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Feeling rubbish on birthday

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pinkfeathersandglitter · Today 08:36

I’m not really sure why I’m posting this, I just feel utterly rubbish and want to write it down somewhere to vent because if I tell people in real life I’ll just seem ungrateful.

It’s my birthday today but it’s been an absolutely shit year. We’ve had 2 miscarriages TTC our first and today was test day on our first cycle back trying since the second miscarriage which was of course a BFN. Everyone’s went to so much effort- my friends tried to organise a girls meal out yesterday which I couldn’t face going to, my parents are coming round shortly and are insisting on going for brunch and my partner has organised a lovely evening. I just couldn’t feel less like celebrating. Today just feels like a reminder of how far behind I am and how different the coming year should have been and that’s not to mention the added pressure of being a year older and TTC etc…

I know I’m going to have to plaster on a smile and pretend to have a good day and I truly am grateful for people trying but honestly it just feels all so pointless and it would quite frankly be nice to just not get out of bed and have to face anyone today ☹️

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StrictlyAFemaleFemale · Today 08:43

Oh mate, that does sound quite shit. I think writing today off (as you already have done) and venting on here is probably the best way to get through it. Can you stay in bed tomorrow?

Promisingtree · Today 08:45

Spend the day with people who love you. By your next birthday everything could be very different in your quest to have a baby. But today won't come again. Try to find a little happiness in the moment - and then plan for a day alone tomorrow if you need it to recover!

SowWhatNow · Today 08:47

Happy birthday. Sorry you've had a sh1t year. Have some cake and if you need to step away from others today at any point, do it.

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Gladitsraining · Today 09:06

Happy birthday OP.
So sorry you are going through such a difficult time.
Try and take comfort that people around you care about you. And then try and carve out some time for yourself tomorrow.

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