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My boy died on Wednesday. He was 18. Is anyone around? I can’t sleep.

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SecurityLight · 07/08/2026 05:55

He was autistic and troubled, he lived in supported accommodation. They found him on Wednesday morning, sitting on his bedroom floor. No one knows exactly when he died or how. He was alive at 01:13. He was dead at 10:30.
He had 3 younger siblings - all young teens living at home with me. I have to stay strong for them and I don’t know how I’m going to do it.

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dancehysterical22 · 07/08/2026 07:06

I’m so sorry xx

Bikenutz · 07/08/2026 07:12

What can I say, words seem inadequate. I am so sorry for your loss.

ChillWith · 07/08/2026 07:12

What an awful shock. I'm so sorry for your loss and send lots of love and a big hug x

MakeItMyself · 07/08/2026 07:13

So very sorry for your loss xx

muddyford · 07/08/2026 07:13

Don't be afraid to show your grief to the children. They need to know it's normal and OK.

Browbeeton · 07/08/2026 07:18

I’m really sorry for your devastating loss SecurityLight.
You and your family will be in my thoughts.

SomethingWitty44 · 07/08/2026 07:18

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Sending you love & strength x

Seaitoverthere · 07/08/2026 07:18

I am so very very sorry for your loss

Ilovemyfam · 07/08/2026 07:19

@SecurityLight I’m so terribly sad for your family. I can only imagine the thoughts in your head right now. I used to read Milly Molly Mandy all the time as a child.

HarryBlackberry1 · 07/08/2026 07:23

So sorry sorry xx

ChannelingmyinnerMsRachel · 07/08/2026 07:23

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️

JackieQueen · 07/08/2026 07:28

I'm so very sorry for your loss 💐

sashh · 07/08/2026 07:31

Sorry for your loss.

I can't really say more than that. I wish I could give you a hug and offer practical support.

Beenwhereyouareagain · 07/08/2026 07:32

@SecurityLight I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a tragedy and such a shock, I'm sure. I'm sending prayers and hugs and healing light to all of you.

LBFseBrom · 07/08/2026 07:34

I am so, so sorry, SecurityLight, cannot find the words. x

inkgirl · 07/08/2026 07:34

I'm sorry to hear that

SecurityLight · 07/08/2026 07:35

Thank you 🙏

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Bamboozledbylife · 07/08/2026 07:35

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine where you are right now.

The suggestion of noting memories and thoughts is a great one.

Please don't be hard on yourself and try not to fall down that 'what if' rabbit hole. Take care x

Futurehappiness · 07/08/2026 07:35

I am so very sorry for your loss. I am sending you love.

Pattygonia · 07/08/2026 07:36

Thinking of you and holding you and your family in my thoughts 🪻🪻🪻

ViciousCurrentBun · 07/08/2026 07:37

My DD died 13 years ago, it will be the hardest thing you will live through and at times you just cant imagine surviving it but you will. Grief has stages that interchange. I had therapy, not at first I was too distressed but I recommend it. I agree about staying together for your children as hard as it is it gives you a focus. I had to for my DS who was close to 13.

Sending you love x

Rituelec · 07/08/2026 07:38

Im so sorry for your loss. My sister went through this and they just had to club together. The teens slept in her bed a while. It wont getneasier in that sense but will get less numb xx please get something from gp during this time x

snoopydoopydo · 07/08/2026 07:39

Sending you love at this most difficult time. I'm sorry so for your loss.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 07/08/2026 07:42

I am so, so, sorry for this dreadful loss for you and your children. May your boy rest in peace now. I have no words of wisdom, I’m afraid, but please know that I am thinking of you and sending you kind thoughts and good wishes.

Ziga · 07/08/2026 07:42

I am so so sorry for your loss.

Tell us about your beautiful boy if you are able to. ❤️

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