What did you observe at a wedding that made you think: "This couple will...."?

[timoteigirl]

"will or won't stay together for long"?
I'll start. I was in the toilet cubicles and the bride rushed in with a female friend and was discussing all the times she and groom had split up and got back together, ruminating on what actually keeps them together. I knew the groom, not the bride and this made me think they wouldn't last. But I was wrong. They have.

I felt it once 30 years ago. A man I met at a conference. We couldn't look away from each other. It was like time stopped still. Never forgotten it.

We never even said a word to each other.

Happily married 22 years to DH though. I can still feel a frisson at that memory though.

It absolutely was a great feeling!
WHY my body chemistry did that to me however, we got together and we were wrong for one another in just about every way possible! 😆

I'd still love to experience that again! 😂

I felt this 37.5 years ago and knew I woukd marry the man I had just met. We haven't been much apart since our 2nd date. We are both very grounded sensible people. It just happened - inexplicable chemistry. Love each other even more now.

Jesus!! Sounds like something my ex would do to be fair

We were on holiday somewhere famous for its gemstones. It was my birthday and this was my month’s birthstone. I’d been imagining how he might use that as an opportunity to propose to me after 8 years together. He said he hoped that if he found a gemstone that I’d find one too, so that he could give one each to his DDs. 🙄.

@pinafour
It was as if something struck them both, such as a thought or feeling, at exactly the same moment whilst they were talking to one another.
I have experienced this twice in my life, it is a very weird sensation.

Can I add my own?

heard twittering after the day that several people thought we were doomed because as our guests arrived, dh has sat on the alter and crying/head in hands. They all translated this as ‘he doesn’t want to do it’ or the like.

hearing this we found hilarious as it was actually him being there, the moment arriving, realising his late father wouldn’t get to see him get married, huge overwhelm at all the people (he is autistic) and all the emotions of overwhelming love he had for me all came rushing forward.
He was actually texting me saying how much he loved me and just wanted the getting married part to be over and it to be us forever.

15 years going strong, we have our moments but genuinely the most solid relationship I know.

moral of the story, don’t judge a book by its cover

Went to the evening do of a colleague with a bunch of team mates.
The groom asked me if I’d consider shagging him after he got back from his honeymoon.
Um no thank you. I was engaged at the time (which my work colleague knew)
The couple divorced after a few years and he moved on and married a woman from our team.
I didn’t go to that wedding!

I have 2 that have sadly worked out exactly as expected.
1 friend (he was the groom) married someone who was completely controlling. His parents actually asked a few friends if they were willing to object during the ceremony!
She looked so happy all day, he looked resigned.
2 years later she had reduced his life to seeing his parents every couple of months and only friends she approved of (mostly her friends partners).
I think she attempted to ban him attending a family party as some of his friends would attend and I’m not sure what happened exaxtly
but it kicked off the start of their divorce.

Another friend (bride) planned pretty much the entire wedding herself. Groom couldn’t have been less interested and on the day, she had to practically drag him up for a first dance and even then he was making stupid jokes to his friends.
He got so drunk he was put to bed at 10pm in best man’s room and bride spent the night on her own.
18 months (and a child) later it turns out he was having 2 affairs and multiple one night stands so they’re divorced.

Flip side of this. MIL met a man, very quickly seemed fully invested and we were all quite concerned.
They got married and he was just so smitten. He had one eye on her at all times, making sure she had a drink, he got her food, he just seemed to light up when she spoke to him.
25 years later they’re still going.

@Otterloverfrenchieladywe had something a little similar. More than a few people thought me and DH weren’t that enthusiastic/happy as we were both so calm and collected.

Somone asked DH how he was feeling while he was waiting for me and he said fine, just hoping I’ll be on time. And when someone told him I’d arrived he sort of shrugged and said ‘of course she is.’

For me, my make up artist kept asking if I was excited and I said yes but clearly not hyped up enough.
And similarly to DH, when I arrived one of the bridesmaids (my sister) said ‘don’t worry, he’s here waiting for you’ and I said ‘ok.’

Neither of us like being centre of attention and the wedding was small for that reason. We’re not grand gesture people.
Been together 24 years, married for 14 of them, still going strong.

Was the "non-wedding" you mentioned in the UK?
I didn't think it was possible for it not to be registered as technically it's a verbal contract, so it would still be a valid marriage? (even if the paperwork had gone astray)

I got told this by the groom himself. A cautionary tale. The couple had got themselves into thousands of pounds worth of debt before the wedding. They splashed out further thousands on the wedding. The marriage lasted 12 weeks, because she was already having an affair. He asked her when did she decide the marriage was over and she told him in the taxi on the way to the airport for the honeymoon!

Ex boss of mine, she wanted the wedding, he was along for the ride, they seemed to hate each other. Split up a few years later. Other than that others seem to be really happy.

Yes the wedding was in a church in Scotland. I haven’t looked into the legal implications of not handing the paperwork back to the registry office. Technically they were legally married when the marriage license was completed in the church. DH didn’t find out either as not long after that the bottom fell out of the housing market and people were made redundant.

Absolutely the same. My kids were small and dh mum is very religious as was his dad (as in jobs not just church goers) so we felt like we had to do the whole ‘thing’
we both say now much as we had a great day actually we wished we just went on holiday, got married and told everyone after.

The groom ( head teacher) started his speech by saying " My first wife was an alcoholic"....
Horrified glances exchanged as he continued.

Last week I heard that he and his deputy head were expecting a baby. Wife number two left him as soon as she found out.