the circle of life goes round and round in circles

[ABloke]

Is that Circle.... strange word.

Have it spelt it properly?

Bye M.

It was great chatting, a good start to the day.

give dh a squeeze on the arm from me

Not too tight though, you may cut off his circulation

bless her ,my mum bought round a huge box of washing powder and a pack of 24 toilet rolls for dd after her partner took money out of the bank last week and left dd with 45pence ! we have helped her out and my aunt and uncle gave her an envelope which when she opened it had £200 in it and one of my brothers gave her £45 too so she is ok again now.They have all been so good,dd wasnt going to take any of it and when i gave it to her she cried,but when i said to her ,would she help a family member if she could she said yes,so i just said well thats exactly the same as what they are doing now for you.i have it here in the safe for her ,so she now has a little cushion if she needs it.everything is a problem these days.

good morning ,news from dh last night was that his sis had another lot of fluid drained and was happier as it meant she could breathe a lot easier ,also seems like the blood transfusion was beginning to help her a bit.Dh said she slept a lot.The macmillan people are now going to be involved which is good news for her dh as he has been struggling to cope with it all.Someone is going to provide a special bed which she can use whilst at home,im not sure who,so dh thinks if they can keep draining and giving her new blood she may have a bit longer,but of course this is only his own thoughts.I hope it does and that she can have many more weeks and that she can be here to hear if her son will graduate ,that is her dearest wish .I think thats about June.I am so grateful that i have all my family living locally ,dh,s family are all over the place and so they dont get to see each other very often.Whereas all my family are within a two mile radius from me.If dh,s sister was closer,we could do a lot more to help them.catch you later

im afraid m optimism was badly wrong this time ,we have had a call tonight to say that dh,s sis is now not expected to live past the weekend ,they have found by a scan it has spread to her liver, we cant believe it and we are are just stunned ,especially after dh saw her yesterday and she had picked up a bit.she is being sent home tomorrow with a nurse and a hospital bed,so this weekend i will be going up this time with dh.I dont know what to say to him ,but know how he must be feeling.I didnt have any words ,i just gave him a hug.he has gone to the quiz as normal but said he may come home early.

That's hard, M.

I'm sending thoughts of love and strength to your dh and the rest of the family, especially his sister, at this very difficult time.

dh is now wavering about going up tomorrow ,he has always had a sort of fear about death and is afraid she may die in front of him,also if his sis bed is in the lounge,where can we all go ,we need to ensure that her husband and sons have lots of time with her on their own , but of course it may well of changed overnight and she wont be allowed to go home at all.We are in limbo until we hear something.The trouble is that all dh,s siblings live in different towns,quite a way apart from each other and so we have been talking about all aspects of this too ,is it going to be too much for her and her dh to have us all converge on him,he is in a bad enough state already.We just dont know what is best.How can this happen so quickly ? It was only on monday they said a few weeks,it all seems like a bad dream and its hard to know what to say to my dh to comfort him.

I think he has to go with whatever is inner self is telling to him to do.

The practicalities shouldn't get in the way of simply being with her, surrounding her with love and comfort but it's very, very difficult.

its also the fact that there will be his siblings and their other halves ,the two sons and their other halves too ,i think our brother in law will find it all too much ,he is in a terrible state now.We just dont know tnog what to do ,i will have to go by what dh wants to do, but he said how can he go and visit her then leave to come home,he is having lots of different thoughts about it,we were talking about everything still at 3 am this morning.But as i said,things may of changed overnight and until we hear from his other sister we dont really know how things are.It has been an enormous shock for them all.

ml - life is too short. Maybe it would be nice to talk about the funny and good times with your dh and sit and listen to his thoughts. I have no idea, what would be best for you and your dh, but talking about happy times they shared is sad but also so comforting. Dash Poem

• a wonderful and has been mentioned on MN before

off for a while now ,hopefully can catch you a bit later if you are around,or do you have to work all day ? if so then maybe i can find you tonight .

thankyou FD, do i know you already ????

No work today, M, but lots of other shtuff to do, hopefully I'll catch you later.

I'll be thinking about how I'm spending my dash today, I think.

Great poem and very true and wise words.

yes they are lovely words tnog.And FD is correct life is too short.I am feeling very odd today,cant put my finger on it ,dh had a massive nose bleed yesterday,i think his bp shot up and he also hasnt been taking his pills.And that was before he got the latest news.Probably through stress i expect.I was going to do such a lot today but cant motivate myself very well.Its not for myself i feel sad,its for dh and all his side of the family, and of course for his sister,who over the last couple of years has gone through such a lot.We all have to live for today,and enjoy what we have already i think.

the light has dawned FD !

right ,i am going to do something usefull to keep me busy,see you later

hi Nogface ;) woz you up to?

Sorry to hear M.

Ms Minogue face.

hehe

FD do you have a HUGE back garden?

It's difficult coming to an open internet forum and knowing someone is reading your every fecking word, but not THAT difficult, that it would stop one from posting...... and I apologise if I offended anyone with talking about suicide the other week.

I was not laughing about it, as some would say I was just stating a fact...or something.

anyway.

cheerio for now.

FP, I iz tappin biros, init.

FO, 'stay a little longer'

I did have PMT, it was the worst I have had for ages. I really must get it checked out and DO something about it. But I guess you can still be a moody hobnob around that time and then my PMT just manifest itself to make my the worst touchy, sensitive, unsymapthetic bossy boots around.

Everything is fine now, by comparison to what everyone else is putting up with, so to speak. Should be play somewhere else>> Chat threads disappear after 90 days you know. They aren't meant to hang around for long?

goes round and round and sits and looks and waits, why do they do that?

"why won't you staaaay, just a little bit longeer"

are we abandoning this one now?

Its 999 post

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its very full here

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