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Should I buy Call of Duty 6 for ds2 or risk him being bullied?

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Stayingsunnygirl · 11/11/2009 17:05

Ds2 (14 yo) has had a horrible time in school so far, being bullied in junior school, in his old senior school, and with some bullying since we moved to Scotland, though he does have more friends up here than he had down south.

He is desperate to get Call of Duty6, which is an 18 certificate. Both dh and I are opposed to this, because we feel it is too violent and we are not prepared to let him have it.

In the past, we have let the boys have games with a higher age certificate than their ages, but only when we felt that we were OK with the content. Also they've sometimes played games at other people's houses, and whilst it may be a bit wet of me, I've sometimes let them have games that they have already played, on the basis that you can't unring the bell.

Dh hasn't always been redhot on observing certificates either, so I do know we are on a slightly shaky foundation by refusing this game - though we have never let them have an 18 game or film before.

I have just had ds2 pleading with me in tears to get this game for him. He says that everyone in his year at school has got the game, and that the Neds (not sure what they are, just that they are a big influential group of bullies) have already bullied someone whose parents wouldn't get him the game.

Ds2 says that he will be miserable because he will get bullied by the Neds for not having the game. Also his friends will all be playing it, and chatting to eachother online whilst doing so, and he will be excluded from this because he won't have the game, so his afternoons will be unhappy too.

What would you do - get him the game against your better judgement, or refuse to get the game, uphold your own principles and risk your child getting bullied?

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mrsjammi · 11/11/2009 18:04

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Hullygully · 11/11/2009 18:04

I'd get it too.

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FabIsJustSoBusy · 11/11/2009 18:08

I don't know anything about the game but I wouldn't be dictated too by bullies.

If he is being bullied go into school and sort it out, rather than buying your son something you don't really want him to have, and legally shouldn't have, just because some other kids don't know how to behave.

Hullygully · 11/11/2009 18:09

It's not you that would be dictated to by bullies - it's the poor boy. Unfortunately life is easier if you fit in to some extent and this stuff matters (I have a 13 yr old ds).

SouthMum · 11/11/2009 18:11

Id buy it, not to appease the bullies mind you. I'm not one to stress about the certificates on games. He's probably see worse violence on the telly.

TennisFan · 11/11/2009 18:15

I got it and my DS is only 10!
He plays much worse at his cousins - so I am OK with it.

princessmel · 11/11/2009 18:15

I'd get it.
Dh has just got it for himself. I read this thread to him and he said the game is really not that bad.
He did say if it was Grand Theft Auto it would be a definate 'no'.

Some Dc's who are 13 and their friends play it.(I used to nanny for them )

BertieBotts · 11/11/2009 18:16

Do you know any of his friends' parents well enough to check out the claim that "all" his friends play on it and chat online etc? DH used to play one of the Call of Duty games and it did have an online chat feature, you could just play with friends as well which is what he often did. I hated it though TBH and won't let him play it in front of DS - it's constant machine gun noise and frequent swearing. I suppose though from a moral standpoint the game's base (being in the army) is better than things like Grand Theft Auto (famous for the ability to murder prostitutes) or Hitman (which is about being a murderer).

Scorps · 11/11/2009 18:17

I wouldn't get the game. DH has it and it's incredibly violent, including torture and slaughter scenes, as well as the point blank range shooting and stabbing. It's a very adult game.

BertieBotts · 11/11/2009 18:17

Oh and BTW "Ned" is the Scottish term for "Chav"

princessmel · 11/11/2009 18:19

That's true, a lot of swearing. Plus you can hear other people talking online, who you don't know, and they swear also.

But dh says you can mute the voices of people you don't know.

I don't let him play it when the dc's are up. They are 4 and 6 (and 2 weeks!)

Docbunches · 11/11/2009 18:20

Under the circumstances you've described re bullying, etc, and assuming that your DS is in Y10 (or one of the oldest Y9s); I would let him have it as well.

My DS, who is 14.5 and in Y10, is probably going to buy it for himself soon as he says everyone in his year has it already - although that's probably a slight exaggeration. But, I know where you're coming from.

Stayingsunnygirl · 11/11/2009 18:23

Thanks everyone - definite food for thought here.

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MamaG · 11/11/2009 18:25

I'm afraid I agree with scorps. They aren't really suitable for under 18s. I'm very at TennisFan letting a 10 year old play it

Stayingsunnygirl · 11/11/2009 18:25

And re. the bullying - when he has told me about incidents of bullying, I have gone into the school and dealt with them - this is a potential bullying incident, and I'm not sure if the school can take action until something's actually happened, iyswim.

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BertieBotts · 11/11/2009 18:59

Also I will just say - probably not a problem for a 14/15 year old, but when DH used to play online with the chat feature activated sometimes he would be playing with a group of people and it would be very obvious that one of the players was very young, probably early teens/preteen, and the older/adult players were being really mean to him, swearing at him etc, he was only being enthusiastic (possibly a bit annoying - DH muted it after a while at this time) and there was no need for the way they were speaking to him. So if you get it and he plays online it might be an idea if he only plays with people he knows. Maybe if you get the game you could restrict it to online play only, and say he can play the "story" part when he is older?

mumblechum · 11/11/2009 19:14

Soz in a hurry, d/know if anyone's told you but you can opt for a non-gore version at the beginning of the gam.e

WhatDidISayRoy · 11/11/2009 19:18

aah thanks mumble so there is deffo a non gore button thingy?

JANEITEisntErudite · 11/11/2009 19:25

Are there two threads on this? I am frankly astonished that anybody would consider giving this to a ten year old.

OP - I am so sorry that your son is being bullied - but buying an 18 game won't cure this problem.

copperjar · 11/11/2009 19:27

I think that if he plays it at friends' houses is by the by. You need to parent by your own standards, not everybody else's.

Chickenshavenolips · 11/11/2009 19:31

My DH works in the games industry, and he won't let our DS's play anything outside of the recommended age restrictions. These games are pushing the boundaries all the time.

WhatDidISayRoy · 11/11/2009 19:34

yes there are 2 thread, but don't think anyone is saying they are letting a 10 year old play it. Think it is year 10

JANEITEisntErudite · 11/11/2009 19:36

See below - Tennisfan.

WhatDidISayRoy · 11/11/2009 19:44

oh

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