ask fc about her whole routine, from when she gets up til when she goes to bed.
eg wnat kind of bed does she have? bedding? if she has a favourite duvet covre, see if you can keep ( offer to replace if necessary)
what she eats ( in detail) eg cornflakes not enought, is it tesco ones or kelloggs? kids that age can be VERY fussy and you dont want to add to stress in teh first few weeks. you can always change these things gradually
when does she bathe/shower? how does she have her hair washed? products used? tooth brushing? is she dry at night?
washing powder and fabric softener used ( so her clothes dont smell funny)
how does she wear her hair? haridressesr?
time of meals? when does she have hot meals> supper?
does she watch tv / dvds/ computer? favourte shows/ games / toys
favourite toys ( hopefully these will coem with her)
what things does she like / dislike?
medical / dental issues. is she used to male/ femail pratitioners?
bedtime routine? does she share a room? sleep with light on? have music/ stories?
what discipline / consequences does fc use?
just all the little details that make up the home life of a 3yo
defo hold off nursery for as long as you can - when are you going back to work? "having a routine" is not nearly so important as bonding in these first few months. but you probably need to put her name down now and get funding
HTH
remember to get get any contact with the birth family noted down at planning meeting. also ongoing contcat with FCs