Should I explore an autism assessment for my anxious three year old?

[JulMay6]

I understand this is a controversial subject on mumsnet but I need to reach out really. My 3.5 year old DS is a wonderful but, incredibly anxious little boy. Despite being at nursery for the past year he hasn’t progressed at all with sharing or interacting with other children. He had oral aversion as a baby and is still fussy with new textures. He has started to hit other children if they are in his space which has been incredibly hard (and embarrassing for me) when out and about. Places like swimming pools, parks, anywhere really with a lot of children he dislikes. Even if a child looks at him or goes near him, he cries.

He is developmentally incredible with his speech, he responds to his name, remembers absolutely everything.

I am getting him help for anxiety but my mind says maybe look into autism.

Its not controversial, people are just raging bigots about SEN.
Absolutely speak to your health visitor in the first instance and start the ball rolling. Let the experts tell you rather than Internet opinions.
There are sen playgroups you can attend, you dont need a diagnosis, reach out to a few in your area. See the difference when your child isnt stressed. Attend some SEN sessions or quiet hour events and see what you think.

No harm in checking things out OP

Google social communication disorder too.

Hes your child you know him best can you talk to the person who is helping h with anxiety their thoughts