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Jade to marry Jack. Is is awful of me to wonder......

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chipmonkey · 16/02/2009 15:54

if he's just doing this so he'll be entitled to her money after her death? Could her little boys lose out?

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kerryk · 17/02/2009 15:33

i cant remember the last time i was so upset about something in the news. i am the least emotional person alive but i feel heartbroken about this and i cant even stand jade goody.

must be bacause we are the same age and my 2 dc are just slightly older than hers.

i cant even begin to imagine what she must be going through knowing her boys will grow up without a mum and i suppose there financial future is the only thing she has any control over now

i actually caught the last ten minutes of her reality show last night where she was wrapping up the boys xmas presents and leaving santa footprints and the floor. how sad to think that was the last time she would ever do it

mshadowsisfab · 17/02/2009 15:41

compo you and me both, the bloke is disgusting, must be horrid to see him gtting all this attention. I wouldn't want a bloke like that anywhere near 2 small boys.

DollyMessiter · 17/02/2009 15:50

I don't think any of them will win the Nobel Peace prize.

It did occur to me that if Jade has been misdiagnosed by her previous hospital (as claimed by Max Clifford in a recent interview), it might be less stressful for all of them if she were to instruct a legal team to pursue damages for that, with the money going to her children.

That way she could spend her remaining days peacefully surrounded by her children, friends and family, and not be driven by this dreadful and relentless pressure to sell every remaining moment of her life.

I expect Max Clifford would object though; unless he's working pro bono, of course.

I just wish someone would afford her some dignity, as she seems incapable of demanding it for herself.

AnyFucker · 17/02/2009 16:12

errr, at the risk of stirring up another hornets nest, the bit about Jade being misdiagnosed is not strictly true

she herself has admitted missing hospital appointments in the past, and went to the Indian Big Brother show against medical advice

I am not trying to bring her down, and I wish her all the best in the world, but this "misdiagnosis" thing is misleading and it is wrong of Max C to attempt to put this kind of spin on it

DollyMessiter · 17/02/2009 18:02

She says in this interview that she didn't go to India against medical advice.

www.juicyuk.com/2008/09/jade-goody-on-gmtv.html

It's all a bit confusing, and terribly sad.

SybilFaulty · 17/02/2009 23:32

Dolly - if she were to pursue a claim, she would find it very hard work and stressful, which would only compound the difficulties of her last few months. Aside from additional appointments etc, she would have to prove that the delay caused her condition to become incurable, rather than the fact that her cancer is of a particularly aggressive type, which may be very hard to do.

Earlier on someone mentioned wills and spouses. You do not have to leave your spouse anything in the will, though if you don't they could have a claim under the Inheritance Act if they could say they were being supported by you and expected that the support would continue. Equity would only become an issue if a spouse were claiming they were entitled to, say, a share in a house where they had contributed to the property without being on the title deeds.

Poor woman, I hope that she can live her remaining months in peace, with Jack if it makes her happy.

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chipmonkey · 18/02/2009 00:51

Oh God, it occurred to me afterwards that someone said before that Jade was a MNer. If so, I really am sorry, my OP was crass, but did reflect what I was thinking and would be thinking if she were my own daughter.

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gagamama · 18/02/2009 13:02

"i feel for the family of the boy beaten up to be homest, what must they think everytime they see his smiling face in the papers"

Well I highly doubt it's 'lucky him, he's watching his fiancee die having spent most of the final months of her life in prison, this is nowhere close to justice for being bashed with a golf club and I'm so envious of how easy he's had things'.

I mean, gosh, beating someone up with a golf club is awful, but he's hardly some smug, gloating prat on probation. He's having to watch the woman he loves die and there's not a thing he can do to get those months of her life back that he missed.

MiaS · 19/02/2009 13:57

I feel so sorry for Jade Goody, but I do have to question her decision not to tell her children what's going to happen. I understand that she's trying to protect them but all this nonsense about shampoo and tadpoles isn't going to do any good in the long run. Imagine how confused and frightened they'll be when they wake up one day and she isn't there. Surely there must be professionals involved with her case who could advise her about how to broach the subject?

poopscoop · 19/02/2009 14:01

I'm sure she will broach the subject when the time is right. The tadpole thingy is quite common to use to start with as very young children cannot comprehend anything in much greater depth than that.

She probably had to accept the idea of death herself first, which is truly dreadful for anyone to contemplate, and when she feels a bit more at peace with it, she will more than likely tell the boys.

BabyBaby123 · 19/02/2009 19:31

i am suspicious of jack, i think if he truly wanted to marry her he would have done it a while ago BUT she wants to marry him and that's all that matters. Surely all that matters now is her happiness? and if she can pass away knowing she fulfilled her wish to marry then who are we to judge? I'm sure both Jade and Max Clifford are on the ball enough to ensure that her money and estate goes to her children

SalmonFromTheLiffey · 19/02/2009 21:39

Chip, completely agree, he's cheated on her several times and she always takes him back. He's not a great guy, and fgs, he's only about 22. What 22 yo would be mature enough to handle their partner dying really.

I was also worried that all her hardwork wouldn't be for nothing if JT walked off with it.

BabyBaby123 · 19/02/2009 22:02

chipmonkey - i wouldn't worry - i doubt she would be on Mumsnet now tbh!! and your post was not awful - there is some truly terrible stuff being written about her elsewhere, places like Facebook, I can not understand anyone being horrible about a dying young mother - it's just sick

SalmonFromTheLiffey · 20/02/2009 16:11

Maybe Jack Tweed fancies himself as Jade's widower iyswim. I don't think much of him. I wish Jade could have found somebody nicer than him to spend her last few years with.

BabyBaby123 · 20/02/2009 16:47

i'm pleased to see Jack's bail conditions have been altered. He can now stay with Jade until 3pm on Monday....

Flightattendant27 · 20/02/2009 16:57

I'm not sure at all what to think nor whether it's any of my business really. For all I know he might be a great guy and love her to bits.

But I am suspicious of anyone who only decides to marry their (very wealthy) partner when it's confirmed that they aren't going to have to stay with them for very long, ie the poor woman is about to die.

Combined with the fact he's not been faithful to her thus far I find his behaviour (and the fact he's getting away with it) startling. I hope the children get the benefit of her estate. He can sort himself out.

Flightattendant27 · 20/02/2009 17:00

Although perhaps I have read far too much Agatha Christie...

SalmonFromTheLiffey · 20/02/2009 18:40

Flight, I thought that too. Not really a commitment is it?

If it turns out he's legally entitled to that money as her widower, he's going to happily accept it isn't he?

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