster ( WTF??????)

Drag act at reception

Each bride having their own collection of bridesmaids and best men

Cake from the shop featured in My Big Fat Gypsey Wedding

Colour theme for guests outfits

DD sat the yougest children down and solemnly explained to them about the day and what their roles would be. As they are under 7, have never been to a weddijg of any description and its 18 months away, they were not exactly fascinated. All they asked was " would there be any other children there for thme to play with?"

If you think thats bad, then pity her Gfs parents, who apperntly still believe that DD is her flatmat!!!!!!!!! gf has gone to visit them for holidays to tell them. They have been together for years, i really cant imagine her parenst dont know. Sigh

Watch this space for further bridezilla updates

Just thought i would add.....i come onto mumsnet so i can do all my piss taking and in a safe place. In RL i nod politely and say yes, oh really that sounds lovley. And try not to catch Dhs eye

Ho hum. Could be worse, at least the colour scheme is blue, green and purple which gives me lots of options. Could have been pink......

Um...wow Kristina!! That's one heck of a wedding Will the aisle be big enough for two meringue dresses at once?! Or even one inside a helicopter for that matter! Ah well, you're safe to do all your piss taking here Why hasn't her dp told her parents before, are they evangelicals or something? [nosy emoticon]

Really glad christmas day went well :) Mine was also good, but very manic indeed! At least there were no major tantrums so it went better than last year - PROGRESS

Lilka, I have no idea why . We are the evangeical christians, i have no idea what their religious beliefs ( if any) are. < pop goes another stereotype>. Dd says its because they are welsh and her parenst would be more upset if she was a black man.

I know, i know, so many prejudices all in one paragraph......

We did ask before about her parents and they were a bit evasive. Y ' know, i think my mum knows but we dont talk about such things etc and im not sure about my dad etc. As we knew the engagemnt was in the offing we did encourage thme to discuss it, as it seemed a but unfair to do the" hey guys, guess what im gay and my flatmate is actually my partner and we re getting married next year and you are giving me away" all at once.

So it was only yesterday that dd admitted that her parenst dont know. Gf was going home for christmas to discuss. Sigh.

Oh, and while we are on the subject, we were at relatives today , who are all devout Catholics, and we told them about the enagegemnt. Not one person made any adverse commenst at all. It was all " as lomg as shes happy" etc. They were all 60 plus

Indeed mary.its in north wales, you could just pop over on the ferry

Apparently there is now a caberet act too. Aftre the ceilidh band and the drag act. I had to watch a clip of thme on you tube today so i coudl see how great they are [straight face emoticon]

It was very sweet today to see all these eldery catholic relatives being pleased for thme but only raisijg an eyebrow at the helicopter. LOL

Thats the best bit mary, DD isnt white, shes Scottish chinese. I did ask Dd if gfs parenst had spotted this......

Honestly, you could make this up. Dh and i are sittimg across the table trying not to catch each others eye. Im sure you would think i was trolling if you didnt " know" me. LOL

How did I miss this thread goodness it was all going on whilst I took my eye off the ball wasn't it.

Congrats to DD Kris - though wedding plans would also make me snigger a little - its still lovely isn't it and very sweet that they want such a fuss, makes me feel quite old and jaded! Its quite possible that DD's future inlaw's haven't noticed the chinese bit - my own mother once said (ref me and DS and her) "we will be the only white people there"... Ummm not sure if you've noticed mum, but by most peoples judgement my son isn't exactly a WASP - actually I just raised an eyebrow.

Congrats on job Hester - do you need a part-time finance person? [hopeful emoticon]

Kristingle, that is HILARIOUS . Perhaps your dd would consider a double wedding, and me and dp can just hitch along for the ride?

You have now really upped the ante and I feel a spirit of competition growing. [eyes narrowed as considers gypsy-wedding type outfit complete with light up Taj Mahal on head and fireworks embedded in the train...]

Incidentally, my FIL (elderly West Indian gentleman) has never found any man who deserves the attention of his precious princess, and has been distinctly cool to every one of them (my favourite quote: "So what makes you think you can AFFORD my daughter?").

He has been unstintingly affectionate and supportive of me from the very start. I can only think that I am simply out of that competition, so judged by very different standards.

Five year old ds came in today and solemnly informed us that he is to be a " mini gusher" at the royal wedding

Kris - I think DS was 4 when he announced to me at Christmas that "D'you know Mummy baby jesus had a father called Joe Smith"

I think I neglected his spiritual guidance.

To be fair to your DS - he may have got it right - the wedding does sound like it might need a few gushers as standard.

Latest update on the wedding plans

No the venue isnt booked but the drag act for the reception is confirmed ( phew, what a weight off my mind).even better, the drag act chap is bringing his make up artists with him and she is going to do the make up for the bridal party. Including 12y DD who is to be a bridesmaid.

If she can make a man look like a woman, what coudl she do with me?????

Smile and nod < repeats to self>

Kristina, this is so good it deserves its own thread

gwan, what are you wearing? Or will you delegate that decision to the brides? [Visions of Kristina in gypsy wedding-stylee frock emoticon]

I do feel a bit norty coming onto mumsnet to snigger about it.but i would be mortified if either of the happy couple found out and its all so specific they would recognise themselves straight away.

And having somewhere to vent about it makes it so much easier to smile and nod

I have booked my chelsea tickets now so if you fancy a mini meet up on 24 may we can drink wine and swop bridezilla stories .

Anyome else up for it? I know its months away....