Abortion

[Kkk17]

Has anyone regretted abortion, i had one 3 years ago and still struggling sometimes i dont want to be here. I was in a toxic relationship with him shouting around the house trying to get him out of my house but started seeing someone else i got pregnant didnt know if it was going to work he had 2 older kids one who is autistic. I have 2 children but my 17 year old said it would be a sp**c child , we dont have any other family support i regret it 3 years on because we would have been a proper family and now we are not..how do i move on from this xx

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A baby wouldn't have made you a "proper family". It would have made a toxic situation even worse. You did the right thing, let go of any guilt.

I got pregnant with the guy who i started seeing not the one who was toxic and im still with him now thats why im struggling because this relationship is a good relathonship and would have made is a complete family xx

Please forgive yourself. And please educate your 17yo about ND children.

I'm sorry that you are regretting it. But what's done is done. At the time it seemed like the right decision, and with your mental state with everything that was going on, it may well have been.

Sometimes I miss my child I never had, but it would have been a really bad decision to have had it then.

No it wouldn’t, it would pile have been totally the wrong environment to bring a child into. You made the best choice that you could at the time, I’d see if there’s any free counselling available in your area as talking through it all could really help

I hope you had a serious word with your 17 year old about his/her language

What a ghastly 17 year old.

You already have a family. Four kids between you. You're not a lion who needs to have a pregnancy with each man.

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