Lost it with DD and she is now ignoring my calls

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Found out that my teenage DD lied to me and went to meet up with an older guy instead of heading to the city with her friend. I called her and was angry, and she has been ignoring all messages and attempts to call her. I'm worried that I have now pushed her further away and that she might not come home now.

I'm absolutely horrified and mad at the same time, and not sure if there is anything else I can do. I've already messaged her and told her that it's all ok and that we can talk things through but she has not read the message.

She's 16 and has become quite challenging lately.

How old are we talking?

do you have life360 or similar?

Who pays for this phone you’re texting her on. If she’s got a job and working then she can see who she likes. If she’s at school
and you’re paying for her phone, clothes, and she’s under your roof then she should be grounded with no phone.

We generally have location tracking enabled but she seems to have turned it off. She's done that before though so this is nothing new.
He's in his 30s and I have his workplace and name.

That will push her away even more. Punishments like that don't really work with 16 year olds.

Who told you who she was meeting?

I asked her outright because she had mentioned him before and seen him with her friend (who she claimed to be with today, but this turned out to be a lie). She didn't deny it.

That's a ridiculously stupid punishment
That will push her further into the arms of this older man.. who will no doubt replace her phone and maybe want a different type of payment .. come on

What is wrong with all these men?! Especially with the news at the moment; you'd think they'd be being more careful!
To be honest, on Monday morning I'd turn up at his work and confront him loudly in front of as many colleagues as possible. Probably totally the wrong thing to do, but I'd be so mad!

Sounds like a good way to get yourself removed by security.

In his thirties is old. I don’t blame you for being concerned. They think they know it all when they are 16.

I think you have done the right thing by messaging her to say all is well, even though it’s not actually true!