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Just want to tell you all about Mrs W.

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JustrememberingMrsW · 23/09/2026 18:44

Just feeling a bit emotional this evening about my childhood.

Usual story, abuse, neglect, stepdad, mother who only wanted sons etc. It was about as bad as it could be really.

Sometimes I dwell on the bad stuff, then I remember Mrs W. She probably saved my life.

I was always filthy, I wasn't allowed to shower or bath unless my stepdad was in there with me so I just didn't do it. My clothes were often dirty or too small. She often had 'spare' clothes or shoes that didnt fit her daughter, my friend, and would tell me to try them on and then just wear them for the day. When i stayed over she said there was a family rule that everyone had to bathe each night and ran me the loveliest baths with bubbles and fancy soaps, it was heaven.

I would call on my friend in the mornings to walk to school, and Mrs W had always made too much breakfast, and overdid the sandwiches for lunch and would offer me the extras. As well as fruit that was about to turn so had to be eaten.

I told my friend when I started my period, and she obviously told her mum, her mum put leaflets and pads into my bag and never said a word, she put pads in there every month.

The way i viewed all of the things she did when I was a child/young teen is very different to how I see it now.

Now I know there were never extras, she made the stuff for me, she bought the clothes and shoes for me, the fruit wasn't going to turn, she just wanted to make sure I had something to eat later. There was no family rule about baths either.

Many years later, at this angels funeral, I spoke to her daughter and told her all about the things her mum did, she had no idea, she also hadn't realised, and her mum never said a word. She just quietly did what she could and never uttered a word.

No point to this post really, I just wanted to tell someone about Mrs W, I really wish she had been my Mum.

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Rescuedog12 · 25/09/2026 08:40

Mrs W was an angel.So lovely you had her.that made me cry, and remember someone kind from my childhood. Mr.Pearson.he was the headmaster of my primary school. I wasn't neglected to your extent.i was clean and fed with no predatory step father, but there was no attention/affection and I didn't feel liked..i used to get myself up for school so had no breakfast, and was humiliated for that by my teacher who asked everyone what they had for breakfast and wrote it on the board.when I said I had nothing for breakfast he wrote " nothing"..anyway, I was constantly sent to Mr Pearson for doing silly things in class( not paying attention ,talking etc.i suspect adhd but was never diagnosed) my "punishment" was sitting at an adjoining desk , sharpening pencils or sorting papers.i felt happy and wanted.one day I bent a fork at lunch and was told to stand in the hall untill Mr.Pearson came back from lunch.i felt ashamed as I'd let him down.i was dreading seeing him.when he walked in he said "oh, what are you doing here?"..I said I bent a fork..he said "And you got caught? rotten luck, off you go"..I wish adult me had had the chance to thank him.

wineandcrispsplease · 25/09/2026 08:42

Beautiful, this brought a tear to my eye

TrtseHkpr · 25/09/2026 12:15

This has just made me cry, bless Mrs W and her kindness

raspberrycordial · 25/09/2026 12:19

Remembering Mrs W with you - a true angel. You’ve reduced me to tears too.

mamakoukla · 25/09/2026 12:33

The ripples of the quiet kindness of Mrs. W still continue to this day, now being passed on to your children. Thank you for reminding us of the incredible impact and importance of small acts of kindness, and how they accumulate and have the possibility to change how someone feels.

I am so sorry for the trials you’ve faced and am grateful that Mrs. W was there for you

Latenightreader · 25/09/2026 12:38

That made me cry. I am glad she was there to shine a little light in your childhood, and how lovely and kind of her to help in so many different quiet ways.

user1471462634 · 25/09/2026 13:08

Lovely OP, truly lovely, had goose-bumps reading that. To hear you had Mrs W as a chink of light in that awful darkness...an amazing woman.Flowers

RESCUDOG12, I hear you're story too.Flowers

RecyclingSal · 25/09/2026 13:09

Oh @JustrememberingMrsW, God bless you and Mrs W. I am so sorry for what you went through, and what an angel Mrs W was, to be there for you, providing that comfort a child needs most. Everyone needs a Mrs W 🌸

JustrememberingMrsW · 25/09/2026 17:20

Thank you all so much for acknowledging Mrs W, its so lovely to see her creating smiles (and tears, sorry about that) even now.

And im so sorry that so many people have been in the position to need a Mrs W. Life is so unfair sometimes 💐 I hope everyone has managed to find some peace one way or another.

And Im very sure Mrs W is observing us from wherever she is and downplaying all she did with a flip of the hand and an "awa wi you, dafty" as she makes a bacon sarnie for someone who looks like they need fed ❤️

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Ladygodalmighty · 25/09/2026 19:33

JustrememberingMrsW · 23/09/2026 18:44

Just feeling a bit emotional this evening about my childhood.

Usual story, abuse, neglect, stepdad, mother who only wanted sons etc. It was about as bad as it could be really.

Sometimes I dwell on the bad stuff, then I remember Mrs W. She probably saved my life.

I was always filthy, I wasn't allowed to shower or bath unless my stepdad was in there with me so I just didn't do it. My clothes were often dirty or too small. She often had 'spare' clothes or shoes that didnt fit her daughter, my friend, and would tell me to try them on and then just wear them for the day. When i stayed over she said there was a family rule that everyone had to bathe each night and ran me the loveliest baths with bubbles and fancy soaps, it was heaven.

I would call on my friend in the mornings to walk to school, and Mrs W had always made too much breakfast, and overdid the sandwiches for lunch and would offer me the extras. As well as fruit that was about to turn so had to be eaten.

I told my friend when I started my period, and she obviously told her mum, her mum put leaflets and pads into my bag and never said a word, she put pads in there every month.

The way i viewed all of the things she did when I was a child/young teen is very different to how I see it now.

Now I know there were never extras, she made the stuff for me, she bought the clothes and shoes for me, the fruit wasn't going to turn, she just wanted to make sure I had something to eat later. There was no family rule about baths either.

Many years later, at this angels funeral, I spoke to her daughter and told her all about the things her mum did, she had no idea, she also hadn't realised, and her mum never said a word. She just quietly did what she could and never uttered a word.

No point to this post really, I just wanted to tell someone about Mrs W, I really wish she had been my Mum.

Mrs W for WONDERFUL 💞 Your post made me cry sad tears 😢because you had such an awful childhood 💔 then happy tears because you had an amazing guardian angel. ☺️ Thank you for sharing your story 💞

Bookloveruk · 26/09/2026 04:10

I’m so glad you had her looking out for you. What a lovely person

whatsupluckyducky · 26/09/2026 04:27

I'm so sorry that you had these awful experiences with your family that you didn't deserve at all .
Mrs W sounds like a wonderful lady xx

Highlighta · 26/09/2026 04:31

I really do believe that some people are put into our path for a reason.

Although you didn't acknowledge her help at the time, she knew that one day you would see it.

Thanks for sharing about Mrs W. She truly was a saint.

2026onwardsandup · 26/09/2026 05:30

So sad that you and others were in this situation and especially those that didn’t have a Mrs W in their life .

So touching that you remember these genuine acts of kindness decades later and for you and others who these acts of kindness meant so much to. That was great also that you got to speak to her daughter . That would have been moving for her to hear as when we lose a loved one , it is lovely to hear about good things about them that we weren’t aware of . This is when we know we won’t be creating any new memories of them.

I do hope that whilst it is impossible to eradicate child abuse / neglect completely - we genuinely don’t know what is going on behind closed doors . The families who may seem well turned out may have issues at home .
We do hopefully now have a greater awareness through safeguarding in school etc about those children who may be severely neglected / abused at home .

There is however still a culture of not wanting to interfere and lots of posts here about people’s reluctance to flag up to school etc when they see issues .
They want someone else to do it , don’t want to have the responsibility .

The world is a depressing place at the moment with a lot of people in the Uk struggling with the cost of living etc . There does also seem to be a culture of greed / selfishness ; Trump and Elon Musk to name a few . So especially heartening to read on this thread about acts of kindness and people who made a difference .

My experience growing up was nowhere as bad as the OP and others . But I do remember a family friend who showed immense kindness to us on our birthdays when times were really tough financially .
Thank you to all the guardian angels out there xx

Banjas · 26/09/2026 07:58

You know the way we “Name and Shame”.
Could you “Name and Honour” Mrs W @JustrememberingMrsW ?

Friendlygingercat · 26/09/2026 08:11

I assume Mrs W's daughter knew nothing about her mother's good deeds. Im glad you shared this with her at the funeral. She would have learned about a side of her mother that she never knew of. I'm not into formal funerals and wakes. However one of the good things about them is that old friends have the opportunity to speak about how they knew the deceased person. I'm sure your words were a great gift to Mrs W's daughter when she needed comfort. She will have learned how much good her mother did to help a vulnerable little girl.

JustrememberingMrsW · 26/09/2026 14:47

Her name was Mrs Workman.

Her daughter saw as much as I did as a teen, and, like me, she didnt really realise it at the time. She was pretty astounded. I bet she heard a million stories like that at her mums funeral.

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Calliopespa · 26/09/2026 14:57

Yogafiend · 23/09/2026 18:50

This post made me tear up. I’m sorry for your childhood OP.

Me too!

And her gift spreads further than just to you Op: it is so wonderful for others to hear and be reminded that people like this do exist in a self-interested world.

I often have divided feelings about charity these days, as the do-gooders seem to generate so much hype around it in on their SM, CVs etc. It is just so heartening to hear of quiet, honest charity and kindness.

And you have also honoured her goodness OP by remembering her with gratitude all these years.

Calliopespa · 26/09/2026 15:00

2026onwardsandup · 26/09/2026 05:30

So sad that you and others were in this situation and especially those that didn’t have a Mrs W in their life .

So touching that you remember these genuine acts of kindness decades later and for you and others who these acts of kindness meant so much to. That was great also that you got to speak to her daughter . That would have been moving for her to hear as when we lose a loved one , it is lovely to hear about good things about them that we weren’t aware of . This is when we know we won’t be creating any new memories of them.

I do hope that whilst it is impossible to eradicate child abuse / neglect completely - we genuinely don’t know what is going on behind closed doors . The families who may seem well turned out may have issues at home .
We do hopefully now have a greater awareness through safeguarding in school etc about those children who may be severely neglected / abused at home .

There is however still a culture of not wanting to interfere and lots of posts here about people’s reluctance to flag up to school etc when they see issues .
They want someone else to do it , don’t want to have the responsibility .

The world is a depressing place at the moment with a lot of people in the Uk struggling with the cost of living etc . There does also seem to be a culture of greed / selfishness ; Trump and Elon Musk to name a few . So especially heartening to read on this thread about acts of kindness and people who made a difference .

My experience growing up was nowhere as bad as the OP and others . But I do remember a family friend who showed immense kindness to us on our birthdays when times were really tough financially .
Thank you to all the guardian angels out there xx

There is however still a culture of not wanting to interfere and lots of posts here about people’s reluctance to flag up to school etc when they see issues .
They want someone else to do it , don’t want to have the responsibility .

And yet the difference here is Mrs W didn't need SS: she stepped up and did what was needed in a gentle, un-assuming way.

It is worth remembering that we do have options to help.

Banjas · 26/09/2026 17:05

💐for Mrs Workman 🏆 and all those like her.

TheDevilWears · 26/09/2026 17:23

This made me tear up. Mrs W sounds beautiful. I’m sorry your family weren’t what you deserved. I hope your life is better now and you’re able to pay it forward in Mrs W’s honour 🕊️🌹

2026onwardsandup · 27/09/2026 00:17

@Calliopespa,I totally agree that there should be options to help . Lovely people looking out such as Mrs W here . There may be other times when neighbours / friends’ parents can’t help eg they don’t have the money to buy any extra and are struggling to feed their own family .
I agree that it is when we notice something we do something about it whichever option that is .

Gossipisgood · 29/09/2026 13:00

Mrs W was an earth Angel. She did what she did quietly & didn't bask in the glory or look for recognition of her kindness. Hope fully there are more Mrs W's quietly looking out for other less fortunate children.

Greebosmum · 29/09/2026 13:24

In a world currently divided and full of hate, how lovely to read about Mrs W. Thank you to everyone that follows her example.

JustrememberingMrsW · 29/09/2026 20:39

She really was an angel.

I was actually telling my DC about her again and, after we did a few random kind things at the weekend (which was a really lovely way to spend time), they have decided to do one dedicated act of kindness each per month in honour of Mrs W, which is a lovely legacy.

Although I never got the chance to thank her I like to think she would be very happy that shes still going to be making people smile and have some comfort even now.

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