I’ve just been offered a new role. It’s essentially the same job I do now but in a completely different environment, the job titles are the same and the new job salary is about £2500 more per annum.
The difference is I won’t be able to work part time hours, instead I have to work compressed hours and go into the office an additional day. Even with the additional day’s commute I will take home an extra £400 because the hours are compressed rather than reduced. I have a child who is about to start primary school and my husband is fantastic and does more than his fair share of pickups and drop offs but I do all the homework with our eldest. I’m worried working longer hours will make me even more tired and not be able to help with homework and after school activities. Our house is pretty messy at the best of times and we never have enough food in, how will I cope?
Currently my commute is under an hour, one train and very easy but incredibly expensive. The new role’s commute is around £15.00 more, even with the additional day, but will be 80 minutes each way and require three trains in the evening to get back.
I am very miserable in my current role and if I leave I will be the fourth person to leave in as many months. I am pretty low on the totem pole but after being publicly excluded by senior management (I’m being vague intentionally) colleagues have felt comfortable letting me know how miserable they are too. I struggle a bit with my mental health and have deep people pleasing issues and struggle with wanting to be liked. I’m meant to be on Sertraline but I just cannot cope with it, in this heat and it wasn’t working as well as it did when I was young. I’ve been in my current role almost 10 years and I know it quite well. But they’ve started hiring replacement people in my team without any experience because they are confident speakers. I am very much not a confident anything and it feels quite personal. I was nominated for an award at work and the people I work with (to my face) say they enjoy working with me.
The new role is a much smaller team and at the moment I work directly for seven colleagues, this is likely to be around four in the new job. In my current role I have a full time work load but I’m paid as part time. The new manager seems nice and has had a long career in what we do so hopefully I’ll be able to learn from them.
I’m scared to move, my husband thinks we’ll be find but he doesn’t see mess and is an optimist. Does taking the job sound like a good idea?