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BIL using our bedroom for intimate purposes

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WhatTheMirrorSaw · 03/08/2026 16:58

We arrived home from holiday last night. BIL has kindly been cat-sitting for us, popping in twice a day, but not sleeping here overnight. This is important.

This afternoon, I've been sorting out a few things in our room. The sun was shining in, and as it hit the mirror I could clearly see strange marks - handprints, quite high up, and what I think is a willy mark at hip height. They are quite noticeable, so I'm sure they weren't here before we went away.

I suspect BIL has been entertaining himself in our bedroom, either alone or with a partner. He's single and the thought of him bringing a hook-up into our bedroom makes me feel ill.

I've changed the sheets (just in case his activities culminated in our bed), but I don't know if I can bear the thought of him cat-sitting for us again if he does this. But DH will think it's strange if we don't have him back, and DCat has never been to a cattery.

Is there a way I can subtley dissuade him from using our home in this way, without offending him?

I've added photos, but they aren't very good because my phone doesn't seem to focus on the mirror surface.

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aurynne · 09/08/2026 07:43

I'm going to throw a wild card here, OP...

What if it was the cleaner?

SoMuchBadAdvice · 09/08/2026 08:30

Could DBiL harbour fantasies about you that are helped live out in your bedroom with the help of a mirror?

ParsleySageToiletDuckAndBinBags · 09/08/2026 11:49

aurynne · 09/08/2026 07:43

I'm going to throw a wild card here, OP...

What if it was the cleaner?

Or what if it was the BIL with the cleaner?!

If only that cat could talk!!

Tryanalogue · 09/08/2026 23:37

ParsleySageToiletDuckAndBinBags · 09/08/2026 11:49

Or what if it was the BIL with the cleaner?!

If only that cat could talk!!

That would have been betrayed by a French maid apron print on the mirror.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 10/08/2026 10:17

Willy Mark sounds like a patient in Doc Martin's waiting room. I used to love watching out for the names.

aurynne · 11/08/2026 06:59

ParsleySageToiletDuckAndBinBags · 09/08/2026 11:49

Or what if it was the BIL with the cleaner?!

If only that cat could talk!!

...BIL with the cat...?

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