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Wedding dilemma..

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andlipsticktoo · 07/01/2010 13:36

Our entire family was due to go to my dh's brother's wedding on saturday which has now been postponed for 2 weeks. The date of the wedding is now on exactly the same date as a National competition that my son has made it to as part of a robot designing and making club that he belongs to.

His group won the regional finals and is now in the National final, the winner of which will go to USA for the world finals. The problem is we had agreed he could go (before the wedding date changed) and have paid his accommodation fee (only £30), and I feel it is something that he will remember for the whole of his life. He is 13 and loves design technology.

I also feel it is important he is at his Uncle's wedding.

WWYD? I am so at odds with this.

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hannahsaunt · 07/01/2010 14:34

Another Robots vote here too . And if he needs a parent to accompany then you should go as the non-sibling of the groom.

LittleWhiteWolf · 07/01/2010 14:34

robots, hands down.
It important to have family around on a wedding, but its also important for your DS to get his reward for hard work. I;m sure your brother wont mind, especially as the date changed after your acceptance.

LittleWhiteWolf · 07/01/2010 14:34

DHs brother, sorry!

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FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010 · 07/01/2010 14:37

No idea what I would do but I think you should let your child go to this competition.

TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 07/01/2010 14:39

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MrsJohnDeere · 07/01/2010 14:42

robots, no question

MattSmithIsNotMyLoveSlave · 07/01/2010 14:53

Robots.

It is exactly as Rindercella said; your DS has a prior engagement.

MattSmithIsNotMyLoveSlave · 07/01/2010 14:55

(I'm not sure I've ever seen MN so unanimous on anything...)

TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 07/01/2010 15:06

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IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern · 07/01/2010 15:11

Another one for Robots as well.
I can understand the feeling that he should be at a family wedding but your ds and his team have worked very hard to achieve this and it is a huge thing and also although he is only 13 it is a cv type thing as well for future uni applications etc.

He would be devestated if you made him miss this and as others have said had the wedding been on the original date he would have been there.

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andlipsticktoo · 07/01/2010 16:10

Ah good I'm glad it's unanimous! I still can't help feeling we're letting them down though.

You're right, BIL will get over it far quicker than ds - but it's actually MIL that worries me!

The robotics thing is his passion, and he's always been pretty awful at sport (apart from swimming) so it's lovely for him to feel a crucial part of the team.

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cat64 · 07/01/2010 16:11

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Rindercella · 07/01/2010 16:13

cat64 - even more than that: it's a thread about children at weddings and still everyone is in agreement

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andlipsticktoo · 07/01/2010 16:15

No need to accompany him either as he's going with a school teacher.

I'm just dreading the "so where's ds1?" questioning and disapproval.

Thanks for your support on this. It has made the decision much easier.

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PurpleEglu · 07/01/2010 16:16

I think your MIL will have to have it explained to her what an achiievement your DS has made here. And also it is not his faultthe wedding is being changed. His event was booked for that date first.

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andlipsticktoo · 07/01/2010 16:16

Shocking indeed!

I thought people would be divided on this one!

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TheFallenMadonna · 07/01/2010 16:21

Robots. Write a card for him Get him to write a card to his uncle and aunt that can be read out with an awed explanation of why he can't be there (such an honour, what a clever boy etc). Then granparents can publically bask in the reflected glory too.

TheFallenMadonna · 07/01/2010 16:22

And it is such an honour and he is a v clever boy btw!

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andlipsticktoo · 07/01/2010 16:24

That's a brilliant idea TFM! Thanks, will do that. Then there will be no questioning afterwards at the reception, and possibly even coos of admiration!

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displayuntilbestbefore · 07/01/2010 16:26

another vote for robots comp - and an inspired suggestion from TheFallenMadonna!

TrillianAstra · 07/01/2010 16:27

Robots. No question.

His uncle is getting married, but the people getting married sees each guest for, what, approx 3 minutes?

gruber · 07/01/2010 16:30

Robots, no question. Well done to him! Agree with fallenMadonna too, a nice card would soothe troubled feelings I'm sure.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 07/01/2010 16:32

Robots - it is not his fault the wedding has been postponed and your BIL should recognise that.

cakeywakey · 07/01/2010 16:35

Yep, another vote for robots. It's an amazing opportunity for him and I'm sure that people will understand. The card is a great idea too. Just a shame that the wedding date was moved, it can't be helped.

TrillianAstra · 07/01/2010 16:38

There reall yis no question, is there gruber?