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If you don’t live in the U.K., what unimportant thing does your school system obsess over?

231 replies

Flynnstone · 05/08/2026 18:25

In the U.K. policing uniform takes up a disproportionate amount of time. What is the equivalent pointless thing where you’re from?

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weavingrugs · 06/08/2026 14:58

Here in Italy
Stationery, similar to France upthread.
And also different exercise books with types of lines for handwriting or different squared sizes etc.

In the first year of primary school (age 6), they learn to write firstly in capital letters, then in lower case letters and then in joined up writing all in the space of 9 months!! They are only allowed to move to using pens, once they have mastered handwriting😂

Rainallnight · 06/08/2026 15:00

Flowerheads · 06/08/2026 10:28

Ireland. Honestly, I don’t think there’s anything. DS went to an Educate Together primary, so no uniform, teachers all on first-name terms and the main rule was mutual respect. Now at a standard secondary. No bees in bonnets, apart from a flurry of emails last year about kids acquiring ‘decoy’ burner phones to put in the school Phone Away lockers, while keeping their real phones on them.

This is why we’re moving back there next year!

Flowerheads · 06/08/2026 15:02

Rainallnight · 06/08/2026 15:00

This is why we’re moving back there next year!

I won’t say it didn’t contribute to our decision to return!

I’m slightly in love with the stationery stuff, although it reminds me of why I wouldn’t have wanted a child in the French education system…

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thelegacyofhope · 06/08/2026 15:03

Natsku · 06/08/2026 14:58

Yeah school has to provide everything here (although it is allowed to bring in snacks on longer days in primary school). DD's class were supposed to go on an exchange trip to Germany next year but the school was unable to secure funding so the trip has been cancelled because they're not allowed to ask parents to pay (they are allowed to ask parents to pay for non-school related trips like a class trip to an amusement park at the end of term but its more usual for the class to raise funds for that trip themselves by running school discos)

School discos here as well 🪩😂

JennyChawleigh · 06/08/2026 15:09

My friend's son's French stationery list included a lodestone for science lessons! They'd only arrived in France the week before school started so she trekked various supermarkets making sure he had absolutely everything right. But she said he never used it as far as she could discover.

orangehandles · 06/08/2026 15:11

canuckup · 06/08/2026 02:35

The school supplies list (stationary)

It's not even funny. It's SO specific.

Live in Canada

I hope they don't spell it like that!

ppaaWWss · 06/08/2026 15:12

Also South Africa. The stationery list is immense, and every single item - every pencil, every sharpener, has to be labelled with a plastic label with the child's name, and weirdly school name and badge. All of this has to be brought in on the first day along with 4 reams of paper, plasters, hand soap, tissues... This blows my mind because we pay fees (this is a Government school but we still pay fees) - why not just add the cost of paper to the fees and do a bulk order? It would be so much simpler and cheaper.

Every exercise book has to be brought home and wrapped in plastic in the first week.

They are quite anti-shoes? Our preschool preferred the kids to go barefoot as much as possible. All good except there were chickens and ducks, rabbits and tortoise free-ranging in the playground, so it got a bit messy. they do wear shoes now but not for rugby, which is a very mucky affair.

TheAmberKoala · 06/08/2026 15:12

Policing uniform here too.
Very pointless silly things in a government secondary school in a slightly lower than average (not well off) demographic, like a tiny logo on a sock or a plain tshirt under a polo for warmth.

wojono · 06/08/2026 15:17

I'm in Austria.
Someone from Germany has already mentioned this: the obsession with the fucking school rucksacks (Schulranzen).
You are supposed to go and get them fitted properly, they cost around €200 - 300 a pop. More people were starting to buy them more cheaply online without having them fitted and so there were campaigns about this basically telling parents how they were damaging their children for life etc. Yet a primary school child is carrying next to nothing in it - a pencil case, a reading book and maybe one book for homework plus a snack for the mid-morning break.
It's a racket if you ask me.

We also have the crazy lists of stationery mentioned by others. At middle school they have to have two exercise books for each subject for homework which are rotated. So one week one book will be handed in and the next week the next will be handed in giving the teachers longer to mark the books. This means that at the end of the year each book has only a handful of pages used and for the next year they have to buy new exercise books. All exercise books have to have their own plastic covers too in specified colours.
Most of the schools specify which type of pens or pencils you have to buy (usually staedtler - can't have people buying cheap crap).
There are some government funds for people who can't afford all this stuff but as usual, for those who fall just above the income level for help, it's a major stretch each year.

redange · 06/08/2026 15:17

So then does Australia effectively offer a fully selective education system ! I also know that in Perth, Sydney and Melbourne there are 'Grammar' Schools which are called 'Selective High schools' . I am also aware that the Australian state even give parents a subsidy to educate their children Privately which I think is 'Fantastic' . In the UK we have Socialist driven nonsense charging VAT on Fees. I also fear, that if we have another Labour or Socialist Coalition after the next General Election, that Grammar Schools will be in the Firing Line !

latetothefisting · 06/08/2026 15:25

Theothertwin · 06/08/2026 14:47

Can confirm that for birthdays you either invite all kids of same sex as your child or the whole class (agreed in the parent teacher meeting). Luckily our school mix kids for the seventh grade (though this can be seen as super traumatic for the children that they leave the comfort of their class and have to learn new children. Same with teachers: they keep same teachers as much as possible which is great if it’s a great teacher but less good if you have the same crappy teacher for the fourth year in a row! This all makes for a much more socially cohesive class which is great but also children (and adults) that are less used to making new friends and interacting with new people as their upbringing has focussed on strengthening relationships with the friends you have and not making new ones. Hence the challenges when you move ;).

What happens if you dont throw a birthday party for your child? Do they still get invited to all the others or is that seen as opting out? Or do you pretty much HAVE to have a big party every year to avoid being a social outcast? surely there are only so many times the kids want to go bowling!

Same with the countries that do stationery lists - what happens if you just dont buy them? E.g. parents who cant afford it all or just cant be bothered?

Also approximately how many pupils in a class? We were up to about 38 in my a level history one which was ridiculous!

latetothefisting · 06/08/2026 15:29

TremendousThirst · 06/08/2026 03:13

I’m in Canada and watch the uniform and attendance discussions with fascination. And the Ofsted stuff. It’s all so much more relaxed here in our public (ie, state) schools.

French Immersion programs, though. Parents who don’t want to pay for private use them as a way to get away from kids and families with more needs and have their children with a more “selective” group. There can be serious competition for places in these programs, I have heard of people queueing up for days in some places where spots are scarce. Knowing French is of course also important if you want your child to ever be able to get a government job on Canada, so there is an additional class aspect. (It’s all madness, to my mind, people fighting over the chance to have their children educated not in their first language).

There's a little bit of social engineering in Welsh language schools in Wales as well, like you say sometimes its seen as a way to avoid pupils with ESL/additional needs etc. There isnt the same competition for places though because all children are entitled to go to a Welsh language school if they want, it just might be slightly further away than the nearest English language one (or in some cases vice versa).

Puffalicious · 06/08/2026 15:30

EssCarGo · 06/08/2026 14:44

I’m in Scotland and there is absolutely zero policing of uniform at any of my kids schools. The English schools’ obsession with it, and hair colour, and piercings, and footwear, always seems quite ridiculous to me.

Not true everywhere, I'm afraid. I know lots of schools where it's blazer, shirt & tie, proper trousers/skirt of correct length. We are more lenient with footwear - as long as it's all black, trainers are okay. Private schools don't allow trainers, though.

Itsbeenalongtimeincoming · 06/08/2026 15:33

canuckup · 06/08/2026 14:23

Québec, niggly.

The list is similar to the French one posted up thread - mind numbing.

Ontario doesn't have a list like Quebec either from my experience.

Simonjt · 06/08/2026 15:43

I see someone else from Sweden has already commented, but yeah not being able to ask for money, I sent a pack up for our daughters first trip, they were so offended as may as well have sent a bag of dog poo. I do very much like the no shoes indoors rule.

Flynnstone · 06/08/2026 15:43

I was talking about England - not the whole of the U.K. Thanks to PPs for calling this out. I’m sorry.
The obsession on uniform doesn’t come from the average person, it’s just something we have to suck up. Similarly for the mantra that attendance solves every issue that would cause poor attendance (we do rewards here too. Oh, you made half your class sick and couldn’t concentrate much either? Here, have an award).

I’ve never heard of the enforced play dates before. Calling it homework puts it into some perspective though (the hours I’ve spent trekking to shops or wading through Amazon to address some bonkers homework from school). School overreach here are things like wearing blazers on your journey from school (wherever that may be) and more recently I heard of a school advising parents put trackers on their children (secondary) as the school was banning all phones (dumb phones and smart phones) which meant children weren’t allowed to have them for onward journeys after school to activities.

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worstofbothworlds · 06/08/2026 15:47

I am an academic in the UK and took my two DCs to the US when I went on sabbatical.
They both missed the second summer half term and luckily both schools were ok with it - neither were over subscribed and DC1 was Y6 so they couldn't say much! I knew of a family at the primary school that had gone to their home country in the EU for longer.
Then I was ill and I had to delay my return so DH took DC1 home to start Y7 and I stayed in the US where DC2 did 6-7 weeks of US elementary school.
I had seen aaallll these videos of massive supply lists in US schools but we were in a very well off school district (mainly academics and the university was very expensive) and the class sizes were small (20 IIRC) and parents didn't need to provide any supplies, school got them all for us.

DanceWithYourBalloon · 06/08/2026 15:53

FastFood · 06/08/2026 11:24

Haha I'm French, living in the UK but sans kids, so I have never really thought about stationery, I thought our very detailed stationery lists were common everywhere.

I also discovered recently that we have specific writing notebooks, the "Seyes".
I thought everyone was using that.
As a kid, we had to learn how to write with a fountain pen, blue ink only, not sure if it's still the case though.

We live in France and my son is going into CE2 next month. Fountain pen is firmly on the list among many, many other things.
You’ll find me over the next month scanning the shelves of Action and Bureau Vallée and ticking things off my boys lists! 😂

wishingonastar101 · 06/08/2026 16:03

GreenLemonade · 06/08/2026 11:09

Very interesting!

Poland: changing shoes from outdoor to indoor. Indoor shoes have to have white outer soles, presumably so that it’s easier to check that they haven’t been worn outside. Fair enough in winter when it’s muddy and snowy. In the summer, kids just end up changing from one pair of trainers to another. Teachers take it very seriously, they check everyone’s shoes and mark students down if they suspect outdoor shoes are worn indoors.

I think this is a great idea. We live in an area with lots of woodland and people walk their dogs... so the kids all go into school with shitty shoes... the little ones still sit on the matt. So basically on a shit covered carpet!

KrazyKatty · 06/08/2026 16:04

Ireland and having to learn and pass Irish (Gaeilge) in order to attend most 3rd level (degree) courses.

Honestly, it’s completely ridiculous as very few people speak it outside the Gaeltacht region. Most parents don’t speak it at all and the poor kids struggle to grasp the weird grammar rules.

In fact, it only serves to benefit a tiny minority of students who learn Irish at home and therefore whizz through the Junior and Leaving Cert exams. Everyone else is effectively penalised.

Let the kids choose what languages they want to study and give them more options. Choosing between Spanish and French is not much of a choice! DS chose to learn Chinese during his Transition Year but he can’t carry that on despite being quite good at it.

The sooner they stop making Irish compulsory the better!!

Theothertwin · 06/08/2026 16:07

Flowerheads · 06/08/2026 14:23

I’m not sure I fully understand, though with some knowledge of Danish social norms though Danish friends — school actually sets out which children you have play dates with? Is the idea that each child will eventually have had a playdate with everyone else in their class to promote general friendliness?

Edited

It is not normally circulating through the whole class. More having play dates with others than you normally play with rather than play date with everyone.

EssCarGo · 06/08/2026 16:09

Puffalicious · 06/08/2026 15:30

Not true everywhere, I'm afraid. I know lots of schools where it's blazer, shirt & tie, proper trousers/skirt of correct length. We are more lenient with footwear - as long as it's all black, trainers are okay. Private schools don't allow trainers, though.

No, I didn’t think it was everywhere which is why I said in my kids schools. But I’ve never seen a Daily Mail sad face type story in Scotland about how a kid is refused access to their education because of a haircut or their mum having to buy them cheap shoes.

Schools are of course different but across the board I think there is a general difference in tone between Scotland and England in this regard.

Theothertwin · 06/08/2026 16:18

latetothefisting · 06/08/2026 15:25

What happens if you dont throw a birthday party for your child? Do they still get invited to all the others or is that seen as opting out? Or do you pretty much HAVE to have a big party every year to avoid being a social outcast? surely there are only so many times the kids want to go bowling!

Same with the countries that do stationery lists - what happens if you just dont buy them? E.g. parents who cant afford it all or just cant be bothered?

Also approximately how many pupils in a class? We were up to about 38 in my a level history one which was ridiculous!

Not wanting to throw a party is not an issue. There’s no rules that you have to only rules for if you do.

In my kids schools they are a maximum of 22 in a class, though in my youngest they are 16ish.

Pileoftrash · 06/08/2026 16:18

This is my dream thread, thank you for starting it!

NamelessNancy · 06/08/2026 16:25

itsgettingweird · 06/08/2026 10:18

We use to camp each year in the south of France.

We loved going to the supermarket near the port on the way home to get stationary for school - it was a thing of beauty 😆

I thought we were the only British family who did that. I used to love getting all my french stationery!

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