Anyone else had no social invites over the summer?

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Just that really. Long term lonely, not a single invite for me/ me and DP /the whole family.
I've arranged things with a couple people which they have taken up but I rarely get any invites. Its bad over the summer because I hear a lot of people talk about going away with friends or doing drinks BBQs etc, never happened for me this year or any year.
Tell me your tales of woe.

Hi I'm in the same boat we never get invited to things even family events my kids weren't even invited to there grandad 60th party and there dad's 40th party

After reading your post I reslised thats us too.

It doesn't bother me but I was upset when I was left out of a family meet up.

Could you be the one organising a meet up?

That's awful. Do you have any idea why?

Hi op I know what you mean. Summer is hard to pin people to dates however my husb friend was get back us all keen to meet. Then no follow up. Its frustrating

Same for us, no family locally or friends. We moved to a new area nine years ago and it's nigh on impossible to make friends once you get to a certain age. It doesn't help that we both work from home, so no colleagues either. I am getting numb to it all now. DH has been away with work the last week and I go all day without speaking to someone.

I've had this with 4 friends this summer. Some have contacted me to say let's arrange a meet up but when I get back to them, they don't respond. It's really annoying tbh but after they don't get back to me, I usually make one extra attempt at making contact then if they don't get back to me, I leave it.

It's just how some people are I think and doesn't necessarily reflect badly on you.

I feel you. No social invitations ever for me or my
family. Lonely times.

We’ve seen friends, because we’ve organised it. I don’t think anyone has had us over, except maybe one friend where Dh took the kids to see his new tractor. 😂 People are busy and tired over the summer. I know being with my kids all day everyday instead of having a nice break at work means I absolutely do not want to see more people in any free time I do have. I am peopled out. If you want to see friends, keep asking them to do stuff. I’m not really bothered if I see anyone, but I’m more inclined when people suggest a day and time.

Actually I think the heat this summer meant people didn’t organise as much as normal. That’s just my own opinion from speaking to people that I know. There were a lot less play dates organised as the DC were outside all the time and not cooped up inside bored as happens some summers. Also most families I know did a lot more days out and trips to the beach and things like that so weren’t as inclined to socialise at weekends. Again just my own observations.

Same here @krustykittens , most days I'm lucky if I get a 5 minute chat over something mundane and that's normally with a stranger.
I do put in lots of effort to make arrangements. It's just not reciprocated and then you are left wondering if these people actually care at all.

Is it just the summer OP or does this happen the rest of the year for you? I hate hosting dinner parties / BBQs etc at home so I now look at events and ask people if they fancy joining me - that suits me as I would be going anyway and people appreciate the opportunity to do something together rather than just matter about children, local property prices etc.

We’ve had a couple of invitations this summer but tbh that’s quite rare. Most summers we don’t see anyone - they don’t invite us and we don’t invite them! People are away for holidays and visiting family so it gets too complicated to try to pin down who is available when. More successful IME to try to organise stuff for September. And then that conversation might lead to a “oh by the way are you about this weekend”?

I can go months for a time without setting foot in anyone else’s house. My kids are - just - still old enough for me to be friendly with their friends’ parents so I make the most of the occasional 15 minute doorstep chat when dropping off.

I have a couple of parent friends who I am closer with and we do a day out once or twice a year, but I’d love to see more of them.

It always feels difficult over the summer. I see friends most weeks/ fortnight usually but over the summer don’t see them much. People have their kids to look after, are away on holiday or visiting family abroad in the summer. A couple of things got cancelled due to heatwaves. If things are better at other times of year maybe get some things in the diary for autumn?

Me too, op. And it isn't just a "it's summer, everyone is busy and hard to reach" thing.

My partner's dad NEVER invites us over to his many huge family gatherings at his house (yes we invite him but he's always busy, and when he does come once a year he hovers by the front door, he has literally never sat on the sofa). He is remarried and prefers his second family over his first (when he dies his full inheritance is going to his step children, not his bio ones) but also my partner and I are the only ones who never managed to have any children, and he loves kids, so he just doesn't bother with us. My partner's siblings, and all his step siblings all have two or three kids each so no one bothers with us.

We say "we don't care, phew, we avoided THAT!" etc., but it does hurt.

Not really sure why it panned out this way. I was always very social and friendly, but just never get invites. I guess we can be quite introvert but then I wonder if we were just made that way by always being excluded.

I have also never had "The Girls" and find it a really fascinating concept that women have a huge bunch of mates to call up and go out with!

No, we aren't dicks or anything. It's just how it seems to be.

@LondonLass2026 wow, your partner's family sound awful, how incredibly hurtful 😖

It's so strange. There's no falling out or anything. I think his second family have just blinded him to his first. And as I say, as my partner and I don't have kids, he isn't really interested.

At least my partner's mother is great, and we're really good friends! 🩷

It is people generally not just summer time. My cousin same I said yes give me a few dates. Nothing. On a plus old neighbour message so meet her next week. God its disheartening. We retired friends they never around either. Sigh.

I ask once now thats it. Leave it up to them then.

Yeah it's year -round but I was just struck after the bank holiday weekend and noticing that other people had been doing things with mates.
When I say invites I don't just mean to someone's house. I mean literally any kind of initiative to meet up.

Me too. Most of us are retired, so not bound by school holidays. But yeah, nothing. Will bump into people and its all "we should meet up" but nothing happens. The whats app group is tumbleweed, and yes ive posted "who's up for a drink friday night" Silence then two days after its "oh sorry missed that" but no suggestions to meet up. Maybe its me.

@Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride it's like people are looking for an excuse not to meet up sometimes isn't it.

Yes people dont commit now. It is hard isnt it

Generally people just don't say anything. They don't say yes and they don't say no. To anything.