Not sure what to do. I have an elderly ex that I'm still friendly with. He told me today that his adult DD is abusing him financially.
She's got into debt and wants ex and his ex wife to bail her out. Despite wanting help with the debt, she's also booked a fairly expensive holiday (not part of the debt, separate to it), AND may or may not be spending a very large sum of money on private surgery for her BF. All of this added up has led him to believe he is being taken for an old fool.
His ex wife has leverage to make sure the share of money she provides is repaid. Ex has nothing. DD frequently leans on him to pay bills, top her up when she's short of cash (which is most of the time because neither she or the bf are properly employed). Ex is generous. He doesn't really mind smaller amounts. But this time it's thousands. And he's stressed, anxious and is making noises about suicide. Not because of the actual money, I don't think. But because she's also trying to tie him into some other sort of financial commitment.
I don't know what to do. I have no contact with the family anymore because the DD was always bad news and I've now got no need to have any contact. I'm an ex after all. She is is more or less his only real family member so there isn't anyone really that I can prevail upon to help him. And it isn't my place to do it now (and honestly, I don't want to get sucked back in again).
I have been racking my brains about organisations that could help, but I'm also worried that reporting it would blow up his relationship with the DD. I just can't see a way to get him any help.