DH mentioned his mate visiting a lap dancing club and I feel uneasy

[Drspockspaceship]

DH admitted having a private lapdance a few years ago. I was hurt, upset, felt cheated on - lots of emotions for a long time..

FF to yesterday and DH drops into conversation that his best mate went to a lapdance club the other week. DH didn't go/wasn't even out his mate.

His mate is single and what he does is nothing to do with me.. but the fact this is what DH and his mate talk about/his friends do this type of thing .. leaves a very bad taste in my mouth. Does dh want to go again ? Does he resent that he can't go because of me? Obviously if I ask DH he will just say what I want to hear.

He also admitted yesterday to doing those helium balloons to get high. He did it a few years ago apparently while away with mates. I was v surprised as I wouldn't have thought he would do this. Whereas he doesn't have to tell me every move he makes .... it's making me wonder what else he has done without me knowing...

I would remind him it's a deal breaker for you. I mean it isn't or you would have broken the deal already but it's a quick way of saying you hate it and he knows you hate it. I don't blame you, anyone who can casually rent someone's genitals for 20 minutes or whatever is kind of gross.

If despite reminding him you're worried he's going to do it anyway that's a different problem. I don't know how you resolve not trusting him or even if you should.

It's what it was before he knew you but is he going to revert to type if he was joining his friends(s) on holiday? You cant change what he did. His friend is single your partner isn't.

It’s gross he has mates like that. As like you say, that will be something they chat about. So god knows what else they say about women.
There are plenty of men out there that aren’t animals.

I mean I'm not really sure he can police what his friends do.. my bestie has had an affair in the past, doesn't mean I'm going to/pining to?