DB and SIL have been struggling with infertility for a number of years. They are now moving onto donor egg ivf after 3 years no success doing ivf themselves, apparently it’s pretty guaranteed to have a result with donor eggs so they are feeling positive.
SIL has started shopping for baby things and seems much happier (a good thing I thought?) after struggling for years I think she feels relief ? She’s been very open about it and has talked about what she has bought and what she is planning to buy.
DM thinks it’s awful and is privately planning an ‘intervention’. I’m trying my hardest to tell her to not involve herself but she is saying SIL is always talking about it so it’s hardly a taboo subject. She has called her deranged and made nasty comments to me about the fact it’s not ethical .
The other issue is that I also have a much younger dsis who isn’t well off and DM is fuming that SIL is buying expensive stuff when Dsis has basics so I said to DM if she’s bothered then she could offer to upgrade Dsis buggy etc rather than criticise SIL for what she is doing ?
I can see the whole situation blowing up right before Xmas at this rate and I can’t get DM to just drop it !!!