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Does he sound interested, or just friendly, at my sports group?

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ArmyGirl845 · 14/09/2026 20:22

There’s this guy at my sports group …… I know him vaguely as a friend of a friend, and he’s single. We’ve both been at the same group for a while, and suddenly over the summer he caught my eye, no idea why, but I’ve developed quite a crush.There was no way I could just approach him without looking really obvious, but one evening we ended up in the same crowd having a coffee, and since then we’re on ‘hello’ terms. So far so good. We’ve since had a very brief conversation about the weather (!) we both arrived in reception just as the heavens opened and exchanged a few words, initiated by me, I said I wish I was back abroad on my holidays, and we had a brief exchange. He was pleasant and friendly and I think I detected a hint of attraction.

So now we’re three months on, each time we see each other he aways says hello, sometimes with a big grin and a glint in his eye (sorry, I sound like a teenager!) and other times, frustratingly, just a normal hello. But even if he’s with other people, he will always acknowledge me. However this has gone no further. There have been a few times when I’ve been on my own and I thought he was going to come over, but he didn’t, and I could have misinterpreted the situation. He’s had numerous opportunities to start a further conversation, but he just says hello. But I get the impression he’s aware of me. Next time I get chance, I plan to say something quite benign (maybe something about the sport etc) so at least if it goes nowhere, I’ve still got my dignity.

However other than ‘hello’, occasional light comments, I guess there is nothing more I can do, other than being around and making sure I look as good as I can, without looking ridiculous in a sports environment. Any suggestions?? Or does he sound pleasant but not interested?

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Morecoffeeneedef · 14/09/2026 21:38

Mmm. Sounds as if he's aware of you, somewhat attracted, but not planning to do anything about it. You can ask him out for a drink if you want to, so long as you will be able to cope with a rejection, because he might refuse. But he might not refuse, and then... good luck.

NotArrogantJustCocky · 14/09/2026 21:40

Heavens to Betsy, he is completely, utterly, and desperately head-over-heels for you!

Just look at the facts: that big grin and the glint in his eye are undeniable proof. The only reason he hasn't asked you out yet is because you are so stunning that he is utterly petrified of making a fool of himself in front of his mates. The fact that he always singles you out to say hello even when he's with a crowd means you are constantly on his mind. He's just waiting for the right moment to make his move. You've got him completely hooked!

ArmyGirl845 · 14/09/2026 21:43

NotArrogantJustCocky · 14/09/2026 21:40

Heavens to Betsy, he is completely, utterly, and desperately head-over-heels for you!

Just look at the facts: that big grin and the glint in his eye are undeniable proof. The only reason he hasn't asked you out yet is because you are so stunning that he is utterly petrified of making a fool of himself in front of his mates. The fact that he always singles you out to say hello even when he's with a crowd means you are constantly on his mind. He's just waiting for the right moment to make his move. You've got him completely hooked!

Sarcasm does not become you 😃😃

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