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If you don’t live in the U.K., what unimportant thing does your school system obsess over?

231 replies

Flynnstone · 05/08/2026 18:25

In the U.K. policing uniform takes up a disproportionate amount of time. What is the equivalent pointless thing where you’re from?

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worstofbothworlds · 07/08/2026 13:36

@IbnBattutu they are called "dampers" in English and I've always associated them with Australia for some reason. No idea if they are a thing in N. America but certainly in Scouts/Guides in the UK.

kingarthurt · 07/08/2026 13:40

I don’t know if anyone’s mentioned it as there are a lot of replies but by UK I think OP means ‘England’.

It’s nothing like that in Scotland.

ShetlandishMum · 07/08/2026 13:41

Theothertwin · 06/08/2026 14:00

Social life/development/cohesion is very important in Danish schools/society and probably the primary focus in the younger years (versus academics). This is part of it. Discussing what play dates we have and how often/many seems to be a recurring topics for parent day discussions. Danes don’t seem to see it as intrusion into their private life.

I have met many Danish parents complaing about playgroups sorted by the school.

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Flowerheads · 07/08/2026 13:45

IbnBattutu · 07/08/2026 13:31

I've just remember something else that made me go 'wtf' back when the kids were younger. When the child starts school, at age 6, we got a home visit from their school teacher. The teacher wanted to meet them in their home environment. Meet the parents, siblings and even take a look at where the child slept.

It doesn’t happen in my home school education system, but I thought it was quite sweet when I encountered it when DS started school in England. His Reception teachers (job share) were lovely.

DoubleDoubleDown · 07/08/2026 13:49

canuckup · 06/08/2026 02:35

The school supplies list (stationary)

It's not even funny. It's SO specific.

Live in Canada

I stuck to the list religiously the 1st few years then I thought screw it they have 8 duo tangs of various colours, it's not exact but they can make it work. A 4 pack of dollar store glue sticks does the same as Elmer's. The I just winged it. Never had any complaints from school.

principalskinna · 07/08/2026 14:40

@AmethystDeceiver interesting you're happy with the Welsh schools than the English when they're way behind in many aspects

Persephonia1966 · 07/08/2026 14:44

kingarthurt · 07/08/2026 13:40

I don’t know if anyone’s mentioned it as there are a lot of replies but by UK I think OP means ‘England’.

It’s nothing like that in Scotland.

In fairness, (unlike some things like the way uni fees operate which are law so you can research it) you wouldn't automatically know which petty school rules were the same across the UK or just local to England or local to one area.in England. Unless you had experienced the school system in Scotland or England or had a previous discussion concerning the difference.
I was amazed when I found out that "barley" isn't an English word for stopping a game just a North West one.

vladimirVsvolodymr · 07/08/2026 14:50

My son’s secondary school (Ireland) is obsessed with uniform and shoes. We’ve just gotten a reminder last week that shoes should be black leather or leather-like and uniform listed again in case we forgot 🤣

Cuwins · 07/08/2026 14:56

IbnBattutu · 07/08/2026 13:31

I've just remember something else that made me go 'wtf' back when the kids were younger. When the child starts school, at age 6, we got a home visit from their school teacher. The teacher wanted to meet them in their home environment. Meet the parents, siblings and even take a look at where the child slept.

That’s the norm in England these days too. Although I don’t think they specifically want to see the bedroom but it’s good to meet the kids where they are relaxed at home

vladimirVsvolodymr · 07/08/2026 14:56

IbnBattutu · 07/08/2026 13:29

Denmark - knives and fire from a young age.

In nursery the kids start off with vegetable peelers to sit and remove the 'skin' from young tree branches. You see these tots of two and three sitting in a circle or around a table concentrating while they work away. It teaches great fine motor skills. By the time they are 5 and 6 they are allowed to whittle away with knives (supervised).

Also from the same age it is common for nursery to have open fires outside to make pancakes and snobrød. Snobrød is a bread that you cook by making the dough into a long sausage and wrapping it around the end of a long stick (that you yourself have whittled clean and pointy). The snobrød is then held and turned over a bonfire until cooked through. The trick is not to set it on fire by getting it too close to the coals! The pancakes are made in frying pans attached to a long pole and held over the fire.

I'd go so far as to say no Danish child, by the age of 8 years old, is ignorant about how to use and behave around knives and open flames.

I love this!
I try to get my kids involved in cooking and always give them a small knife to practice chopping up carrots, cucumbers, garlic and other food items. My youngest is now 5 and is really good with handling her knife and cutting (supervised). We have tried fire yet, maybe when she starts brownies 😂

principalskinna · 07/08/2026 15:04

Loads of parents really hated the school visit and lots of teachers question the point of it

kingarthurt · 07/08/2026 15:05

Persephonia1966 · 07/08/2026 14:44

In fairness, (unlike some things like the way uni fees operate which are law so you can research it) you wouldn't automatically know which petty school rules were the same across the UK or just local to England or local to one area.in England. Unless you had experienced the school system in Scotland or England or had a previous discussion concerning the difference.
I was amazed when I found out that "barley" isn't an English word for stopping a game just a North West one.

That’s kind of my point. OP is talking about one country as if it is representing the whole of the UK, it isn’t. Far too many posters using UK to mean England.

principalskinna · 07/08/2026 15:05

(I mean, the visit to Home by school)

principalskinna · 07/08/2026 15:05

People always bang on about this knives and fires thing, but I would say this is something for parents to teach

igelkott2026 · 07/08/2026 15:07

BendingSpoons · 06/08/2026 12:42

We have relatives in Germany who were explaining about the school backpacks and how 'everybody' goes to a specialist shop to be fitted for a backpack, which I found fascinating.

They also said the airport police may challenge you if they see you travelling in term time.

I can't see how that can be the case as the different Laender have different school holidays. Although I suppose if it's not holidays in Bavaria and you are flying out of Munich they might say something.

We had a stationery list at my school in the UK! It was quite long but not as specific as the French one. And it was only at the very start, so what is now Y7.

ShetlandishMum · 07/08/2026 15:09

principalskinna · 07/08/2026 15:04

Loads of parents really hated the school visit and lots of teachers question the point of it

It feels very controlling and a school should be able to use the hours better.

igelkott2026 · 07/08/2026 15:15

Natsku · 06/08/2026 14:31

I can kinda see how the Danish thing could be good, help children to make friends and settle in a class together, and parents agreeing on rules like age for mobile phones stops the whole "but everyone else has a phone already" thing completely. But I would probably find it very annoying.

I think the class rules is perhaps quite practical and helps eg with not allowing kids to watch 18 rated films or games too early.

But the playdate thing is just mind-blowing. You have to have six kids around at the same time? And entertain them, they don't entertain themselves? It's not so bad if you have a big garden and it's good weather but otherwise it must be a right pain. Does it happen that some people are seen as undesirable so somehow the playdate at their house never happens or people find a reason not to go - kids have the dentists or something?

igelkott2026 · 07/08/2026 15:18

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 06/08/2026 14:36

Can confirm. It didn't get to this stage with our classes thank God because I didn't have the headspace for it. But we still have 3 class events every year, organised by the parent class reps. And if you have a birthday party you either invite the whole class or the same sex as your child.

They try to make sure that everyone gets along with everyone else. There's no mixing up the classes so the ones you start school with aged 5 are the ones you finish with aged 15 or 16.

I remember seeing this in A Year of Living Danishly and thought that must be some kids' worst nightmare if they don't get on with their classmates if they are stuck with them from 3-18 or whatever.

igelkott2026 · 07/08/2026 15:20

Cuwins · 07/08/2026 14:56

That’s the norm in England these days too. Although I don’t think they specifically want to see the bedroom but it’s good to meet the kids where they are relaxed at home

Fortunately didn't happen when my son was starting school but I always think it's a way of the teachers having a good old snoop to see which naice middle class families have books around.

igelkott2026 · 07/08/2026 15:23

Snugglemonkey · 07/08/2026 07:31

You don't see why it is a nice thing for children to feel a connection to their native language?

I wonder how many are actually native Welsh these days given how much people move around. It's a nice idea to connect all the immigrants (who could easily be from other parts of the UK by the way) to the original language of where they live. But random phrases seems a bit pointless, I would find more constructive ways of using it. Presumably all the signs and letters home etc are bilingual so that's a start.

Teacaketravesty · 07/08/2026 15:25

Theothertwin · 06/08/2026 04:54

I’m in Denmark and not much person but school can obsess in periods about play dates we organise at home: how many we’re having, making lists of who to have play dates with in which week, notes home if you haven’t organised the right play date in the right week etc. It’s not unimportant but it can get excessive.

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What?! The school involve themselves in your children’s play dates?!

igelkott2026 · 07/08/2026 15:27

Mumsntfan1 · 06/08/2026 16:27

True and the backpacks (Schulranzen) cost around 200€. The child also needs stationery and books costing around the same. The first day of school the child gets a Schultüte, a big cone full of gifts and sweets. Then the family have a party/meal out. First day is quite expensive! Also the police do wait at the airport for the first/last days of term.

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I bought a Schultuete for my son when he started school. I think it's a lovely custom.

Glad he was able to have a cheap bookbag though ;)

KrazyKatty · 07/08/2026 15:34

Mandarinclementine · 07/08/2026 11:18

Why is that @Gwenhwyfar?

I’m not Welsh but Irish, and in primary school here Irish is meant to be used incidentally throughout the day as well as being taught specifically as a subject.

Is that approach wrong in your opinion?

Yes, it’s been over 100 years and we need to stop harping back to 1922 and ditch Irish as a compulsory subject. It’s so last century!

Let’s focus on offering subjects and languages that are actually going to be useful to students who are leaving school in the 21st century.

Mumsntfan1 · 07/08/2026 15:34

igelkott2026 · 07/08/2026 15:27

I bought a Schultuete for my son when he started school. I think it's a lovely custom.

Glad he was able to have a cheap bookbag though ;)

True. It's a lovely day for the child. Also the child will be 6/7 so will remember.

Teacaketravesty · 07/08/2026 15:37

Teacaketravesty · 07/08/2026 15:25

What?! The school involve themselves in your children’s play dates?!

Sorry, hadn’t read on. The Danish stuff is fascinating, thank you!

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