I'm not a daughter any more

[GingerBum]

I'm not a daughter any more

The house phone went, I thought it was my dad.

He died 20 months ago. My mum died 7 years ago

Do you have children? I only ask because I can see why you would feel that way but my view is changed now I'm a mother as well as a daughter. I have a daughter and a son and it would break my heart if they spent a single moment of their existence feeling like they weren't a daughter or son anymore. Billions of years from now when the universe is blown to dust, they'll still be my babies and you'll always be your parents' little girl.

I have DC. They are at uni, home to the moment for Summer. We are close and I cherish our relationships.

So sorry @GingerBum. My mum died 6 years ago, and at the time I NEVER had that experience of waking up having forgotten, and then remembering in a rush that people talk about. However, it happens now all the time - I think 'Oh I must tell Mum that' or 'I'll buy that for Mum' and then I'm struck by it all over again.

I think it's because I still feel I have a relationship with her. I still talk to her, I know a lot of the time what she would have said to me, I still love her and always will. On a day to day basis it doesn't make me terribly sad but I definitely still have moments when it's overwhelming.

Anyway, to my mind you will always be their daughter and they will always be your parents. It's very hard, but that will never change.

I've lost both parents too. I know what you mean.

BUT

You'll always be their daughter ❤️

You will always be their daughter

I really like this short quote (although I have no idea who said it!)

"Death ends a life, not a relationship"

You will always be a daughter. Your parents just aren’t alive anymore.
Sending much love and hugs to you. Grief is shit.

Sending lots of hugs and kind wishes to you. It’s hard being without them, they are still in your heart. ❤️

So true

You will always be their daughter. Giving hugs x

Sending huge love to everyone on this thread, even to those who want to cause hurt.

It’s something I’m dreading to be honest.

@LittleEsme Presume that's aimed at me, but I have been caused hurt by this thread.

Anyway, lucky for you you haven't gone through it yet. I don't know how old you are but if you made it through childhood with parents and siblings alive then lucky for you too.

I am assuming you lost parents when you were under 18 and that must be incredibly tough. It would, perhaps, have been wiser not to persist in analysing words and definitions as this has clearly upset both you and some people on this thread. Grief is not a competition.
edit typo

I can be pretty melancholy but I just don’t view life that way. Maybe it’s my faith. You can never be an orphan, as you had parents, and you will always be a son or daughter of someone even if they’ve died or you never met them. Similarly you will always be a parent even if your child dies.

I really don't like Mothers day since my dear Mum died. My adult DC and DH try to make the day special for me but I miss my Mum so much more on Mother's day than other days. I lost my Dad as a child and Mum as an adult and both hurt equally.

This thread is giving Keith in a dress shouting 'if I feel like a woman then i am a woman, how dare you tell me how I feel' vibes! Words and definitions not mattering on MN, never thought i'd see the day!

Hopefully not many of us on this thread are true o... sorry i'm having a JK moment, there used to be a word for children who had lost both parents, maybe we can come up with a new one?

Anyway, can someone point me to the single mum threads? I'm not technically a single mum in the true sense of the definition but DH works away a lot so I feel like one, you know?