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Jade to marry Jack. Is is awful of me to wonder......

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chipmonkey · 16/02/2009 15:54

if he's just doing this so he'll be entitled to her money after her death? Could her little boys lose out?

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saladsucks · 16/02/2009 15:56

I read that she'd made a will to look after them. I assume she was advised that marriage invalidates a will and she'll need to re-sign it afterwards.

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poopscoop · 16/02/2009 15:56

there is a thread going on about this at the mo a bit further down avtice convos and you should find it.

(just incase you didnt get much response here)

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AnyFucker · 16/02/2009 15:57

I believe Jade is setting up a trust fund for her boys, that hopefully he cannot touch.

I too would be a bit suss about his actions, I hope that she is taking some good legal advice.

Tbh, though, if it makes her happy.....

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chipmonkey · 16/02/2009 15:57

Thanks, poopscoop! Can't find any threads with this fecking new layout!

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Marne · 16/02/2009 15:58

She's trying to make as much money as possible for her boys before she dies, i'm sure she will make sure they get there fare share.
[SAD]

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poopscoop · 16/02/2009 15:58

oh, it is a In the News topic, saying jade goody has months to live. not good at links, soz.

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NAB09 · 16/02/2009 15:58

Yes, it is awful of you to wonder that.

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herbietea · 16/02/2009 16:01

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chipmonkey · 16/02/2009 16:03

Why, because he's such a lovely guy?

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thisisyesterday · 16/02/2009 16:05

did he propose? or did they decide it mutually.

I actually don't think she is anywhere near as daft as she makes out. she will make sure those boys are provided for

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poopscoop · 16/02/2009 16:06

nab and herbie - It is not the OP being awful wondering that. She has the same evidence as the rest of us, that he has not been the most loyal and loving partner.

One cannot help but wonder what his motive is. Obviously we would all love to believe that he is doing it because he loves her dearly, but unfortunately his track record would make anyone doubt his intentions.

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EldonAve · 16/02/2009 16:08

I thought I saw mention that she would marry within a week or so - I thought you always needed 2 weeks notice in England
Maybe they'll just have a fake wedding and get the OK! mag cheque

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 16/02/2009 16:09

Was what I thought aswell.

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poopscoop · 16/02/2009 16:10

i have a feeling you can marry under 'special licence' which is used at times such as this.

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chipmonkey · 16/02/2009 16:11

The reason this occurred to me is because I know someone who has a dp but also dc from a previous relationship and the reason she will not marry her dp is because he would be legally entitled to her house and even if she were to leave her house to her dc's, he could contest this and win. The person I know has AFAIK taken legal advice on this.
And I'm not naiive enough to think everyone marries for love.

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herbietea · 16/02/2009 16:55

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SybilFaulty · 16/02/2009 16:59

Chipmonkey, in the situation that you mention the DP would not auto get the house if he married. The intestacy rules don't work like that. If no will and spouse dies leaving spouse plus children, survivor gets £125K plus a life interest in half the rest. If the house was in W's sole name, that would count towards some fo the £125 (or all dep on value).

If you leave a will, you can leave what you want to whoever you want.

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chipmonkey · 16/02/2009 18:19

Thanks, Sybil, I did wonder about the childrens' legal rights. Bad enough to be left without a mother without being left financially insecure. And she does seem to have taken on a lot of work in order to provide for them at a time when she really should be resting, I would hate to think it was all for nothing
Herbie, the word I used was "wonder". I certainly didn't state is as fact that this was his motivation for marrying her.

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ElfOnTheTopShelf · 16/02/2009 18:24

there are reports on Yahoo that Elton John is going to host the wedding at his place, and that Harrods have donated a wedding dress.
I think it is lovely that people show their giving side in such awful circumstances, but find the whole situation really sad, she is my age, and it seems far, far too young.

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poppy34 · 16/02/2009 18:27

agree that on past evidence he is not hte best - but if it makes her happy and being cynical if it gives her someting to sell on for the kids (ie wedding photos) maybe something will come of it...

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ElfOnTheTopShelf · 16/02/2009 18:34

if she has got all her money sorted out (for eg in trust funds etc for the kids, and a will signed after the wedding) it isn't like he is going to be able to hurt her, and if it makes her happy for her last few months, who are we to pass comment?

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MaplePecanPlait · 16/02/2009 18:39

maybe he just loves her!

I can imagine alot of people doing the same in this situation.

Also Jade is not that stupid and she will be getting legal advice without a doubt!

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wannaBe · 16/02/2009 19:03

IMO there are some huge double standards wrt this situation.

Now I haven't made any secret of the fact that I don't like this whole publicity thing at all and my stance on this hasn't changed. But...

Before her illness, Jade was an intensely disliked individual, following her actions on Celebrity (and I use the term loosely) big brother. But since she has become ill it would seem that all that has been put in the past and that we must forgive and forget because she is dying. But for some reason that principal doesn't apply to her loved ones?

Regardless of what Jack has done in the past, his partner is dying, and maybe, just maybe, he is hurting too? Maybe, just maybe, the fact she is dying has made him realize what he has done in the past? Sometimes we don't know what we've got until we've lost it.

Regardless of people's personal views on cheating partners, Jade has obviously forgiven him, and wants to spend the rest of her life (and for her the rest of her life will probably be the next few weeks) with him, and he with her.

IMO it is no less distasteful to judge the past misdemeaners of the bereaved partner than it is to judge the one who is dying.

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mshadowsisfab · 16/02/2009 19:05

wannabe, I would worry more about a man who beat a 16 yr old boy bad enough to get a prison sentance, being arround children, than money tbh,

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ScoobyDoo · 16/02/2009 19:10

I agree with you wannabe.

Has anyone ever thought that maybe just maybe she wants to leave Jack some money or something anyway?

Is it really anyone elses business? the why's and what if's have nothing to do with anyone else but Jade and her family.

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