In 5 days we'll know if we are able to adopt a little girl

[lettinggo]

I won't go thorugh all the process that's brought us this far, but we're 6 1/2 years in the process.

In 5 days time, on June 30th, we're going to find out if we will be able to adopt a little girl from Russia. She must be made available for domestic adoption until June 30th and after that will be able to be adopted internationally. She has some minor health issues, as far as we know nothing hugely serious, but apparantly Russians don't like to adopt children with health issues. She's been adoptable since she was 2 months old.

For the past month we've known about her and have been told that if she doesn't get adopted domestically, we will be allowed to adopt her. In my heart I know we should be hoping she gets to be adopted domestically because that would obviously be what is best for her but it's hard not to hope that it doesn't happen. I'm just not that good.

And now there's only 5 days to go and she's still there. I'm not at all religious, I certainly don't pray. But I remember years ago doing a novena (type of prayer service you do for 9 days where you pray for a specific thing) to St Francis Xavier and the words are rattling around in my head

"but if what I ask is not for the glory of God and the good of my soul,
I pray and desire that which is most conducive to both"

Might not make sense to anyone not Catholic but it's a comfort at the moment.
Sorry for the ramble. I wish I could go to sleep and wake up on Thursday at 1pm (close of business in that part of Russia).

I was home for Christmas and I told my dad all about you, particularly how your DH was stuck staring at his DD sleeping and I swear he had a little tear. Big soft spot for adopted little girls there understandably . I have been watching you over the holidays on my phone as my parents don't have a computer so glad you have all had a lovely time.

So sweet!

Ooh yes yes yes - am about to pm you!

She's simply gorgeous

She really is, isn't she? She's the kind of baby that just makes you want to pick her up and squeeze her all over! Both your children are completely beautiful, and so lovely together

You're missing out, everlong; she's the kind of baby who makes your ovaries sing

Sorry, slightly inappropriate thing to say in the context but I hope that as a fellow adoptive mother I'll be forgiven

< snort> at hester

at Kristingle. I was thinking the other day how very unfluffy the adoption threaders are - which makes their warmth and friendship all the more valued. Very different from my time on the conception threads, where they were lovely but it was all a bit more, um, is girly an acceptable word to use?

We've lived life, haven't we ladies? Kristingle of course has managed to pack about five lives into her one

Speak for yourslef hester ( adopts affronted look)

Are you saying ive been around the block a bit??

All I'm saying is [coughs delicately] if I was in a bar ruck I rather think that Kristingle, Maryz and Kew would the ladies you'd want holding your coat...

thanks hester for giving everyone the impression that I'm built like a prop forward and snarl

And anyway (haven't seen photos yet) my ovaries have never been known to sing. They bleated a half hearted croak occasionally then gave up the ghost and moved onto more cerebral pastimes than singing (like piles of endless bureaucracy)

though now I come to think of it, I went to a very rough school and got followed home (with a friend) by a couple of young scrotes throwing cans at us. I lost my temper (a rare event I hasten to add) and picked one of said scrotes up by the hair, picked up off his feet! Then reported him to the deputy head the next day.

My friend was hyperventilating about us getting targeted but I was still so mad I didn't care. Thy never came near me again - though in retrospect I was probably lucky!

Kew

I can't see the video clip :( but the photo is very sweet and I'm hanging out for more!

Hey maryz and kew, d'you hear that? The big hairy lesbian thinks we are tough < puffs out chest, cracks knuckles>

Hmmm... Havent beaten up any social workers this week....

Oops sorry, just relaised this is happys serious thread about her new DD and not the " just ranting " one. Apolgies, happy, please come back and update us??

I have a couple of local social workers you could start on kristingle...kind of a New Year's bonus??!

Sorry for derailing Happy!

I'm enjoying the derailing, nothing like a good slagging fest. For the record, the only time my ovaries ever sang was when they were thoroughly drugged and even then they were decidedly off-tune but I loved your comment, Hester. She is so incredibly cute, why wouldn't she put the longing on you???

All great here, I can't remember what we used to do before she came. We've had 3 sets of unexpected visitors between yesterday and today and she was great. She sat on my lap and stared, gave the odd smile but if anyone tried to touch her, she did her 'jazz hands' ie pulled her hands back and held them up in an 'I surrender' pose (my kids in school called it jazz hands when I showed them a video of her).

Kew, two people have very kindly given her presents of a top that says the word 'lucky' and I thought of you! Already, so many people have said how lucky she is and we say, 'no, we're the lucky ones'. So I think I'll return those tops or else use my trusty sewing machine to appliqué the words 'my parents are...' above the word lucky!