How to enjoy life while waiting for long term plans

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Family of 4 two toddlers and myself and husband are 30 y/o.
My husband has recently bought an existing business which is doing quite well but has a lot of potential.
It’s also involved a very large business loan so we’re not expecting to see real profits from 5years onwards.

We have a good savings net (£50k) and I work part time to be home with the kids mainly.
We are living comfortably not stressed about money BUT I can’t help but feel like we’re living in limbo until the business starts seeing results.

We want to buy our forever home in the future (our current home is small and completely taken over by the toddlers) and have a lot of plans to upgrade our quality of life.
I just want to ask how do I find happiness in the small moments whilst waiting for our big plans to come to life as I know it’s a few years away yet. It’s hard to know whether to focus on saving heavily or allowing myself to treat myself too.

I tell myself that when people make plans, the gods laugh.

Just take pleasure in the lovely everyday stuff, as that is all we have for sure.

I think it’s about counting your blessings, OP.

There are so, so many lonely people out there - you are married m
There are so many couples in infertility hell - you have children
There are people with very sick and disabled children - yours are healthy
There are people who dream of having a home of their own - yours have one.
Etc etc - you get the picture.

How about you make a project of a bit of a ‘Sort Your Life Out’ à la Stacey Solomon. If the house is feeling a bit small, might it help to declutter, organise and put some systems in place?

Re your question about money: I think it’s ‘both’. This is clearly a time to be focussed on your big goals so you don’t want to fritter money away. But on the other hand, five years is far too long to have no treats. Build a small amount of treat money into the budget.

If money’s too tight for holidays, day trips (take a picnic and buy an ice cream there as a treat) can be the next best thing.

Its hard but this time will pass and future you will really be so grateful that you put the effort in to build a solid foundation for your family.

Good luck x