Do you use long voice notes to keep in touch?

[SilverandSage]

Random question! 😂 Do any of you regularly use voice notes to keep in touch with friends or family? I mean proper long ones, not just “I’m running late” type messages 😂. I’m interested in whether other people have the same thing I do where you and a friend can end up sending each other 10–20 minute voice notes because you don’t have time to actually speak on the phone.
If you do, I’d love to know what you like/dislike about it.

This! I can’t concentrate for that long and I can’t interrupt! Or say “yes, right, got that now” to shut them up.

No I really dislike them. I asked a friend to stop sending them. They were 10 mins +

Transcribe doesn’t always work. For longer ones (def 8-10 mins)rarely does. Why I asked my friend to stop sending them

No. I was interested in people who use voice notes and what the good and bad things about using them were.

what I didn’t ask for was judgey comments on how people think they are selfish one sided conversations just about the senders day. That’s now how everyone uses them! I ask my friend questions and tell her a bit about what I’ve been up to, she responds to what I have told her and tells
me about her day, I respond with comments and thoughts on that. It’s entirely possible to be equally balanced just as a conversation can be. Wether the conversation is selfish and one sided is down to the person you are communicating with not the medium you are using.

No. I find voice notes really entitled. I'm happy to send quick texts, sometimes longer ones, but I always read the room, and won't annoy people who don't like long written messages. If I want a proper conversation, we agree on a good time to call.

The trouble with too many people today is that they believe they're important and that everyone wants to hear their every boring thought - I blame Facebook for that.

Personally what we do is type a few notes and send it as a WhatsApp so the list of topics stays in the chat. Like:

new gym routine
wedding cake
toms swim lesson
summer meet up dates

no need for judgement or negative comments from
peoole who hate this idea 🙄 it’s just how we do it and was curious about what others
do.

You actually think that the only use for voice notes are for people who can’t write? What a ridiculous comment.

I can’t write an email to my friend when I’m on a 2 hour dog walk. I can’t leave a voice note equivalent of what the email would have said.

and yes I’m aware some people won’t like that. And that’s fine!

I used to until I hated receiving them every day very irritating

We do take basic notes like a list of topics to respond to so that when we do reply we can recall what the other person said. For example I voice note with my cousin a lot and she has just lost her dad sadly and her son is about to have his first child so we talk a lot about those subjects. I’m on holiday so we’ve chatted about that and my
job.

fully appreciate it’s not for everyone. Was more interested in those who do use voice notes and what they do like about it and what they wouod
chnage or improve.

We do with my friend in different country. It can work for some, be incredibly annoying with others

This is interesting thank you. It’s the having the persons voice that I enjoy as
its like they sent an email but I hear their voice read it. Preserving special voice notes from loved ones is really nice idea.

Yes this is a good point. I’m the same. Maybe if you could transcribe a summary easily that wasn’t hit and miss you’d know if there was anything in the note you wouldn’t want anyone to over hear.

That clearly isn’t true in my situation as the people are very important to me and whilst we can both make time for a conversation it isn’t aligned at the same time.

Have i somehow given half of the internet the idea what I want to voice note them?! 😂 because believe me I dont want to speak to some
of you ever again!!

I've never used voice notes. I hate it when people send them. You can't skip / skim and it takes ages to listen to even short ones so they just sit unopened for ages

I’m new here so haven’t previously seen this debate. The answers to the OP’s perfectly reasonable post astound me!

My daughter and I VN regularly; we also WA and call. Some of her VNs are pretty lengthy, but she has a pretty busy life, as do I. I love hearing from her - why wouldn’t I enjoy listening to my DD’s voice when we’re not together?

And I guess this is what has surprised me the most in the ‘entitled…. selfish…. shite rambling’ comments on this thread. Surely the people getting in touch with you are, for the most part, people you care about? Why are you so indifferent to hearing from them?

Another word that’s used a lot here about VNs is ‘rude’, often by posters who go on to brag about deleting messages without listening to them! That, surely, is the very definition of rudeness?

If you're new to MN then you'll quickly learn that a lot of people here act like interacting with their loved ones is some sort of enormous burden- whether that's listening to a voice note, attending a wedding, or answering the front door.

Thankfully in the world I live in, people are happy to interact with the people they care about.

Me and my cousin do. We usually listen to them while we're ironing or in the bath, driving to work or doing the housework.

Never use them myself, never listen to them. The only exceptions are:

Phone signal bad/ can't get through or was disconnected halfway through convo and need to say something urgently

Shouting abuse at my ex if he doesn't pick up after being a dick

Yes mainly with 1 friend. As she works opposite shifts to me so a call isn't always easy. It's often us just venting to each other. She leaves me one , I listen on way home from work and visa versa. Prob between 5-10 min long.