Anyone up ?

[NellieShoe]

I need support please

I can’t understand what changed in him to be this way.
the person I loved is gone 😭😭
I wish I never trusted him. I gave up my lovely home to move here and buy this with him and I won’t get anywhere as nice as that now. What a fool I am. I’m so embarrassed.

How hurt are you? Do you need to be seen by a doctor? Did he hit you, in which case you should report it to the police, or did you get out of the car when it was moving?

Is the car driveable? How badly is it damaged?

I’m bruised all over and my neck and body feel jarred. I will never forgive him he’s slept soundly all night. The car I haven’t inspected it yet. It’s drivable but probably scuffed and knocked about.

I think a call to woman’s aid is the starting point OP. You need to talk this through with someone. Also take photos of the bruises and screenshots of abusive messages as evidence.

Do you need medical attention?

I would also start gathering important documentation and start planning a life without this abusive man in your life.

If your neck is bruised and jarred you really should get it checked. Do you have anyone in real life who can go with you?

He’s clever he doesn’t abuse me over text which is why I’m so annoyed I didn’t record any of it.
bruising and whiplash at Most. I don’t need to be checked over thanks.

OK, so you are physically relatively unscathed, but that doesn't mean you will be next time.
This is your time to plan your departure. Up your hours at work, put as much money as you can into a private leaving fund. Listen at work for opportunities at other offices that will help you move away while keeping your job.

Make your plans, then when you are ready, tell him it is over and offer him the chance to buy you out of the house.

Ducks in a row time. Give yourself something to look forward to.

That’s great advice if I didn’t work for minimum wage. I cannot afford to live alone even with full time work. I have a new job which should have been a dream. Still basic pay.

The ultimate sign he’s gone out biking. That’s how bothered he is.

He’s a pure narcissist and I couldn’t see it all this time.

Make sure you take photos of your injuries and the damage to your car OP. Now would be a good time to call the police if you feel able to.

I hope you are ok, it sounds like this has been traumatic. Can I ask why your car is ruined? From your earlier description of what happened in the vehicle, he was driving and braking sharply while you were trying to get out? Did he crash?

Well think we hit a barrier and the mirror came off and tires will be fucked and be punched the central column and I was thrashing my arms about hitting the windshield. 😭

He’s been for a bike ride and is now out walking the dog. How can he carry on like nothing happened. ????

This. It still needs to be checked out.

I’ve just had a shower. I’m still shaking all over. Some bruising but a lot of it feels deep. Mainly my arms. I’m so weak. Meanwhile he’s loving life like nothings happened.

I don’t think he’s loving life. You need to take the advice contact women’s aid and stop talking to people on here until you’ve done that.

Please please make sure you are safe. You know in your heart of hearts that this is not, in any way, ok. Please sweetheart- this is the end of the road and it’s time xx

I stayed away from him all yesterday until I popped out for something and he suddenly came and opened the car door as I was about to drive off , which made me jump. Just to say by the way don’t touch the air vents and they are fuckin broken. I think because I left my room he just had to get at me.

Please phone the police.

I have tried live chat with refuge and it threw me out despite me being active. I can’t call them have to go to work