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Moving to a new town pregnant with my second, how do I make friends for Mat leave?!

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0630bitlost · 05/08/2026 12:10

We're moving to a new town and I am pregnant with my second. With my first (DS 22 mo) we didn't do NCT due to time/money/general indifference, it was a mistake! I had friends around but I really missed the support of a group of mums at the same stage as me. Now we're moving to a new town where I know less people and I would really like to build a support group around me this time to counteract the mat leave loneliness.

NCT for my second seems like a bad idea, the classes seem pointless now and I don't want to be the 'mum' with the answers having done this before (which of us do have the answers to anything!). I used Peanut with my first and I made one really lovely friend but it took a lot of swiping and coffee dates to get there. Has anyone got any suggestion to start building the mum friends before baby 2 arrives? Or things I could join in early mat leave to make friends? Last time I thought I'd make friends at baby sensory, baby massage etc but actually if felt like the friends groups had already formed before the babies were born and I got there too late.

All ideas appreciated!

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Waitingforthetimetopass · 05/08/2026 12:22

I did NCT with my first and will again with my second. I will keep quiet in the sessions at times but I am doing it for the group.

Other suggestions are finding local classes and playgroups. Make sure you don't have to hurry away afterwards so if you get chatting then you can pop to a cafe or a playground to further the connections.

Peonies12 · 05/08/2026 12:36

We had two couples at our NCT having their 2nd, as 1 had moved and 1 had their first during Covid so wanted the experience. I'd do NCT or an equivalent course, just to meet people. Or I met some friends at pregnancy yoga.

zeddip · 05/08/2026 12:40

I would do NCT for sure if possible if I had a baby. If not then I literally just put myself out there and spoke to other mums, I moved to a new place a year ago with a toddler and I just spoke to people at groups, stay and plays etc.

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