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If someone has asked you pop round at tea time

90 replies

MyDuvetDay · 10/10/2026 15:09

What time are you popping round?

OP posts:
Matzochist · 10/10/2026 15:55

Between 4 and 5pm

AmnesiacDream · 10/10/2026 15:55

If I didn't know anything else about them, 4pm - 6pm, probably closer to 4.

Naurrr · 10/10/2026 16:00

I'd ask the actual time. Where I live, tea is a drink(that I don't have) not a dinner time, which would be different for every house.

TicklishReader · 10/10/2026 16:00

I would assume 6 pm, but I would clarify first.

DaftHapeth · 10/10/2026 16:00

Teatime is 5ish.

I live in an area where we say tea instead of dinner. However, tea is something fairly casual you’d eat at home between say 5 and 7. After that (or if going out, or inviting friends for food) it’s definitely dinner. Tea would feel wrong for a big nice meal later in the evening; that’s dinner.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 10/10/2026 16:00

5-5.30

Seeline · 10/10/2026 16:02

Tea time around 3.30.
5 onwards is heading towards dinner time!

changing47 · 10/10/2026 16:02

5-6 is tea time. I eat my tea at 8-9 though.

GameOfJones · 10/10/2026 16:03

5pm

notanothernamesurely · 10/10/2026 16:04

I’d ask them for a time. That would drive me mad 😂

quequerido · 10/10/2026 16:04

Between 3 &4. Tea as the evening meal just isn’t a thing here. There would be no confusion.

honeylulu · 10/10/2026 16:04

I'd have to ask for clarity as it could be any time from around 4pm to around 6.30pm? Or perhaps later if they use "tea" to mean cooked evening meal.

sohard · 10/10/2026 16:05

5pm ish

changing47 · 10/10/2026 16:08

redfishcat · 10/10/2026 15:53

I’d ask them to define tea time, is it afternoon tea of cake and a cuppa or full on evening meal.
3-4 pm for the former and dinner (known as tea in some areas of the U.K. )can be from 5 pm to 8 pm

Tea time is a time of day related to an evening meal. It doesn’t matter if you’re eating food or shotting gin. Same as dinner time (or lunch time) means 12pm regardless of whether you’re meeting at dinner time to eat dinner or to have an orgy.

anunlikelyunicorn · 10/10/2026 16:09

4-4:45, anything after 5PM would be high tea.

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 10/10/2026 16:09

In the South and Northern middle/upper class, 4ish, working class Northern 6-6.30

Dontevenlookatme · 10/10/2026 16:10

“Teatime” is not afternoon tea, it’s early dinner, so I’d think they meant 5 ish onwards, earlier if there are small children involved. I’d have to ask.

rainbowstardrops · 10/10/2026 16:11

The question is so vague!

Are they popping in for a cup of tea, or to eat, or to drop something off or similar?
Do you have small children, or older children, or no children?

Honestly, how can anyone answer this based on barely any context?

Girlintheframe · 10/10/2026 16:12

Around 5-5.30

FlatCatYellowMat · 10/10/2026 16:17

4-4:30 - but if I knew they had secondary kids I'd push it more to 5:30

BCBird · 10/10/2026 16:20

5ish

Greenandyellowday · 10/10/2026 17:04

Punctually at 4pm and expect to leave by 5pm at the latest, if invited for tea.

But when they say tea time, they might actually mean dinner time, so I'd have to ask them for a more specific time.

However, "pop round at tea time" doesn't (imo) imply an invitation to either dinner or tea, though a few posters are assuming it does. It depends on the context.

Maybe they've just offered to lend you their Downton boxed set / punchbowl / second-best secateurs/ marmalade pan / skateboard. In that case, I'd expect the door to open as I/you approach and to be handed said item without being invited inside at all.

Anyway, I'd just ask "four o'clock?" And see what they said.

Am overthinking this topic, as a distraction exercise to avoid going up to the attic - no, not for Xmas decs! It's practically dusk now, and my excuse is that I don't like going up there in the dark 🤔 Procrastination accomplished. Thanks 😊

Freshrain · 10/10/2026 17:08

5 - 6.30

But, it would depend on why I was 'popping round'.
I read it as if I were dropping something off / picking something off and them saying they'd be in around tea time so any time around then, not 'going round for tea and cake' like some others are interpreting.

If I were being 'invited' (to eat or drink or have a meeting) I'd clarify what that meant for them.

ToadRage · 10/10/2026 17:13

4 and turn up with cake.

BeSharpHelper · 10/10/2026 17:18

Teatime is 5 ish , aroundabout . But anytime between 4-6 is acceptable .