Do your children call your friends by first names or aunt and uncle?

[TwentytoTwelve]

What do you expect/what do your children call your friends ie if they’re called Mark is it Uncle Mark or Aunt Rachel or just Mark?

First names.

In terms of actual aunts and uncles - first names too, unless they're winding them up. When they were under 10 they called them Auntie/Uncle

I hate being called Auntie.

They don't even call my siblings Aunt and Uncle. I think that's died out really

I'm on my way to 70.
My parents were onlies so I had no aunts or uncles.
My grandmother's friends were known by their first names; neighbours/acquaintances Mrs or Miss.
Ditto my mother's friends although only neighbours older than her were Mrs/Miss.
Initially I called my friends' mothers Mrs x, but I can't remember a single one who didn't say "oh call me Joan/Margaret/Anita", etc.

Our DC call DH's sisters and their partners Auntie x and Uncle y. They call our friends, including their Godparents by their first names. Why would they call them auntie or uncle when they aren't related? Nobody does this in our circles.

We are quite traditional and calling grown ups Mrs and Mrs is very very dated in my experience, except for teachers. The last time a grown up addressed me with my first name and exoected me to use their totle was at school, in 1978. except in the NHS but I correct that.

It's 2026: not 1946.

Maybe just the folk I know then 😆

No, not at all. Many of us still are part of loving, extended families. I think in some demographics, the concept of the family has been killed over years but it's more a cultural thing as they moved towards individualism.

My friend became godmother to DD and somehow she was called 'Auntie C'.

When she was little, we'd just call our friends by their first names in front of her. When she went to school, I made really good friends with five Mum's in her class, and she always refer to them as 'J's Mum, M's Dad. Funnily enough, we're still friends, she's still friends/in contact with their children but now refers to them by their full names, ie 'Charlotte Johnson' - I think that's because we've got two friends with one name, three with another, and three other people I know and talk about with the same name

In my family all the children call their actual aunts and uncles by their first names generally. So I’m not ‘Aunty Soon’, I’m just ‘Soon’.
Interestingly, I’ve taught children from particular countries that call all their teachers ‘Auntie’.

First names - they are not their aunts or uncles.

Uncle or auntie. My kids are in their 40s and still address then as such.
Tradition in South Africa is that ANYONE 10 years older than you was uncle or auntie or "oubaas and ounooi "

Also in Asian cultures.
The aunties are a fearsome bunch!
Meera Syal has just released her memoir called " Vigilauntie".

Obviously first name!

I didn't even call my parents' friends 'auntie' or 'uncle' when I was little!

First names. Very close friend is Uncle, however. He's known them since they were born, fed them, changed them, paced up and down singing to them when they had colic, so he earned that title lol. Much older cousins are also Aunty/Uncle, despite not actually being one.

All my DCs’ friends call me by my first name. I don’t mind if friends’ DCs call me Aunty Firstname, which does occasionally happen. As long they are polite, that is all I care about.

Oddly, quite a lot of family friends get called Auntie/Uncle (it’s not really my thing but seems to be a local custom) whereas actual aunts and uncles are addressed by first name only! I also get called by my first name for the most part! Could be quite confusing to an outsider!

First names. My children even called their real aunts and uncles by their first names as do my Grandchildren

DH is Asian, I'm English. As a general rule, with a few exceptions on both sides, our Asian friends are mostly auntie and uncle while our English friends are just their names. With friends from other cultures...it depends!

I have heared great things about Asian Aunties. The world needs more of them. Whip this lot into shape in no time 😄

Gosh. I am part of a very large and very close knit extended family here in Ireland. We just don't use the term Aunt and Uncle any more. That doesn't mean we are not loving. Your comment is very judgemental and odd.

My Irish family would never allow children to address elders by their first names like they are their mates.

Well it's very coming amount my Irish family and friends

As a child it was i occasionally aunt or uncle but as I got older it got less.

At what age does someone cross the threshold?

They did when they were little and gradually dropped it as they reached adulthood.

What threshold?

When they get the honour of calling their elders by their first name?