Logistics question - what would you go for?

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We are going round in circles here and can’t agree. And Dh is (as usual!) very sure that his preference is best even though it might not be.

Dd is 16. Competes at a sport at high level. Has a training camp both Saturday and Sunday this weekend at a venue that is 90 minutes away or longer if in traffic. Camp is very important and she needs to be at her best for it.

Finishes at 5:30pm on Saturday. And then has to be back again at 7:30am on Sunday. (Yes - I know!!!)

Options are:-

1. Come home Saturday night. Means she can sleep in her own bed, sorting out food for Sunday is easy, needs less clothing / equipment for each day. But we will get home close to 8pm on Saturday (she has to shower and change after finishing) and then go leave before 6am on Sunday. Joy!
2. Stay overnight in a local hotel. We can afford it. No travelling. Means me and Dh can’t take turns. Food problematic but we are resourceful and used to it and will figure it out. Will have to take all the equipment / clothing at once. It is bloody miserable to have to leave a hotel before breakfast starts although we have a plan for what to eat.
3. A friend of hers who lives about 40 mins away has said she can stay at hers. Parents are nice and we know them well. They will sort out food for her. Concern that it will turn into “super fun sleepover!” rather than serious training camp. But friends parents are pretty decent so hopefully wouldn’t let it. Still travelling and still early start on Sunday. But not as early as 1. This one has the advantage that Dh and I actually get a weekend together. It doesn’t happen very often but trying not to be biased by this!

Which would you do? Dh is convinced that 1 is by far the best. Dd desperately wants 3. I think 3 is probably best but don’t really know.

I assume friend is at same camp? In which case they both need to sleep and I’d go for 3.

Otherwise 1. It’s not that far, she can rest in the car.

Option 3 seems the best, she’s 16 so I’d say shes probably past the “stay up as late as possible” stage of sleepovers & will be able to get some rest, and if not dealing with the consequence will be a learning curve.

option 3 seems good - at 16, your DD can decide when she needs to go to sleep. and you get a peaceful weekend.

I’d have thought 2 was best because none of us like mornings and the idea of travelling 90 minutes before starting at 7.30am Sunday morning tips everything in its favour.

But if your daughter most wants 3, and she’s 16, clearly working hard over the weekend, and you trust the parents, then I don’t see why not that one. Is the friend also at the camp? How would she get back to camp in the morning etc? If the friend is also at the camp then 3 seems a no brainer.

Friend is also at the camp.

Option 2

So with option 3 will they be taking her to the training early Sunday? And have collected her Saturday night? Or are you just dropping her at the friends horse then collecting her which doesn’t make sense.
I don’t understand why food is an issue, surely you pack what you need? Ditto training equipment.

Yes. They are going to and from the camp too.

It is a sport with huge amounts of equipment. Closer to sailing than badminton!

option 3

Hotel.

Since the friend is at the camp, as long as you think they’re sensible, I’d go option 3. She’s 16 not 11, and they both have to be on form the next day. V kind of the other family.

Option 3.

but I can be ultra organised with food & equipment, so taking it all on the Saturday would be guess.

The girls are old enough& apparently serious about their sport, so should be sensible & not tuen it into 'a bid fun sleep over' but I would have words about that ! Invite the friend for a few days over the holidays where they can stay up late.skeep in etc.

option 1 IS THE worst idea IMO

At 16, both serious about vthe sport... id go for 3.
After a full day on the saturday, they will probably not have the energy for shenagians on Saturday night.

option 3, I would snap them up on that offer, as they’re both 16 and at the camp and have I assume competed at high level for a while, they will both know the importance of being on it the next day.

Option 3 as they’re both going to the camp. Otherwise I’d say Option 2.

Surprised anyone thinks Option 1 is the best if there are any other choices.

Thanks everyone. We are going for Option 3! Dd is happy. I’m just relieved my analysis paralysis is over!

Good choice!!

but yeah, often just making A decision is a relief! Dont second guess yourself & organise for option 3.
hope it's a successful camp!!